AIBU - MIL - Cold Sore

[2ndaryInfertilityage30]

For the record I think I am being totally reasonable, however…

MIL has an active cold sore on her lip. She has already passed the virus to my daughter (I know this as she is the only person who repeatedly kissed my daughter with an active cold sore despite me telling her not too, and now my daughter gets them, and they cause her a lot of pain)

My son (3) doesn’t get them (so far, and neither do I or my DH who is her son - she was clearly careful with her own kids) however she keeps kissing my son with an active infection. I’m horrified, my DH keeps telling me he will speak to her. I haven’t spoken to her yet as we are on holiday and quite honestly every time I bring this up she tells me ‘oh it’s just a little one’ to add to this, she is a GP and it makes me feel stupid telling a GP to stop kissing my kids with cold sores as I feel I really shouldn’t have to.

What would you do and aibu?

@2ndaryInfertilityage30

Highlands. I’m livid, feel totally sick to my stomach and am blaming myself entirely. Everyone is right it’s my responsibility to protect him.

Livid? You really don't seem it. Why are you so passive?

I honestly struggle with how you've allowed this to happen to both your children.

It’s been done. She’s been told. She cried which doesn’t make me feel good but I think the tears are designed to make us feel guilty.

I should have done this far sooner. I’m only sorry to my Children and not her (to add, we have had the conversion again and again over the years but she keeps doing this and putting us in this position)

Well done. Who the fuck kisses a child with an active cold sore and cries when told to stop?

Good. No idea why she's crying, you've asked her enough times.

I’d lose my shit with her.

@Doveyouknow

I agree she shouldn't be kissing your son with cold sores. Its likely she did infect your dh when he was younger unless she has had a sudden change of behaviour. I think about 50% of the adult population have had the virus but many are asymptomatic

Yes, this is worth mentioning! Most people who catch the cold sore virus (herpes virus) don’t actually show any symptoms so it’s very possible your DH does have the virus but doesn’t experience outbreaks.

Your MILs behaviour is shocking though and I’m glad you’ve called her out on it

How is a GP so stupid?

Fight this!! Your poor DD!!

She had given your child heroes and is now exposing a second child. As a GP she knows what and how herpes spreads ffs!

I'm still reeling at the fact she is a GP.

Your MIL needs to know about the dangers of neonatal herpes, just in case she’s this cavalier about spreading the virus to other people’s children as well.
My friend’s child died at a few days old from neonatal herpes. It’s incredibly dangerous for young babies.
www.kittarkafoundation.org/