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AIBU?

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Ex wants to sneak back in

34 replies

Juddy2020 · 25/08/2021 00:25

It’s funny how life teaches you lessons if you’re open enough to learn. Lately my ex has been trying to sneak back into my life. It’s like he could sense that I’ve finally moved on now he’s trying to reel me back in. unfortunately for him I’m too far gone now. But not because I’m angry or because I’ve met someone else.
Being the hopeless romantic I am , I fall hard and I trust easily and while that something about me that I love , it used to make getting over someone I love pretty hard. So I kept running back to him every time the beckon me and it was a ridiculous game I was playing but not anymore.
The other night as I lay in bed about to fall asleep my phone lit up with a text. Curiously I picked it up and to see who it was and it was him again, I had dated him for a while on and off and I was totally crazy over him! It has been over a 5 months I had talked to him and he was with someone else. I laid there in the dark staring at the ceiling with my phone pressed between my hands. I tried to reason with myself he was just being friendly and wanted to see how doing was but was I kidding! He’d never treated me as just a friend and it was the middle of the night. I knew this wasn’t a simple friendly text but I still laid there feeling unsure about what to do. That’s when my thought s somehow drifted off to a mental picture of me. A beautiful woman who makes honesty and grace a priority with a beautiful daughter, 2 cats, a small but beautiful apartment and exciting plans to finish grad school and take care of my daughter to my best. I have a beautiful life and I give it to myself because I love myself. A little voice in my head chimed in and said “I choose me “. So I put my phone down and decided from that moment on there was no going back. No more revisiting my past because I’m no longer that woman. I’m happy now and from now I choose me.

OP posts:
sandrablan · 25/08/2021 00:57

It’s pretty common for an ex to come back but before you take him back you have to ask yourself what is it that you want in a relationship now?

HappyDays40 · 25/08/2021 03:06

I don't think OP means to take him back.

GeorgeMichaelBluth · 25/08/2021 03:25

Wel done on choosing you, block him in case you change your mind!

ChickpeaCrunch · 25/08/2021 06:54

Ok, you know you're not being unreasonable?

GoodnightGrandma · 25/08/2021 06:58

If someone is contacting you at night it’s usually for sex or because they’re alone and don’t want to be.
Well done for moving on.

Juddy2020 · 26/08/2021 06:23

@ChickpeaCrunch

Ok, you know you're not being unreasonable?
How ?..
OP posts:
Juddy2020 · 26/08/2021 06:23

@GeorgeMichaelBluth

Wel done on choosing you, block him in case you change your mind!
Thanks
OP posts:
Nipplynoranoo · 26/08/2021 06:28

Are you practicing writing chick lit or something?

GiveMeAUserName123 · 26/08/2021 06:32

The way you write is weird, it’s very noticeable and makes the whole thing unbelievable.

holidaynearlyover · 26/08/2021 07:51

@Nipplynoranoo

Are you practicing writing chick lit or something?
My thoughts too! Reminds me of this free kindle books I read when I can't be bothered but always feel a bit disappointed by the end and wish I'd never bothered as you can always predict the ending!
knittingaddict · 26/08/2021 07:57

I'm afraid that does read like a piece of creative writing and I can't get over that. There have been a few written like this recently and I want it to stop. Many, like me, get sidetracked by the weird style.

ladyface69 · 26/08/2021 07:58

What on earth are you on about? YABU for writing in this way. Who's making honesty and grace a priority? What does that even mean Hmm

Hadjab · 26/08/2021 08:19

I’m sorry, but your writing style is terrible, so much do that I didn’t finish reading the post.

Porcupineintherough · 26/08/2021 08:25

Good. Now block him.

ChickpeaCrunch · 26/08/2021 08:25

@Juddy2020 because you are putting yourself first.

What's the actual issue here? AIBU to not text my ex back? No you are not.

I'm not sure why it needed to be asked in such a dramatic way though.

inigomontoyahwillcox · 26/08/2021 08:33

I'm sorry OP but this does come across as someone's first attempt at writing an airport novel. Makes it difficult to take what you're actually writing about seriously.

Onex · 27/08/2021 18:39

Every day we become come someone new.

esloquehay · 27/08/2021 19:48

I won't be buying the novel based on this excerpt, I'm afraid OP.

holidaynearlyover · 28/08/2021 08:50

@esloquehay

I won't be buying the novel based on this excerpt, I'm afraid OP.
🤣🤣🤣 Written with honesty and grace...
Onex · 29/08/2021 00:16

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TwinsandTrifle · 29/08/2021 00:28

What have I just read? Stop it. Stop it now.

Juddy2020 · 30/08/2021 19:12

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Duchess379 · 31/08/2021 00:14

Is this is a MN novella?? 🤷🏼‍♀️

knittingaddict · 31/08/2021 07:48

Op, you came back and sent a message to the guy on the spam post? Really?

TheRabbitStoleMyHat · 31/08/2021 07:56

Wtf?