DH and I bought a house that needed a lot of renovation work. We completely gutted it and put it back together. DH is a tradesman and is pretty good at most trades.
It took us nearly two years to get the house into a liveable condition so we could move in. The kitchen is in and mostly done, as is the bathroom, we built an extension to it that we’re using as a sitting room, so functionally, everything is okay.
But there is so much left undone and it’s really getting me down. The hall, original sitting room to the house and the utility room are FULL of tools. I have to rearrange saws and drills to get to the washing machine and then rearrange them to get out of the door to hang the washing on the line. The tiling is only half done in the bathroom and we have no bath panel. There are wires sticking out of the walls here there and everywhere. Sockets hanging off. Bits of wood missing everywhere, from door frames and skirtings etc. Nothing is sealed, lights don’t work. Spotlights hanging out of the ceiling. Bare floors and plaster in some rooms. No loft hatch and other holes to the outside and I’m terrified we’ll get the same amount of spiders in the house this Autumn as we had last year because of it.
It’s been like this for 18 months, he’s done a few bits here and there but DH is either working or too tired to do anything. He says he will do things like on a Sunday but he won’t get up to go and get his drill and things, and he gets more and more annoyed at me when I ask and then Guilt trip me about how tired he is.
I have loads of nice decorative bits and pieces like cushions and light fittings and mirrors etc that I can’t get out because nowhere is done.
He won’t let me hire someone to come and finish it off and we couldn’t really afford it anyway because I’ve only just paid off the loans off we had to take out to even get it to this point. I kept trying to rein DH in but he just went so overboard with everything.
I feel like I sound so ungrateful and everyone keeps saying how nice it will be when it’s done, but I don’t think it will ever be done. I also kind of feel like the house is ruined and we’ve taken all the soul and character out of it.
I didn’t want to renovate another house because we did it to the one we had previously and that was never done either but DH talked me into it by promising it wouldn’t be like this again.
I’m at my wits end to the point where I just want to pack my stuff and leave. It makes me depressed and we hardly have clean clothes because it’s such a task to do the washing, the hall is so dusty because I can’t get the vacuum out, I just feel like what’s the point in trying to keep a nice house when it’s just a building site anyway.
I honestly don’t want much, I just want a nice, normal house and life. I don’t want to be constantly living on a building site which I feel like I’ve done the whole of my adult life, since we bought the first one 12 years ago. We’re supposed to be TTC (no kids yet) but I’ve not been because I can’t bear the idea of bringing kids into this and I know it wouldn’t be able to be finished in 9 months.
There are other issues as well that I won’t go into but WIBU to leave over this alone?