Aibu to be annoyed at this comment?

[SausageRollFan]

it's more the principle and what the comment reflects than than the comment itself.

I went to get the washing in from the line and my partner said "I would have got it in if you'd asked me". I just looked at him, told him he's perfectly capable of assessing if the washing needs bringing in himself and I'm not his mum who's here to tell him when to do stuff!

I hit 40 this year and wow people weren't kidding when they said you stop accepting shit when you turn 40 and I've become increasingly feminist to boot. The other day I told my daughter I'd buy her a file to start storing her own paperwork (she's 18 now) and he asked whether that was a step into womanhood and I said "why, because only women file paperwork?"

I'm about to leave his dinner in the oven and when he looks perplexed announce I would have got it out if he'd asked me. There's also no plates to eat off and he hasn't asked me to wash one up so.....

Am I being too harsh?

@HalloHello

Not to be sexist here, although it definitely is...

But men just don't think the same way we do. They're not programmed to think about jobs that need doing, especially if they aren't normally involved in these jobs. I don't know why this is but it's a problem across all my friends and family.

Everything gets done in our house, fairly certain the cat isn’t doing it all.

@SausageRollFan

it's more the principle and what the comment reflects than than the comment itself.

I went to get the washing in from the line and my partner said "I would have got it in if you'd asked me". I just looked at him, told him he's perfectly capable of assessing if the washing needs bringing in himself and I'm not his mum who's here to tell him when to do stuff!

I hit 40 this year and wow people weren't kidding when they said you stop accepting shit when you turn 40 and I've become increasingly feminist to boot. The other day I told my daughter I'd buy her a file to start storing her own paperwork (she's 18 now) and he asked whether that was a step into womanhood and I said "why, because only women file paperwork?"

I'm about to leave his dinner in the oven and when he looks perplexed announce I would have got it out if he'd asked me. There's also no plates to eat off and he hasn't asked me to wash one up so.....

Am I being too harsh?

Play him at his own game, if he doesn’t ask you to do something don’t do it “I would have cooked your dinner if you has asked” etc.

DH: ‘but I cleaned the house for you’ or ‘I did the washing for you’

NO. You did the cleaning. You did the washing. Because it needs doing.

Or. ‘You’ve had a day off’. NO. I had a day of doing unpaid caring and cleaning work.

I could go on.