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AIBU - to say rip currents can get you in shallow water and body boards are actually quite dangerous

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Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 07:17

So whenever I’ve heard about people getting into trouble at the beach I’ve always assumed it was either unsupervised kids or people swimming / surfing in deep water. I never thought anything like that could happen to me and my family because we always stayed in shallow water close to shore. I thought body boarding in the shallows was safe, especially when the tide was coming in, so me and the kids would paddle out to about thigh height, get on our boards and let the waves bring us back to shore. Unfortunately we were doing just that when we got pulled into a rip current and carried out to sea.

Rip currents can travel up to 2m per second and can pull you out the length of a football pitch in the space of 1 minute. You don’t even realise it’s happening until you suddenly see the beach looking very far away.

By the time I realised something was wrong and leapt off my board to test the water depth - I was up to my neck in water. I grabbed the kids and tried to wade back holding them above the water but the current was too strong and just kept pushing us back even further until the water started coming over my head. I had to scream for the kids to swim. Luckily, they are both good swimmers because we’d lost our boards in the panic. The boards should have been attached to our arms but the Velcro straps were rubbish and always came undone.

I swam to get the boards back and managed to grab two of them but by that time my kids had drifted further away. They were swimming on their backs by this point but I found it hard to catch them up and get back to them. The sight of them in the deep open water will haunt me for the rest of my life. Even though it was only a few metres they have never seemed to far away and out of reach. I really didn’t think we were going to make it.

We were incredibly fortunate that day because we had positioned ourselves near a local surf school which had trained life guards working for them and they came to rescue us. If we’d been on a more isolated beach then I dread to think what could have happened. We didn’t see any flags or signs to indicate any danger and we hadn’t managed to spot anything untoward from the shore. The beach we were on only had a voluntary life guard presence at weekends so lots of scope for accidents to happen for people like me not fully understanding the risks.

Prior to this, I’d heard of rip currents but didn’t know how common they were. I also didn’t know that they could pull you out from shallow water or really understand how quickly they could pull you in. (Apparently a rip current on the same beach had previously pulled in a horse and rider cantering along the shoreline). I had also thought body boarding in shallow water with me present was relatively safe. I was very wrong and would hate any other families to make the same mistake. I for one will never get on a body board again but I see so many people using them on social media. So AIBU to highlight that rip currents very much can get you in the shallow water and that body boarding might not be as safe as you think it is?

Please take care x

Have name changed as I haven’t been able to talk about this to anyone in RL yet. Am still too upset but wanted to highlight dangers for others before the bank holiday.

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Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 07:48

We thought we were in a safe area because we were by the surf school and the beach guide we’d looked at said the beach was suitable for swimming and surfing. We hadn’t realised the beach wasn’t fully lifeguarded (though with hindsight - the lack of flags should have told us that) and we’d had no intention of going beyond leg height it was just the rip current that pulled us out. Lessons well and truly learnt but hopefully this will serve as a warning for others. I for one, don’t think I’ll ever be going in the sea again.

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TheSandgroper · 24/08/2021 07:49

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Neolara · 24/08/2021 07:52

We went to South Africa a lot as kids and were taught to be very, very careful in the sea. Too many unpredictable waves and helicopters looking for lost people. Compared to just about everyone else I know, I'm hypervigilant to how deep we are in the sea, the strength of the back swell, and about not taking risks. I think it's very easy for people not to realise the dangers.

actiongirl1978 · 24/08/2021 07:53

OP that sounds awful I am glad you are OK.

We only go to lifeguarded beaches for our bodyboarding and I am brutal about being with DS and making him stay between the flags and respect the lifeguard announcements.

When we was about 2 we were on a beach in Carveiro Portugal, (for those that know, the one you have to walk through the tunnel in the rocks to get to). I was sitting and paddling at the edge holding DS tight as we played at the very edge of the water. A wave came and unseated me, turned me around and pulled me out and then the next wave put me on my back and started sucking me further out. I was screaming through the surf, holding DS above my head without being able to see anything. DH couldn't hear me, another tourist saw and came and pulled us both out. I had never understood how strong the sea could be until that point. I won't go in the sea in Portugal now at all and I don't even like looking at paintings of stormy seascapes as they give me the heebiegeebies!

Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 07:53

Bridgit I had known that rip tides look like a line or break in the waves but we didn’t see that in the day this happened. They are no always easy to spot. Plus I think whilst we were playing in the sea - we’d moved along the shoreline. We started off in an ok position but didn’t realise we’d moved and crossed over into the channel because there’s no obvious way of telling - especially when you’re in the water. We had a few moments of floating and thinking the sea was a bit calmer and wondering where the waves where. Then noticed the shore looked further away. That was the only warning we got and by that time it was already too late.

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ColumboOnTheCase · 24/08/2021 07:53

How utterly terrifying for you glad you’re all ok. Thank you for bringing this to my attention because like you I thought it bodyboarding close to the shore was safe.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 24/08/2021 07:53

A frightening experience OP but hopefully your story will highlight the dangers for others. I have witnessed something similar in the past and the experience means that I can no longer relax on the beach especially where kids are playing in the water on boards and infallibles unsupervised and their parents have their noses in their phone or a book Sad

Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 07:55

actiongirl1978 I’m so sorry you had a scary experience too. I honestly don’t think I’ll ever be able to go near the sea again.

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Veryverycalmnow · 24/08/2021 07:56

That's terrifying! Poor you. Hope you're all recovering well.

smittenkittten · 24/08/2021 07:57

Can’t believe the timing of this thread. This video came up on my newsfeed on FB last night. Very informative, not just the video but the comments too.

Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 07:58

Silverglitterbaubles I know what you mean - I thought it was safer with me being in the water with the kids too but in reality it was just more people to rescue. I hope our experience shows how careful you have to be. I really thought it was safe if you were only shallow. I had no idea it could happen from shallow water too.

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icedcoffees · 24/08/2021 07:59

That's horrible - I'm so glad you're all okay Thanks

Unfortunately the vast vast majority of British beaches aren't lifeguarded. None of our local ones have any kind of regular lifeguard presence at all. I also think the British coastline is pretty dangerous in comparison to the Mediterranean which is what many people are used to swimming in.

Personally I'd never swim in the sea in the UK unless I was accompanied by professionals or there was a lifeguard, and even then I'd be incredibly hesitant Blush

megletthesecond · 24/08/2021 07:59

Gad you are OK.

This is why I only swim on lifeguarded beaches. If there are no flags then there isn't anyone keeping an eye on the sea.

StrangeToSee · 24/08/2021 08:04

That’s sounds terrifying!

Did you try getting everyone to swim sideways? Because most rips are only a couple of metres in diameter, if you paddle sideways you’ll escape the pull and be able to swim back to shore.

My friend got caught in a rip near our local beach (we did warn him but it was a hazy day and not easy to spot the rips, normally you can see them as dark calm streaks in the water). He’s a strong swimmer so we assumed he’d be ok.

We noticed he’d swum out a long way in a short time and was now swimming parallel rather than back to us. Luckily he got out of the rip but got caught in another, so by the time he emerged from the water he was another beach away and couldn’t find us. I had to run to him with a towel as his boxers had been pulled off in the current and he was standing on the beach looking for us, surrounded by lots of shocked families who didn’t expect a naked man to emerge in front of them!

Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 08:09

Icedcoffees We had no intention of swimming in the sea either that day! We only ever swim in pools and I’m the kind of person that always swims by the side just in case. The body boarding we were doing was just from leg height. Just deep enough to float back to shore. I thought that was safe until we were swept away. I really don’t want others to make that mistake x

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Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 08:13

StrangetoSee - yes we were trying to cut across sideways in the direction of the surf school but it was quite disorientating because the rip had pulled us out 200m so we couldn’t even see the shoreline anymore. Plus we were trying to swim on our backs which was less tiring but harder to see where we were going if that makes sense x

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TwooThirty · 24/08/2021 08:20

They look incredibly difficult to spot.

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ILookAtTheFloor · 24/08/2021 08:21

This sounds terrifying. Like others have said, I only let my children bodyboard on lifeguarded beaches between the flags.

Lalliella · 24/08/2021 08:24

Gosh that sounds terrifying.

Thank you for sharing. By doing so, you may well save lives Flowers

DaftVader42 · 24/08/2021 08:25

Good time to mention that the RNLI has a junior section. For £14, you get a welcome pack and 4 magazines a year full of facts and stories about the sea. There’s obviously water safety information - but they make it really fun.

Please do consider joining - my kids loved it, and they now know to do things like chat to lifeguards if at a new beach. Lifeguards will tell you about where the rips are in the beach , rocks to watch out for under the water etc

Becoming a member helps the RNLI with funds and increases your child’s awareness Can only be a good thing ! More funds then more beaches can get lifeguards.

rnli.org/support-us/become-a-member/become-a-storm-force-member

WhathaveIdoneagain · 24/08/2021 08:29

Tilly I am so glad you are all OK. Flowers

DS sometimes surfs on that beach, now I think maybe he shouldn't.

Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 08:29

ILookAtTheFloor absolutely right though if I’m honest, after what’s happened to us, I don’t think we’ll ever go back in the sea - even with lifeguards

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Window1 · 24/08/2021 08:29

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It sounds terrifying. I'm glad you all managed to get yourself to safety.

I feel I could easily put myself in the same situation as you have described.

LynseyLoses · 24/08/2021 08:33

Really scary op. Thanks for sharing. So glad you're alright.

We don't have anything which floats with us in the sea, but reading these responses makes me realise you could still get swept in just standing in the shallows, which is a bit scary. We lived by the coast where I grew up and we were always in the sea. Never considered any of this! Looking back we were pretty lucky none of us ever got hurt.

Tillylovestomatoes · 24/08/2021 08:38

WhathaveIdone I suppose it depends on how competent he is and when he surfs. If he’s surfing when the lifeguards are there or with the surf school who have trained lifeguards working for them then he had people to help if he gets into trouble but I have to admit we won’t be going in the water there again. It’s a beautiful beach but we’ll stick to walking there instead x

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