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To ask about emails you've received, when someone has the same name as you but puts in your email address...

105 replies

TheWristBoundLatexBitch · 24/08/2021 00:13

I've seen about this before, someone with the same name as you accidentally puts your email address down instead of theirs. Usually it's because there is a . involved and missed.

A few months ago I got an email from the police thanking me for my report about a covid breach (I emailed back saying the name was correct but I had not reported anyone).

Now to today. I apparently have purchased and insured a dog in America, I've also signed up for alerts for all missing dogs in the area!!! Again we have the same first name and last name, but I live in the uk and definitely don't own a dog! This is one of them emails that you cannot reply too, and the number is (of course) American. I am not calling America, so the alerts will stay. (I've had 6 emails in the last hour about registering the dog, what dog it is and how I've set these alerts up!

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Audit · 25/08/2021 08:45

I got emails from a police department in the US about progress to find my missing son.

Also emails to join an annual golf tournament in Florida.

spanieleyes · 25/08/2021 08:47

I keep getting payment confirmations from a travel company to one of their employees, I assume she works freelance or something. I have told the company numerous times that they are using the wrong email but one arrives every month without fail.

Lanique · 25/08/2021 08:51

Never, as i think there are only two of us in the world Grin

goldierocks · 25/08/2021 08:51

I've got a catch-all account on my domain so that anyname@ mydomain automatically reaches my inbox.

My domain name is one letter different to a major pharmaceutical company. I get regular complaints about deodorant sprays breaking after a few uses.

I always reply to tell the sender they've made a small mistake with the email address and how to correct it. Some of them are lovely, most never reply at all (not expecting them to).

Unfortunately I've also received abuse from people who are outraged that I've tried to help them!

I've owned my domain name since 2003. The pharmaceutical company changed their name in 2018. I've contacted them about it a few times (email and letter) and they've never responded, so I guess they don't care!

MuchasSmoochas · 25/08/2021 08:55

My email address is .co.uk and there’s a Canadian woman who’s .com. We have become quite friendly over the past 15 years. DH emailed her once with a list of fridge freezers.

Sandinmyknickers · 25/08/2021 08:58

I got one from a real estate agent in a small town in the USA about signing papers and if I could drop them by after my daughters book club that evening...as she was clearly trying to make plans, I wanted to let her know it was the wrong person and the original person hadn't got the message. We had a lovely, reasonably long conversation via email about her family holiday to the UK ten years before and how much she loved scones and cream

CatOfTheLand · 25/08/2021 09:17
  1. WI put my email in their newsletter and asked people to send me jam recipes
  1. Accidentally invited to a hen do holiday abroad by a group of strangers 😂. The other CatOfTheLand paid and pulled out and the organiser emailed me again to ask if I wanted her place because they couldn't change the name on the ticket 😂😂
  1. Someone messaged me on Facebook and told me my dad was dead. Turned out the person they wanted didn't even have the same name spelling as me (as well as looking totally different and being ten years older and from different part of uk). Think Jayne Brown and Jane Bown You'd have thought they'd have checked something like this before sending it!! They were Facebook friends too Confused so not like she had to look her up
TheViewFromTheCheapSeats · 25/08/2021 09:36

I have a long surname that I’ve transliterated into the Roman alphabet (approximate sounds used so even those with the same unusual surname often write it differently in English). It cuts down on emails to the extent I often don’t get my own emails due to typos 😂

MargaretThursday · 25/08/2021 09:40

I don't get any at home, but where I work shares its name with a school, and I've had a few, in some cases confidential, emails meant for them, including a name, dob, class and password for Class Dojo. Shock
Class Dojo was excellent when I contacted them. School, even with data breeches and confidential information has not even responded to my emails, which I am really unimpressed by. I emailed the head who supposedly is the safeguarding lead, so I hope has taken action.

Youcunnyfunt · 25/08/2021 10:08

Yes I've had lots over the years, from one particular person who doesn't know her own email address :D I got all sorts - photos from her friends, her college registration, job rotas, etc.

I did get peed off at one point from the regularity of the emails. I was a bit harsh. She was OK though, and stopped eventually. She was also nice enough to let me have our name on instagram when she got married and changed name! Smile

MrsMonkeyBear · 25/08/2021 10:10

Someone with the same name as my sister emailed her asking to sell her the email address she was using (I think she was offered a £50). The lady in question was about to get married and wanted to set up an email in her new married name but with no numbers etc.

My sister told her to bugger off as she had been using it for 10 years and couldn't be arse with all the admin that went with it.

MemoryGame · 25/08/2021 10:32

I got involved in an email chain for people buying beef direct from the farmer, big group of people discussing how many cows and which bits of cow. It was actually visible on the chain where the name in the email had been changed from sarahjones to sarajones (not actual name), which I would have thought was quite hard to do by hitting reply all.
I politely sent back several, this is Sara, please send to Sarah instead, messages before snapping and sending I'M VEGETARIAN TAKE ME OFF THIS EMAIL CHAIN. Haven't heard from them since, no idea if Sarah got her cow parts in the end.

PrimeraVez · 25/08/2021 11:03

I regularly get emails for someone living on the Isle of Mann with the exact same name as me.

This has included log in details to a portal where I could (but obviously didn’t!) access all of her pay slips etc, her work rosters (so I would know where she was at any time) and most recently, a flurry of correspondence from her solicitor relating to a 200k inheritance!

It amused me at first, now I find it really annoying.

Roselilly36 · 25/08/2021 11:23

Are you sure the email address is incorrect? So many scams phishing etc. Best not to open or respond. I have never received an email by mistake to my email. I have a very uncommon surname though.

igelkott2021 · 25/08/2021 11:27

My husband had this yesterday - received an email which appears to be for someone with the same name in the Channel Islands.

It has been happening for years, but my DH is too polite to say anything.

I'd say something like "not the right Igel. Has never been the right Igel. All these years, and you still can't get your friend's email address right".

However, to be charitable, I think there are some email addresses which the service providers can't distinguish between. So Igel.Kott and IgelKott go to the same email address (or similar like underscore or something).

There was a thread on here recently about it and someone was going to cancel a flight booking that had come to their email!

igelkott2021 · 25/08/2021 11:28

@MuchasSmoochas

My email address is .co.uk and there’s a Canadian woman who’s .com. We have become quite friendly over the past 15 years. DH emailed her once with a list of fridge freezers.
Grin
123344user · 25/08/2021 11:39

Having worked in IT for decades I have the domain myfirstnamemysurname.co.uk registered and so any emails to
[email protected] come through to me.

Someone who clearly had NO IDEA AT ALL about emails was booking passenger assistance at a particular station and giving the email
[email protected] (not real names obvs!!!) .
Very likely this was someone old and vulnerable but it still vexed me, not really so much that they'd done this, but that the organisation hadn't validated the email first.
Good ones let you put in an email, *but then send something to that email, and don't use the email until you've clicked on the 'yes this is me' link in it".
Also there is no standard way of getting in touch with a "noreply@..." address to say NOT ME GUV. Even though this is so common! As shown by this thread.

Yubaba · 25/08/2021 11:42

I’ve had this on and off for the last 2 year with a woman in Scotland, I’ve cancelled loads of her orders and she still keeps doing it!
I managed to find a mobile number for her one one confirmation email so I txt her and told her to sort it out as it was getting ridiculous, turned out her email was wrong on her Apple Pay on her phone, I don’t know how that works though because I also have Apple Pay with the same email address Hmm
I’ve had everything from holiday bookings, online shopping and even when she was buying a house!
The worst was when she’d buy something online then I’d get subscribed to their shitty newsletters.

DynamoKev · 25/08/2021 12:03

@Roselilly36

Are you sure the email address is incorrect? So many scams phishing etc. Best not to open or respond. I have never received an email by mistake to my email. I have a very uncommon surname though.
My last name is the 101,700th most common - there are apparently only about 4500 of us world wide. Unfortunately my namesakes in Australia and the USA are too dense to understand e-mail.

I have potentially much more I could use for a phising attack on them than they will ever have on me.

Hoppinggreen · 25/08/2021 12:06

My 80 year old Mum got an email confirming the finance she had taken out for her boob job.

DynamoKev · 25/08/2021 12:08

I've been surprised and disappointed by how ignorant and even unpleasant people can be when it is politely pointed out to them that they are using the wrong email address. On twat (a supposed IT bod in a charity who incorrectly sent me thanks for donation I hadn't made) spent ages patronisingly trying to "explain" how it wasn't the wrong address because of the way gmail works. He was wrong.

beautifullymad · 25/08/2021 12:52

We had this for years and years. We have quite a brief and unique email address as we were the first on the list when Apple released decades ago.

A lady in America is convinced it's her account and gives it to everyone , banking, flights, hotel reservations, house purchase, nights out with friends, anything!

For a few years, we patiently tried to contact the source and let them know. We emailed her friends and her bank. But after years it wears you down.

She didn't stop using our address. We must have had a large chunk of her emails. So in the end in total frustration we stated to change hotel bookings and flights and generally be as disruptive as possible.

Suddenly she stopped using our email for about 18 months ish then it gradually started up again.

We repeated the process and up until now, 4 years later she's not used it again. I'm hoping she's found herself a completely different email. One she can remember.

WTF0ver · 25/08/2021 12:59

DH gets a lot of these for various people. Most notable was information on child support money due for some guy in America's various children (around 8 I think). There was a list showing how much was owed per child each month. He gets pissed off at the constant emails. He replies and says it's not for him but they still contact him.

LovelaceBiggWither · 25/08/2021 13:19

A wedding quote from a French florist which sounded glorious.

And some stupid bint's bank statements for years and years.

NothingIsWrong · 25/08/2021 15:51

I was very tempted to go on one holiday booking I got, I had ID in the right name and everything.

Punchline was going to be (assuming she turned up at the same time and there was a row) "look, I've got the email confirmation, so CLEARLY you are just trying it on..."