When did you first leave your baby/ child overnight ?

[strugglingmummy2021]

Just that really.

Not done it yet and my son is 24 months. I imagine it will be when I have a hen do abroad next May. He’ll be a month shy of 3 and I’ll leave him with my DH for the weekend.

Also left the oldest with my parents for a month when she was 2 so me and dh could go away for work. We earned 3k for that month so was worth it

About 2 for eldest and around 15 months for youngest.

About 7 months when DH and I went to a wedding and with my parents. It wasn’t really an issue for any of us.

Dc1 - aged three, when poorly in hospital

Dc2 - almost one, with grandparent, when dc1 was in hospital.

After that, not until year six school trip, apart from maybe sleepovers at friends house.

@strugglingmummy2021 my DD stayed with my in laws when we went into hospital to have DS, DD was 13 months at the time. Though she never stayed over night prior to us going into hospital, we sent her to their house a few times in the weeks leading up to my due date for her afternoon nap so she got used to falling asleep with grandma and grandad putting her down and not mummy or daddy, and in a different environment. She had no issues when the time came and MIL said she went straight to bed and slept through. I think if they do the same routine you would usually do at home, that helps too. Might be something to try with you LO.

6 months. I went into hospital for an operation and left her with my husband and she was absolutely fine. I was mix feeding and she happily took a bottle if I wasn’t there (I had been to many hospital appointments I couldn’t take her to). She was in a good routine and I wasn’t worried about leaving her although I missed her very much. When people say they couldn’t leave their baby I say well you could if you had to, and you and the baby would both be ok. Although I wouldn’t wish what I went through on anybody (a first year in and out of hospital) it meant I had to become comfortable leaving my baby with my husband (and my mum) and she was so easy and comfortable and very happy. My husband and I went to a wedding in Scotland when DD was 18 months and left her with my mum for 3 nights. I was a bit anxious about being a longer distance and for so long but she loved it and is still very close to Grandma! Go and enjoy the wedding.

2 weeks old with both of mine

We didn't leave DS1 with someone else overnight (we both individually went away a few times, but leaving him with the other one) until he was 2.5 and I was in labour with DS2 - but that was because of Covid, we had our first weekend away just the two of us all planned for when he was 20 months but for what turned out to be the first weekend of the first lockdown... I was very nervous about leaving him but he loved it and asked to go back to sleep at nana and grandad's again the next day! We're going to a wedding next year when DS2 will be 14 months and planning to leave the two of them with grandparents for the first time then (DS1 has since stayed over again, due to his insistence!)

Wow really interested in this. Have never left all DC without either one of us. Left elder two at Ps overnight for an event but took baby. Can't see any chance we would be able to do that again our with all three DC. It's a regular fantasy though !

6 weeks, 7 months and 4 years. None of those is wrong.

I have also looked after several young babies, children of my friends, overnight. The youngest was nine weeks, breastfeeding and cosleeping. He was fine. I was fine. His parents had a very long sleep. I often offer to take friends’ children for the night when they are feeling ragged, often when there are several DC and the grandparents can’t/won’t help. But also because I will genuinely look after the DC in exactly the method the parents ask me to with no expectations or inserting my own agenda - close family relationships can be fraught with such issues. I’m lucky enough to have been trusted with many DC and they have all been just fine.

I left my son when he was 2 months old to go to Creamfields (2 nights).

Not gonna lie, I lmost bottled it (and I cried when I got there 😄) but was absolutely fine after a few drinks 👍 My husband also enjoyed the 1-1 time with our son as well.
Totally worth it, I had an amazing weekend!

You can't ask this of others as everyone is different!

If you don't want to do it, you don't have to.
If you do want to do it, it will be fine.

@strugglingmummy2021

Mine is 19 months and I need to go to a wedding. It's getting closer and I'm getting more worried and nervous about it. Would absolutely not choose to do it, but can't cancel this wedding. How are they at this age ? Will they cry and miss us or just not care ? I have no idea. Have only left for a few hours so far. Never this long or over night.

We left Ds at 3 months for a night. We left him for 2 weeks age 20 months. He was fine both times with grandparents.

My dd stayed with my dm overnight when she was only a couple of weeks old as I was ill, but she was familiar with her as she'd seen her daily. I left the younger dc with dm at 18 months old for a week, she stayed at our house and they were fine.

@lannistunut

You can't ask this of others as everyone is different!

If you don't want to do it, you don't have to.
If you do want to do it, it will be fine.

Yes it's true ! I would prefer not to do it yet. But have this wedding which we've agreed to BOTH go to. So I'll have to suck it up.

When he was four weeks old but in all fairness my dad had just died.

Quite early on as I worked shifts and her grandparents only live around the corner. Maybe 18m-2Y?

My DD was 18 months, left her for one night and then another night when she was just over 2. We’d planned to leave her sooner but covid ruined our plans! She stayed with my mum, she cried for about 30 seconds after we left, as she often does when my mum babysits and then was fine after that. My mum followed her routine and she slept through and was fine.

We left DD at 15 months with her grandma - who she loves but doesn’t spend that much time with. It was fine - she slept through the night. Didn’t cry for me despite being an extremely clingy, still breastfed child. DH and I had such a lovely time being away too. Would have done it again but Covid has been an issue.

I would prefer not to do it yet. But have this wedding which we've agreed to BOTH go to. So I'll have to suck it up.

No, you really don't have to. One of you can stay behind. Or not. But you do have a choice.

When he'd been reliably sleeping through the night for a while and we had a wedding to go to at 14 months. Mil stayed at our house with him and we stayed in a hotel.
Ds2 is only 8.5 months so haven't left him yet.

With both of mine it was between 18 months - 2 yrs

6 months with my mum

She was about 2 maybe? We just didn't really have a red before then