So I’ve been living with my new partner for 9 months now.
He has had his ex Mother and Father inlaw over twice for coffee both times making me feel uncomfortable in my home. I held my tongue and kept my peace.
Recently however my partner told me that he used to absolutely adore his ex wife (which made my heart twinge I won’t lie.) After this statement he called me by her name a few times and didn’t notice he did it. I said nothing as I wasn’t sure what to say really.
Not long after this his ex sister in-law invited herself to our home to have a nosey and for the cousins to see eachother. At this point I spoke up and asked why the cousins can’t all see eachother when his kids are at their mums as she is his ex sister laws actual sister after all. My partner stated that he couldn’t see why I had issue with them coming here. I explained that I felt uncomfortable with his ex wife’s sister coming to what is OUR home in which I and my children live and why can’t they even go to her house? My kids felt like they would have to hide away in their rooms. He could still not understand why I would be uncomfortable. Anyway the day came and I stated that I would go to my mums when they were here and he said that he really wanted me there. So after a bit of debate I said I would suck it up put a smile on and be pleasant when they were here. He called me sarcastic. I grabbed my shoes and said I was going for a walk. He said maybe you should.
Anyway they came I wasn’t there but I’m still a bit sore about how I was not considered when he made the plans, he could not see why I was upset and that he called me sarcastic when I said I would play ball.
The question is do I have a right to be sore about this or should I have kept my mouth shut in the first place?