To think leaving an 11 year old

[busybee12three]

Home alone til midnight is unacceptable ?

My child is nearly 11. No way. He usually still shouts if he wakes up in the night. He'd be frightened. He sometimes gets left for 45 minutes to an hour, during the day, if I need to go to doctors or something. He's also dead to the world when he is asleep - he wouldn't hear someone breaking in for instance. Please ring social services - she'll deny it, but it might be one more call, building up a picture of neglect.

I have a very mature 11, nearly 12 year old and this would be an absolute no from me.

He is very happy to be left for short 1-2 hour periods during the day (i.e. me taking younger sibling to an activity whilst he stay at home with no-one else in the house). And I think for an evening emergency, as a one-off, he'd be very sensible and deal with being home alone but I think he would secretly be scared and unsettled.

It sounds as if this parent is either struggling or bordering on neglectful and either way YANBU at all to be concerned.