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What would you make of this comment?

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Bunny93 · 20/08/2021 22:05

This is pathetic but here we go...

So speaking with my BF on WhatsApp, I asked him what he's up to this evening. He said 'watching football and speaking with my favourite woman in the world (after my Grandma)'.

I don't know why but this comment just seems so weird to me. He usually leaves out the grandma part and they have an amazing bond but they are not close. They haven't seen each other for 4/5 years and haven't spoken since either. I don't know where this came from or why he felt the need to bracket this extra info, its odd.

It would be like me saying, 'speaking with my favourite man in the whole world (after my dad, my grandad, my other grandad, my brother, my son, my cousin and my postman)'.

I know I am being ridiculous but would anyone else be bothered by this also?

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MattHancocksSexTape · 20/08/2021 22:06

Nope.

DismantledKing · 20/08/2021 22:06
Hmm
GingerBrod · 20/08/2021 22:07

Maybe he's been thinking about, or speaking to, his grandmother?

DysmalRadius · 20/08/2021 22:08

No - just a lighthearted comment, but if it's made you feel insecure, then it's probably worth asking yourself why. Does he often add caveats to his compliments?

54321nought · 20/08/2021 22:08

yep, you said it, you are being pathetic and ridiculous

Brollypackedforscottishholiday · 20/08/2021 22:09

Amazing bond but hasn't bothered with her during a pandemic? Are you sure he is nice?

pilates · 20/08/2021 22:09

No

AphroditeGoddessOfLove · 20/08/2021 22:10

You're being ridiculous

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 20/08/2021 22:10

Sounds like a lighthearted comment to me. Not worth a second thought 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mrstamborineman · 20/08/2021 22:12

I don’t get it. Who is the woman before his grandma?

SofaSpuds · 20/08/2021 22:16

@Mrstamborineman

I don’t get it. Who is the woman before his grandma?
Presumably the OP.

I think it's harmless.

VainAbigail · 20/08/2021 22:17

they have an amazing bond but they are not close. They haven't seen each other for 4/5 years and haven't spoken since either

This doesn’t make any sense at all.

Bluntness100 · 20/08/2021 22:18

No it’s just a light hearted comment, I don’t get your issue? Are you jealous and want to be the favourite woman?

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Bunny93 · 20/08/2021 22:19

I just found it a really weird thing to add in thats all. But inaccept I am being ridiculous and needed a reality check 😂

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LawnFever · 20/08/2021 22:20

@VainAbigail

they have an amazing bond but they are not close. They haven't seen each other for 4/5 years and haven't spoken since either

This doesn’t make any sense at all.

I agree, that’s no bond whatsoever.

It’s a harmless joke, but only a bit weird in the context that he’s convinced you he has an amazing bond with his grandmother who he’s not seen in half a decade.

Mintlegs · 20/08/2021 22:20

Nope, take no notice’

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Bunny93 · 20/08/2021 22:24

He lives in a different country to his Grandma and works three jobs so its quite hard for him to get time off to go and see her and she is frightened of flying so does not come here, but he does love her. Covid has also been an issue last year and this year.

Maybe I shouldn't have said 'amazing bond' but I was trying to get across that even though he doesn't see her he still cares and has love for her. I just thought it was relevant because it isn't like he just came back from her house after having a 3 course dinner and £10 slipped in to his pocket, so just seemed so weird he said it.

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messybun101 · 20/08/2021 22:24

It's lighthearted and harmless yes but it's also pointless and a bit odd
I think anyway. I'd be a bit like Hmm ok...

Cottagepieandpeas · 20/08/2021 22:24

I don’t understand the ‘amazing bond’ but never see or speak to each other.
Is it a psychic bond?

idontlikealdi · 20/08/2021 22:27

It's a throw away comment.

Peach01 · 20/08/2021 22:27

No try not to overthink it. Maybe she's been on his mind so he felt guilty not saying, maybe he misses her, who knows. Don't think it's an issue. It's his Grandma.

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Bunny93 · 20/08/2021 22:28

I was the same. I didn't say anything but was like ??? This is a strange thing to say 🤔

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Frazzledmummy123 · 20/08/2021 22:29

What is bothering you the most? Is it because he isn't close to his grandma and you find it odd to refer to her in the same sentence as a lovely thing about you?

If yes, I guess if they aren't particularly close it does seem a bit odd however it isn't something I would let bother you. It could be that he said grandma simply because he considers her the closest female relative, and the fact she is a relative he has known all his life that is why he said it perhaps as an affectionate joke?

Or, are you feeling insecure as they aren't close and you think this indicates how he feels about you in a negative light? I doubt that, and as above, I think it was just a harmless comment which was meant in an affectionate way. I would put it out your head, I doubt there is anything to worry about.

Blueeilidh · 20/08/2021 22:30

Just sounds like his grandmother is in his thoughts tonight, there could be any number of reasons for this.

messybun101 · 20/08/2021 22:32

Not that there is anything wrong with what he said as it is probably the truth. You probably are the second favourite woman in his life after his gran but... why say it?
I just think it's a pointless comment but I might be being a bit bitchy. It would raise my eyebrow in confusion when I opened the message though