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Duvet/bed day with my 3 year old..

42 replies

Shazzledazzle9 · 20/08/2021 21:37

Would it be unreasonable to have a duvet/bed day with my little girl tomorrow.. I'm a single, full time working parent. Saturdays we usually spend doing errands, I.e. Weekend food shop etc.. But I did all of that today as I only worked half day.. We have plans on Sunday. Don't feel like doing something for the sake of something.. And have no reason to go out tomorrow.. Was thinking after we get up, shower etc and put fresh pj's on and just watch films and have snacks. Never ever done it before, usually always out doing something.. Feels a bit lazy to waste the day but don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not. She's very loving and still loves lots of cuddles with mummy.. I don't give her much screen time normally as she's at nursery all week and we are usually out at the weekends.
Anyone else have bed/duvet days with your kids? :)

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Planetsandstars · 20/08/2021 21:39

Sounds like a lovely way to spend a few hours but if I’m honest I think a full day would be dull for you both!

HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 20/08/2021 21:40

Do it. We do 3very now and then, but be prepared for your DD not having a long enough attention span for a whole movie.

We just do PJ days, lots of short shows of films in fits and starts, snack style meals, hot chocolate, popcorn, bits of crafts, maybe some baking. General loafing around.

PoppenhuisStories · 20/08/2021 21:42

I’m not opposed to it in principle, but you will probably find 3 too young. My 5 year old won’t do that all day, but will happily spend a morning or afternoon. Give it a go but be prepared to do something in the afternoon!

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 20/08/2021 21:49

@PoppenhuisStories

I’m not opposed to it in principle, but you will probably find 3 too young. My 5 year old won’t do that all day, but will happily spend a morning or afternoon. Give it a go but be prepared to do something in the afternoon!
This I think, some fresh air and a walk stops them bouncing off the ceiling with energy right at the end of the day!

Go out and have a hot chocolate and a big biscuit? 😉

MotorwayDiva · 20/08/2021 21:50

Did our first duvet day when DD was unwell at 5, she loved it and asks for one when she's had a busy week. But we tend to break it up by watching a movie then either playing a game or doing some baking. It's a lovely relaxing way to spend the day together x

nc8765 · 20/08/2021 21:52

Sounds perfect. You might find, at 3, she'll get restless after a couple of hours though.

TeachesOfPeaches · 20/08/2021 21:55

I'm a single full time working parent of a 5 year old and my son has demanded a stay in all day duvet day with his iPad, toys, tv and snacks. We all need a rest - enjoy

Jasmine11 · 20/08/2021 21:55

Sounds lovely. I'd suggest going out for a couple of hours in the morning through to get some fresh air and burn off some energy then get in PJs when you get home and have a cosy day in from that point. Have a great time :)

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 20/08/2021 21:56

With a 3yr old??? Good luck with that one- unless your child is sick I don’t know any 3yr old that wants to snuggle in bed all day.

iloverunningslow · 20/08/2021 22:00

It sounds awful to me, where's the fresh air and exercise? Won't you both be going crazy by lunchtime?
Maybe it's just my upbringing but I was always taught only sick people wear night clothes after getting up in the morning, so pyjamas as daywear would make me feel unwell by association!
I suppose you can always change your mind if you start and one of you doesn't like it though so it doesn't really matter.
What about having a 'yes' day where you let her make the plans?

babouchette · 20/08/2021 22:04

Honestly? My toddler would be bouncing off the walls after a couple of hours and the rest of the day would be a nightmare. I don't think there's any reason not to do it apart from that, but that is a big enough reason for me!

Goldbar · 20/08/2021 22:06

I'd take her out in the morning and wear her out and then have a lazy afternoon.

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Shazzledazzle9 · 20/08/2021 22:11

Yes, my upbringing also taught me that pj's in the day time means being ill.. But it's just nice to have a lazy day every so often. She gets fresh air and exercise every single day. We're off to an adventure play type place on the Sunday with her best friend and mum which will be a very active day. Just figured it might be nice to have a pj's day but I get what people are saying about good luck with a 3 year old.

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MrsTumbletap · 20/08/2021 22:12

I love doing that with my DS, snacks, coffee and hot choc in bed, films, cuddles bliss!!

Steelesauce · 20/08/2021 22:12

Its absolutely fine. Id have a slow morning then see how I felt. You might fancy a walk or the park later on.

godmum56 · 20/08/2021 22:14

it sounds lovely but be prepared to change plan

Capricornandproud · 20/08/2021 22:14

Go for it!!!

Crowtooyo · 20/08/2021 22:17

Honestly i think it does kids good not to be doing stuff all the time. If you fancy a lazy day and she gets bored by the afternoon, you could always set up some toys in tbe lounge and pop the TV on for yourself. They really don't need adult attention all of the time.. it won't harm her for a day.

JRKismyhero · 20/08/2021 22:19

My dd loved a PJ day. Sofa, snacks and films always kept her happy.

MindyStClaire · 20/08/2021 22:19

I love a duvet day but my three year old would be an undertired, under exercised, understimilated nightmare by late afternoon unfortunately. Maybe in a couple of years.

MindyStClaire · 20/08/2021 22:20

I think she could do a lazy morning and then a trip to the park after lunch though.

Bookaholic73 · 20/08/2021 22:21

Sounds absolutely great to me. I’m sure your little one will love it too!

Nutsabouttopic · 20/08/2021 22:23

I think it sounds lovely. I did this sometimes when my girls were small and it was the end of a busy week or the start of one. You need a break too. Parenting on your own is hard going. Children need to learn that they don't always have to be on the go or to be entertained, most children love spending time relaxing at home. Hope you have a lovely chill day

Lindtnotlint · 20/08/2021 22:26

I don’t understand the bit about showering and changing Pjs first but otherwise sounds great. Agree it will probably only last till lunch time before she wants to “do something” but that’s no problem.

Wineat5isfine · 20/08/2021 22:33

Sounds perfect!! The weather is supposed to be hideous tmrw…so we are having a pj day. Board games / films…hot chocolate and popcorn.

My two love these kind of days. (Although much please than your DD).

Hope you have fun!