Hating parenting toddler

[IsitjustmeAmIalone]

Also have a baby.
There are extreme cults that allow you to meet more of your physical and psychological needs and allow you to keep your sense of self more intact than this.
Why don't I matter anymore? How is it acceptable to never be able to have what you need for yourself?
Am I wrong? Is it just me?

@hocusspocuss

Parents of kids with profound and complex SEN are pretty much stuck in that mode for the rest of their kids' lives so just digest that for a moment.

My DS 2.5 has complex additional needs, but I totally appreciate other people struggle with their toddlers & I actually find it comforting to read that others face challenges too, it's not just me.

Struggling with life isn't reserved for a few of us

It's hard. I can only say that getting mine into a bedtime routine and finally sleeping through the night was a godsend (appreciate this isn't possible for everyone). Just those few child-free hours before bed is very restorative.

Sympathy OP. It's the baby that would send me off the deep end. Quite like being a toddler parent, but I hated the baby stage so much I went back from maternity leave early.

'Meanwhile my 4 year old has just come back from nursery. He's chilling on the sofa with his water bottle being as good as gold. He used to be a little tornado too. I am clinging to this knowledge that this too shall pass.'

Has 4 year old not started backchatting yet? I'm finding dealing with getting 4 yo to behave himself really challenging. Still prefer him at this age to toddler age though but then he was a kamikaze toddler.

Oh but I really enjoy reassembling the entire house every hour. Went to cook dinner and they’ve hidden the central part of the front gas ring somewhere 😩

I sympathise OP. My personal experience has been that my little boy was largely sweetness and light until the clock struck midnight on his second birthday. That was two months ago and whilst he’s very cute I now wonder whether I should send for an exorcist most days.

The most hilarious part is that we conceived another one 5 months ago, before we knew what was coming and back when we thought we found it easy because we were just really good at parenting. Being pregnant and dealing with this miniature despot isn’t much fun and I’m under no illusions that it’ll be easier with a baby in tow.

These threads are never in bloody Active when you’re merrily getting pregnant with number two 😬

DS is energetic and can be difficult, he dropped his nap at 2.5 so the days are long, but he's funny and his energy and good spirits are infectious and he says the loveliest things and it's very affectionate. I don't also have a baby though, that's probably the tipping point.

Teenagers are 6 foot toddlers with bad skin. Enjoy strapping them in the pushchair whilst you can.

@cjpark

Teenagers are 6 foot toddlers with bad skin. Enjoy strapping them in the pushchair whilst you can.

Don't know about anyone else's but there are some days I'm sure if have more luck strapping a 6ft teen into the pushchair than the tiny not even 2 year old it's intended for.

Try parenting toddler twins 😩 there are days when I just want to hide. Apparently things improve by the age of 4 🤞🏻🤞🏻

I adore my DD but she can be a massive PITA! We’re going through the ‘throwing stuff when overtired’ and ‘No!’ stages at the moment. Both delightful. Oh and the waking up at 1am for 3 hours, that’s fun! Throw in a 3 week old baby and life is complete!

I do hope it gets better…you’re not alone OP!

Youngest is now 5 but I traumatised by how hard the toddler years were. It will pass, take it one day at a time. She killed my desire for another baby.

I have 6 dc

Youngest two are currently 3 and 1
It’s horrific . 3 y o has asd and baby is hard work

Currently my biggest issue is stomachaches as I’m not getting the chance to go to the toilet when I need to

My nearly 3 Yr old sort of squares up toe by lifting his top up and showing his chest. Cave man lol

The hitting mum phase has slowly eased up. The waking in middle of the night and having a tantrum has eased. I got sick of of him throwing things so I've put away most things. Though he kicked off at me this morning for saying good morning. It all passes eventually.

I'm due a baby next week.

To me* not toe ffs

It gets better when they start school.

I have never forgotten how awful it all was. I never had a second child as DD didn’t sleep until she was 4.5. She was a lunatic but she’s quite normal now and no one believes me that I was the parent of a rabid drunk on a bender
I tell myself the crazy behaviour and inability to sleep is a sign of intelligence

Finally met up with my friends today at a park. Various ages of kids ranging from 15 down to 3months. Older kids went off to play on the park no problem. 2 of the toddlers continuously argued over 2 sticks despite the park being covered in sticks. 3 year old then became inconsolable because her gm (my friend) couldn't magic up a bouncy castle there and then. Was hilarious for me but I shudder at the memory of mine that age 🤣

Read all the thread and took comfort in your stories and advice for OP.

My youngest, just turned 2, is what some may call 'energetic'. She is a different breed to what I know. My eldest was nothing like this one. NOTHING.
I fear for her constantly, she is wreckless and has me on edge 24/7.
I love her unconditionally but my word, she has been sent to test me. One day I hope to really enjoy her and enjoy the time we spend together- once she stops throwing tantrums, screaming the second I move an inch from her side and hurting her older sister the moment she's within arms reach 😳

I have a 4 and 7 year old, just want to let you know that it does get better. I struggled immensely ...just keep taking deep breaths and counting to 10, you will get through it!! Xxx

I would happily have swopped my toddlers for any other age of child. It was the pits and I hated it.

It passes thank god, they don’t remember if you were crap or a goddess, and frankly if I had to do it again they’d spend a year in front of the TV in their PJs with an inexhaustible supply of chicken nuggets and damn the consequences.

Nope you are correct. I got pregnant just before my 1st hit toddler stage, definatley would have had a bigger age gap had I known the hell I was about to get into. 2nd is now well and truly into it!! 1st is getting better (she's 4) so there is light at the end of the shitty tunnel.

I often wonder if I should have another and then I remember they will also go through this stage!!

Op you do matter, it is hard!! Take each day as it comes and make sure you take any help you can get. Even if it's someone taking them out so you can get a cuppa.

I’m in the hell hole too. A 16 week old and a toddler about to turn two. Husband works away and there’s no support around me. It’s relentless around the clock 24/7 with no spare minute to even piss.

It’s definitely the combination. I could handle either one perfectly on their own. But both of them is hard hard work and I’m only getting by with the hope that it will be better one day.

Having two so young isn’t double the work of 1 like I thought it would be, it’s 1000 times the work. And I have quite an easy going toddler!

The better days will come.