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To not want to give my 13 year old the moderna vaccination

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Letshaveablackcelebration · 18/08/2021 06:18

I am normally pro- vaccination and I am double vaxxed myself. I had the moderna jab too and had a dreadful reaction to the 2nd jab- I was ill for 10 days and off work.

I see that Moderna has been approved for 12 -18 year olds but I really don’t want my 13 year old to have it, especially after the nasty reaction I had to it. I don’t think that I want my teenager to have any of the covid jabs actually and I am surprised that I feel this way. I think it’s because I was so ill- it’s made me really worried.

Aibu? My kids are both fully vaxxed with all their childhood jabs so I am surprised at myself for feeling so strongly about this.

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ineedaholidaynow · 18/08/2021 13:46

@Toty but someone’s children had to be the first ones to have the HPV vaccine to have the data 20 years later

gamerchick · 18/08/2021 13:48

Then kids wouldn't be getting a vaccination they don't particularly need.
I wouldn't lose much sleep over it tbh

No sleep lost here. Luckily it's not down to the anti vaccine types and their tired trotted out lines they've picked up from 'doing research' on YouTube.

I don't care if people vaccinate their kids or not.

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 18/08/2021 13:58

@ElderflowerRose
Clearly, only females can get pregnant so vaccinating baby boys for rubella isn’t going to benefit them.

Rubella can cause infertility in men. So yes, there is a benefit to vaccinating boys.

Steakandcheeseplease · 18/08/2021 14:03

@sharksarecool

On terms of decision-making around thd jab, there are 2 issues:
  1. Is it safe?
  2. Is it necessary?

The answer to 1 is that it's probably safe. There have been no issues that have arisen so far. But on the otger hand, A-Z was safe for under 30s, and thalidomide was safe for pregnant women...until they weren't.

For me, the bigger issue is 2. Most 13 year olds are unlikely to get ill from covid. They are not being offered the jab to protect themselves, they are being offered it to protect the older generations. I dont know of any other childhood immunisation which is given to a child with the primary purpose of benefitting adults. I am not comfortable with it.

Yes I do, The swine flu vaccination which caused a number of children to develop narcolepsy. One boy in particular had it to protect his grandad as he couldn't have it, the boy now can't drive a car, hold a job ect.. There is so much information about this available yet people seem to have forgotten in the madness and it was only a decade ago. The Government fought them tooth and nail not to pay out any compensation - dragging them to EU high courts three times. they won in the end and got a settlement bit it took 12 years, they have only just paid them out recently. I'm sure those parents of the kids will not be a bit advocate of pushing the vaccine on kids who don't actually need it.

I've had both Jabs and was completely fine after both. My kids have had all the other vaccines and even the normal winter flu one - as flu is actually dangerous to kids. But they will not be having the Covid one and before any one starts saying they have a choice, no they don't they are 8 & 5

secular39 · 18/08/2021 14:04

I wouldn't give them any Covid vaccination. But then I realised that your kids are already vaccinated... so you light as well shrug

secular39 · 18/08/2021 14:06

Sorry re-read your post. Your kids have not had their Covid vaccinations. Yes don't do it. Your not being unreasonable. I wouldn't give it to my children. I was very very sick when I had mine, don't want my kids to go through that. Not only that, I don't think kids need it necessarily.

Starlightstarbright1 · 18/08/2021 14:08

Are you in the UK ?

If so it is currently irrelevant

PhoenixFreesias · 18/08/2021 14:09

At 13, she gets a say, a say that has the sway.

Steakandcheeseplease · 18/08/2021 14:12

@gamerchick

I’ll wait until such time when these have been tested well on children

Heh, this made me properly laugh. Other people's kids are ok, just not your own Grin

Imagine if everyone took that approach.

Well you always get Turkeys voting for Christmas I suppose.

If a parent feels they are happy to put their children forward that's between them and the child.

If I choose not to give my kids a vaccine that is only licenced for emergency use and is still in the very very early days of data coming back and it will take months, then that's between me and my kids.

I'm sure the parents of the kids that developed narcolepsy because of the swine flu vaccination feel very differently now.

Confused102 · 18/08/2021 14:14

Not only that, I don't think kids need it necessarily.

Really? I'm not in the UK, and 2 children aged 9 and 11 have just passed on this week. Utterly tragic. Children here are filling up intensive care wards. My dc is so young, but as soon as it's available I will ensure they get the vaccine.

Maharajah20 · 18/08/2021 14:33

My 26 and 21 DC had Moderna. 21yr old fine on both. Sore arm and a bit feverish for a day but nothing paracetamol didn’t fix. 26 yr old nothing first jab one day off work after second. Pfizer given to middle son no symptoms.
Friends husband no jab (working abroad) came home, caught covid and died a few weeks ago. Late 40s fit and healthy. I’m sure he would gladly have taken 10 days of feeling rough in exchange for 30/40 years more with his family.

Jorrris · 18/08/2021 14:34

Really? I'm not in the UK, and 2 children aged 9 and 11 have just passed on this week. Utterly tragic. Children here are filling up intensive care wards.

Goodness. Where are you then?

Chloemol · 18/08/2021 14:41

Then dint get it for him, however don’t then moan when he catches it and is really really ill

Imagine, you felt rough having the jab, how rough would it have been without it?

Shitfuckcommaetc · 18/08/2021 15:55

@Jorrris

Really? I'm not in the UK, and 2 children aged 9 and 11 have just passed on this week. Utterly tragic. Children here are filling up intensive care wards.

Goodness. Where are you then?

Under a bridge most probably
gamerchick · 18/08/2021 16:00

f I choose not to give my kids a vaccine that is only licenced for emergency use and is still in the very very early days of data coming back and it will take months, then that's between me and my kids

Like I said, I'm not arsed what people do with their kids.

ElderflowerRose · 18/08/2021 16:04

I’d be interested to see reputable links to rubella being linked to male infertility.

Absolutely everything I’ve read states it is a mild disease, to the point of not knowing you have had it - unless you are pregnant. Which clearly one year olds won’t be!

Jorrris · 18/08/2021 16:07

Under a bridge most probably

The most dangerous bridge ever Grin

ElderflowerRose · 18/08/2021 16:09

That was a good comeback I have to say!

Lostinacloud · 18/08/2021 16:17

Why would a 13yr old get really really ill? That’s nonsense. I caught it last year and felt a bit like I had a hangover for a few days. My 12yr old caught it and had a headache and felt under the weather for a day and a half. Both 100% recovered extremely quickly despite not being vaccinated and no lasting effects. Seems to be the norm before vaccinations if under 80!

FMSucks · 18/08/2021 16:28

I tested positive for Covid yesterday as did my DS13.

I am Pfizer double jabbed and am absolutely floored with it. My DS13 has a slight cough and is not vaccinated.

I am in Ireland where he can be vaccinated but so far has chosen not to. He will now have some sort of immunity to Covid as he has caught it. I know some children do get very sick with it but so far he really is fairing a lot better than I am.

igelkott2021 · 18/08/2021 16:36

I thought in the UK they were thinking about only doing one Pfizer jab in that age group because of the side effects after the second. So balancing the risk of serious illness with the risk of the nasty side effects.

It might be the same with Moderna? Would that make your decision easier? I don't know how that works with the "fully vaccinated" requirement if you want to go to other countries, though.

I have read today that Austria and Croatia are moving the goalposts again and saying you will no longer be considered to be fully vaccinated 270 days after your jab. Sigh.

igelkott2021 · 18/08/2021 16:38

@Confused102

Not only that, I don't think kids need it necessarily.

Really? I'm not in the UK, and 2 children aged 9 and 11 have just passed on this week. Utterly tragic. Children here are filling up intensive care wards. My dc is so young, but as soon as it's available I will ensure they get the vaccine.

Well I don't know where your bridge is, but children are not filling up the intensive care units here.
Whatwouldscullydo · 18/08/2021 16:56

Well I don't know where your bridge is, but children are not filling up the intensive care units here

I thought they were I new Zealand.

But not of covid though. Of all the other crap that kids usually would fight off fine or be treated at home with OTC meds and gp prescriptions . Because months of constant hand washing, social distancing and no school has meant they now have no immunity to anything.?

Ilovechinese · 18/08/2021 20:14

Yanbu, I will not be letting any of my children have the vaccines either. Children and young adults are generally not at risk from covid and no one knows the long term effects of these vaccines. Stick to your decision and dont let anyone try to make you feel bad for doing the right thing by them.

reluctantbrit · 18/08/2021 20:43

It is a hard decision but. I am prepared to accept a negative reaction to the jab in order. to avoid further educational upheavel for the foreseable future.

DD is 14 and will start Y10. I want her to have an education uninterrupted and that is only possible if children at jabbed.