Or is my DH on this?

[merrygoround88]

On a big family holiday (his family). Having a lovely time

4 nights in and after dinner I decide to go to bed earlier than usual (11ish)
Lots of kids still up milling around having fun. My DS is in his room but younger DS still running around. Kids tend to go to bed with adults so late.

He’s in another ‘out house’ so each night I’ve gone over to tuck in, give kids, reassurance etc. By the time I get back DH is in bed and often asleep.

DSons are in an out house with an auntie etc so fun but it’s important I think for one parent to say good night anyway.

My DH comes into bedroom and I ask is he not bringing DS to bed. It’s a shared area DS sleeps in so it does mean waiting till everyone is heading to bed.

DH Huffs and puffs and says I am ordering him just because I’ve gone to sleep.

I’ve done this every night so AIBU to expect him to wait up and tuck in his own child to sleep?

I'm not sure why people seem so reticent to speak up. Why did you not say something like "I've done the past 4 nights....Do you feel it is unfair that I am asking you to do tonight?" rather than fretting over it

I think YABU. You think DS should have a parent tucking him in every night. DH doesn't necessarily agree so if you've gone to bed DH doesn't need to tuck DS in because he doesn't think he needs it.

If DS had asked to be tucked in and DH refused that'd be different.

I read this thread as far as the “staggeringly rude” comment

If DS had asked to be tucked in and DH refused that'd be different.

If DS wants so badly to be tucked in, he needs to go to bed before I go to bed!

@imisscashmere

Right?! Made a slightly silly comment while we waited for the OP to clarify what was happening. Not sure what @MissTrip82 was so disturbed by.