Issues with new guy

[Notanotherone89]

That’s just it. Thought I really like him and had a good few dates. Then when we’re we’re out for dinner he made some comment about eating out getting expensive ( it wasn’t an expensive place ) and he’s said before he has no money issues.
Then when sitting near him I noticed a bit of BO, sex was a disappointment and to top it off he’s decided he can’t speak to me on the phone in case my 16 year old daughter asks who it is!! I think that’s my decision who and when I speak to people. I’m feeling a bit cross at being told that. AIBU?

Come on, you know you can do better. Next!

Get rid. Life is far too short to have shit sex

''He'd be binned the moment I smelt that not to mention being tight.''

how come every time on mn a man tries to tighten the belt or mentions the expense of something he is ''financially abuse'' or ''tight''??

To be fair the money incident was ok but the phone incident is weird.

''Get rid. Life is far too short to have shit sex''

love to see the reaction here if a man came on saying his new girlfriend was bad in bed.

Anyone who can't be arsed to shower before a date isn't worth it imo.

Sexual compatibility is a huge part of a relationship for me. Time to end it unless sex is unimportant to you both.

''Anyone who can't be arsed to shower before a date isn't worth it imo.''

Sometimes bo is a problem and can't be removed through showering.

@Balgoresboy

''Anyone who can't be arsed to shower before a date isn't worth it imo.''

Sometimes bo is a problem and can't be removed through showering.

Have some experience of that? Sorry to hear that.

Never known it outside of the teenage years personally.

Yeah BO can be stubborn if you have a medical condition or, much more likely, you aren't careful about hygiene or don't wash or replace your clothes often enough. And it's ok to decide you don't want that in your life. I spent years as a carer and if needs change during a relationship then fine, but I am never inviting it into my life again.

Surely everyone can smell of BO occasionally. I shower at least once a day and always wear deodorant but I can, occasionally, get BO. 😆

@Oogachuckachopsy I am joining you in the ick-by-proxy.

OP, he smells, is controlling on communication and doesn't satisfy you in bed. Not a good catch, but good luck as sounds like you will look again and there will be better catches.

I think the BO would definitely give me the ick in a dating scenario.

I got up this morning, showered, went to my office to work, then had to race off to do an unexpected work thing which took until midnight. I'm now sitting at home having a nightcap & I can smell myself - not sour BO so much as slightly sickly warm sweaty deodorant. Don't think I smell particularly disgusting, but definitely like a person who has had a long hot day.

There's no way I'd have been meeting a date without a thorough shower! Yuk.

Why did you even have sex with someone who smells of BO? If he can't wash his pits he's not washing his bits!!!!

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OK, so he's tight and has money problems, crap in bed, smelly and controlling. Throw this one back and raise the bar!

i guess that you won't be having the best of times with this man !

He sounds like a absolute weirdo if I’m being honest from what you have posted in my opinion.

Move on

4 strikes, he's out!

@Unanananana

Put him in the bin. Next!

I think the BO thing is a bit harsh, too. OP caught a whiff; she didn't say he constantly stinks. I'm sure all the MN'ers too clean for dandruff will say they've never had bad breath in their life, but the fact is between 1 in 2 and 1 in 4 people have it fairly regularly. If these things are chronic, and caused by laziness and poor hygiene - yeah, gross. But if they're occasional, pipe down, ffs.

@Shanghaisprize yes - must be better guys out there!!!!

@Mybusines

Why did you even have sex with someone who smells of BO? If he can't wash his pits he's not washing his bits!!!!

This! Absolute Yuck!!!

@Oogachuckachopsy

Ugh. I’ve got the ick and I’ve never even met him. Ick-by-proxy, if you will.

He had BO and acted weird and you decided to shag him anyway? YABU.

I can't believe there are people on here defending the fact he had BO !! That's a deal breaker for me in a dating scenario!

I sort of understand how it can accidentally happen in a busy ordinary day but even then surely you'd wash, apply good deodorant & change clothes as soon as possible once it had happened? Not go out on a date?

Dating is the time to make a good impression. If you can't even ensure that you don't smell offensive well there's little hope imo.

As for the comments about dinner being expensive, being honest that would put me off too. He should suggest other enjoyable things to do on dates if he doesn't want to spend money on dinner but not go for a meal & sit there moaning about it.

Crap sex with a smelly, dull, controlling man is not my idea of a good time