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AIBU?

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to think it wrong for the parent of very young children to disappear into the (celebrity) jungle for three weeks

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emkana · 29/11/2007 23:08

ie Cerys Matthews (kids are four and two)
in the same year as getting divorced as well, which must have already been unsettling for her children

Go on, who'll be the first to tell me off for being judgemental?

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handlemecarefully · 30/11/2007 12:18

I personally couldn't do it - but that's not to say it is wrong or the children will be adversely affected

She has a body to die for since she has a 2 and a 4 year old btw

FioFio · 30/11/2007 12:25

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VictorianSqualor · 30/11/2007 12:30

Firstly, she probably thought she'd be kicked off the show alot sooner, so could have only been away for a week.

My friends fella works on an oil rig, is away a good few weeks at a time an dgets to call home very rarely. At least Cerys' kids were able to write to her and see her on tv.

It is a job, and some jobs take peopel away from home. It is unlikely to be of a huge problem to the children, especially if they're used to it.

Also her letters from home, one was from Mark, one was from her family, about the kids, so I'd assume they were with family.

Oh, and when she said she was gutted that marc wasn't there to meet her, and then mentioned her kids, it was in reply to questioning from Ant and Dec about Marc, she said 'I'm gutted he's not here actually, but at least my kids are' and then looked to Ant and Dec for reassurance they were actually there. It wasn't an after thought, just an answer to a question that wasn't about her children.

DaDaDa · 30/11/2007 12:48

"i took two weeks holiday away from my three children under 5.

they are completely disturbed mass murderers"

Couldn't let that one go without a lol

It's work. Her last album stiffed. She probably needs the money.

Hmmmmm, 2 weeks in the jungle or 2 years stacking shelves. Which would you choose?

DW went away for business for a week when DS was one and she'll go at least twice a year as long as she's in her current job. You know what; it was great. I got to spend time alone with him and he trusts me loads more than he did before (but of course still looks for Mum first, so it can't have affected him).

anniemac · 30/11/2007 12:53

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newgirl · 30/11/2007 12:54

i think its ok

probably a very quick easy way to earn a years salary in one go leaving stacks of quality time for the rest of the year

Anchovy · 30/11/2007 12:58

When my DCs were 4 and 2 I had to spend 6 weeks commuting between London and Tokyo. It was work related and unavoidable. My DCs had their dad with them and our very lovely nanny. We did speak on the phone, although it was difficult because of the time difference, and I was back from time to time.

And they were and are, of course, fine. I did speak to Ds's school about it in case he was unsettled, but they just laughed and said he was a happy stable little boy and they did not anticpate any problems.

So I agree, this could be her job. She may feel she has to do it. We don't know what her arrangements are - maybe they have had the same nanny since birth, maybe her parents are a very significant part in their life. Commenting on this feels a bit like commenting on celebs and their C-sections without knowing their medical records, TBH.

wannaBe · 30/11/2007 13:12

in reality I think there are two issues here.

The first is that some people, in the course of their jobs,need to go away and potentially have to leave young children in the care of their partner/family. Imo it shouldn't have to be one rule for men/one rule for women on that score.

The second is that, IMO, if you need to go on a television shows for has-beens to boost your career then perhaps it's time for a career change .

VictorianSqualor · 30/11/2007 13:22

If I was a celebrity, I would love to go on IACGMOOH, It looks great, you'd pay tons to go live in the jungle for three weeks and have that kind of detox. I'd be quiet for the first week though, so no-one picked me for the trials, and wouldn't be too bothered by having to do one or two yucky ones. Then to get paid £100,000 on top of that?
Sounds fabulous.
So maybe they don't all see it as a career boost, i acknowledge some do, and you see the difference it makes, you can normally tell who wanted the career boost by how many other reality shows they dp after, how quickly they release a single or go topless and what lengths they go to in the jungle.
Personally I think Cerys has been taken for a fool anyway, and that she was a pawn in Marc's attempts at upping his celeb status, but I'm sure she'll pay for that in time.

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emkana · 30/11/2007 17:10

Okay then, I always aim to learn from these threads, so I'll revise my opinion to:

It's not wrong, but I couldn't do it.

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Oblomov · 30/11/2007 17:25

She strikes me as a very strange and troubled individual. She left her husband, in the states, took their children to Wales, one day,as if popping out for a pint of milk.
Marc the prat is a serial lothario and cheater.
Am I surprised she left her kids ? Not really. We wouldn't do it, but then we don't live the life of celebrities.
And I'm glad I don't.

VictorianSqualor · 30/11/2007 17:29

emkana, that I agree with.

SheepishPeachesMcLean · 30/11/2007 17:30

To be fair, I couldn't either.

bossybritches · 30/11/2007 17:33

Not for many of us plainly but.....

if it's your job & it pays well so you possibly have lots of work lined up when you get out, so you can choose your work AND see the kids more when you get back..yes I can see why she'd do it.

Her sister had them apparently.

suedonim · 30/11/2007 17:36

Well, I disappeared into the jungle in India for two wks when dd2 was 2yo. That was almost 10yrs ago and communications were basic so I was only able to phone twice. Both dd1 and dd2 seemed v happy to be with their daddy and there was a bonus for me in that dd2 was sleeping through the night by the time I got back!

Also, dh worked offshore for many years yet all our dc seem remarkably normal and well-adjusted people.

Flibbertyjibbet · 30/11/2007 17:48

Her kids are with their grandparents, and able to see their mother day and night on the tv.
Hardly the same as 'disappearing into the jungle' my kids wouldn't even notice that I'd gone!
Hmm its mumsnet - are you all going to flame me for suggesting her kids should WATCH TV????

Far better that they pine with no contact from her than be put in front of a dreaded tv eh

bubblagirl · 30/11/2007 17:49

i think for her its an income and she could earn enough in short weeks to not work for a while when she comes out id do it,

father may have quality time with kids while she is in there she hasnt abandoned them shes trying to get her career back to earn and support them

there are worse ways of doing it i couldnt leave my ds for that long but if the pay check had lots of 0's on id consider it as wouldnt have to work for a while when i come out

bubblagirl · 30/11/2007 17:50

didnt see grandparent bit but at least they are with family

belcantavinissima · 30/11/2007 17:52

i was thinking the same yesterday but of one of the other ones out there. but only as i know the children and i have seen them crying for their mummy and playing up the nanny

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