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AIBU?

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To hate the hairdressers?

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MiaMarshmallows · 15/08/2021 22:08

I have an appointment later next week and already dreading it.
Hate the small talk, the head massage (Know I am alone with this but feels uncomfortably intimate), the embarrassment of having a dry scalp and it being commented on, having to look at myself for ages in the mirror, the cost....aibu?

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cocktailclub · 16/08/2021 07:58

I know exactly what you mean. I found a mobile hairdresser was better in terms of you are more in control in your own home and do the washing etc but then again it's more mess to clear up after a cut and colour so I'm tempted back to the salon.

ViewFromHalfway · 16/08/2021 08:02

This is why I have largely cut my own hair (with a little help from DH now and then) for the last decade!

Iwishihadariver · 16/08/2021 08:03

I hate 'product', faff & having my hair 'ironed' so used to come home from HD & wash my hair again. My daughter is the same! Since lockdown my DH trims my hair & who needs hair dye amyway...? I don't miss going at all.

Runrigdan · 16/08/2021 08:06

Yeah I hate it too! I go as infrequently as I can get away with.

Though I don't mind the head massage. It's probably the only good part.

ichundich · 16/08/2021 08:10

I'm not keen, but the pandemic has given me a good excuse for going in with hair already wet and washed and for not having a blow dry. So I'm in and out in 15 minutes now (still it's costing me £20, but that would be another thread).

dottydodah · 16/08/2021 08:24

Graphista Me too! have cut and coloured my hair now for a long time.Got asked by my NDN and niece which hairdressers I went to! Lots of tutorials OL .Never liked HD since a child really .Also saved a bomb!

passionfruitpizza · 16/08/2021 08:30

YANBU I hate it. About 5 years ago I realised i could just buy a pair of hairdressers scissors and cut my own. So much happier never having to put myself through that again.

Disintegration1985 · 16/08/2021 09:23

I have been cutting and dyeing my own hair for almost 5 years now because I hate the hairdressers so much. When I was at uni, I booked myself in at a salon and walked in to realise 3 girls who bullied me mercilessly through school all worked there. Luckily, none of them were doing my hair but every time I heard them laughing or talking to each other, I flinched, I spent the entire time paranoid that they were talking about me (I doubt they were).

Since then, I've hated going. Never felt like I fitted in with the super glam girls that work there, hate making small talk (I never have any plans to talk about because I'm spending all my money on the bloody hair cut) and I hate staring at myself in a mirror for hours on end.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 16/08/2021 09:26

The head massage makes me unreasonably angry 🤣 I just sit there thinking I could be home 10 minutes earlier but she's rubbing my head! I do tell them not to, if I remember, but it's awkward once they've started.

Generally, I like the salon and a bit of pampering. I'm going tomorrow and hoping I can have tea in an actual cup now.

Aug12 · 16/08/2021 09:47

If you just get an inch off/tidy up and you don’t like the hair washing/head massage, you could book in for a dry cut instead? It’s much cheaper and a lot less faff x

hedgehogger1 · 16/08/2021 10:16

My hairdresser asked me to wash my hair and arrive with it damp. So she just gets on with the cutting. Costs me about £13. I too hate seeing myself in the mirror. Happily I'm very short sighted so just take my specs off :)

Aprilx · 16/08/2021 10:18

@Funnylittlefloozie

Youre not unreasonable to hate it, but it seems a bit odd to keep putting yourself through a process you hate so much. Why don't you just stop going?

Perhaps because she cares about what her hair looks like. What a stupid comment!

JonahofArk · 16/08/2021 10:24

I like the massage but I wish it could be done in silence.

I hate the chat. And even when I've made it clear I'm not one for chatting they either just carry on or, worse, have an entire conversation with anyone else who happens to be in the vicinity while they are cutting my hair. I only ever have a trim so I'm in the chair for 10 minutes at the most-can I not have 10 minutes of peace?!

Turkishangora · 16/08/2021 10:41

YANBU I absolutely hate it, I go x 2 per year. It's never exactly as I'd like as it's very curly and no one can cut curly hair, the woman in go to is ok but not great. I put henna on it myself now rather than having it coloured and refuse all the treatments and products are tries to foist on me as that's just a way of adding £££!

ChainJane · 16/08/2021 10:57

YANBU, I hate all the BS small talk too. I'd pay double for a hairdresser where you could just sit down and have them get on with it without being expected to "gossip".

The3Ls · 16/08/2021 11:07

I have a mobile hairdresser. I wash my hair she cuts from wet no mirrors love it!

Soverymuchfruit · 16/08/2021 11:33

Try looking for YouTube videos on how to do your haircut for yourself. Surprisingly easy and quick! And fun. But definitely invest in proper hairdressing scissors. They will cost about half the price of a single haircut.

LadyJaye · 16/08/2021 11:45

I loathe it. In an ideal world, you could drop it off, like a dog at the groomer's then go back in a couple of hours to pick it up.

I have long, thick, naturally curly (type 3A/B, if you're that way inclined ) hair and I recently found a great salon which specialises in naturally-textured hair, having suffered at the hands of the straight-haired hegemony for many years.

They're excellent and relatively good at not making vacuous small talk, but it's incredibly difficult to get an appointment. Good thing I only get my hair cut twice a year!

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MiaMarshmallows · 16/08/2021 12:59

It's a rarity to find a hairdressers that will just do a dry cut and take an inch or so off, in my area anyway.
I always end up washing my hair again at home too. Hate the thought of a strangers fingers in my hair for so long too.
Definitely thinking of buying some hairdressing scissors and having a go myself.

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AngryWhompingWillow · 16/08/2021 13:05

I have a question. WHY WHY WHY do they do the head massage?

Does anyone know? Any hairdressers here who can answer that?

Thank you.

OhGiveUp · 16/08/2021 13:10

You could just have a dry cut.
Or book a hairdresser to come to your home.

Againstmachine · 16/08/2021 13:21

*Perhaps because she cares about what her hair looks like. What a stupid comment

It's kind of stupid to keep going to back to something you don't enjoy rather than finding somewhere else.

millerpie · 16/08/2021 13:21

I used to hate it, driving in to the city, parking, sitting for hours in front of the awful mirror pretending to be interested in the rubbish magazines they give you. For the last couple of years (apart from lockdown) my lovely hairdresser comes to my house every seven weeks for a cut and colour and I don’t have to look in a mirror until it’s all finished.

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MiaMarshmallows · 16/08/2021 13:21

Yes I would like to know why they do the head massage too.
It sounds a bit OTT but I actually went really red faced last time as it just felt overly intimate

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Misspacorabanne · 16/08/2021 13:24

I agree op!! I've got an appointment tomorrow and I'm already dreading the small talk! If I could just sit without saying a word it would be a much more relaxing experience , I've already put off having it coloured for four months now, it's well over due! I can't put it off any longer. I don't have the skills to colour my own, plus I do like how they do my highlights, but it's a chore for me, definitely not a nice pampering experience!

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