To think it's rude to nab a piece of a shared meal before it's served?

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So for example. If you're having a roast and are serving it in dishes so people can take what they want. So all the hot food is being out into dishes in the kitchen, ready to take to the dining table.

Am I unreasonable in thinking that someone shouldn't pop into the kitchen/take the food through and help themselves to a bit of chicken or a roast potato before they're on the plate...? (Especially as they weren't involved in the preparation or cooking!)

People stealing a roastie is the kind of thing that happens on a bisto advert. It’s not something that happy, well adjusted people get angry about.

@Batshittery

Do you find yourself generally friendless and not trusted by others? 😉

I had to think twice about posting my aversion to roasties. It's so outing.
One day I hope to meet a like minded soul

I dislike roast spuds so much I don't even make them......or Yorkshire puds, which considering I am a Yorkshire girl is heinous apparently.

** I would make them for Xmas dinner however, or if I invited guests over. But just me and DH? Nah, not happening.

I do think certain things invite this sort of behaviour. Crispy crackling, the blue bubbly liquorice assorts

I'd be very happy if someone took the blue bubbly allsorts. They're one of the devil's foods

@LavendulaAngustifolia

Chefs perogative to nick a roastie when dishing up.

We call it Cooks' Privilege.

Bloody hell, chill out! The things that rile some people up never fails to surprise me.

It’s really NOT that serious...

We have a large family and years ago I was constantly having to remind my middle son that if he chose to eat his portion before it got to the table then he'd have less on his plate. Once he realised this he stopped taking extras.

He was always trying to take a few rashers of extra bacon or few pieces of chicken. With the many mouths to feed he'd not got the realisation that his extras meant someone else had less.

He couldn't believe that a round of sandwiches for the family left just two crusts from a whole loaf. So if he helped himself then we'd be a sandwich or two short for that meal.

I always had a snack cupboard and fruit bowl for hungry moments. But I didn't usually allow extras helpings before meals before it's been plated up.

It's different now as we often have only five for meals so there is more to go around.

This is normal round here, I do get annoyed when we are having a party tea and ALL the crisps are gone by the time I get to the table

@RumJerrySailorRum
It's lovely to 'meet' you. I didn't dare mention that I also don't eat Yorkies. Don't even get me started on parsnips 🤢 We went out for lunch today and I had seen parsnips on a plate that had gone out. They are terrible and the flavour contaminates everything they touch. I ordered the Sunday dinner and had to ask them not to put parsnips on, or stuffing wrapped in bacon or bread sauce (what is that about?) DH got the potatoes and Yorkshire pudding

I sneak bits of fat and skin off the meat on the regular, not to everyone's taste I know but fought for in my family.
Its part of the game of family, I annoy my sister and get in my mother's way earning a smack, two wins.

As long as there’s still plenty for everyone, help yourself.

Helping yourself to a critical ingredient or taking something of which there’s only just enough is, however, a flogging offence.

Used to be called ''walkabout meat'' in our house.
Only cheeky or a problem if you only have a small amount and nicking a bit means less to serve up.

@Oysterbabe

Depends who it is. Family member? No issue. Guest? Bit rude.

Plumber? very rude.

especially if on his way to the family loo

Another to add to the very very long list of what’s rude in MN world that I was unaware of

I voted yabu but in my world, its the COOK's perk! Cook can then offer bits to favoured family members including the dog

@54321nought

who cares? I think this is probably completely normal in any relaxed happy family home. Of course not in a big formal hotel, or whatever, but at home, sounds fine

Yep. Assuming that the person cooking makes more than enough for everyone, it's absolutely normal in a happy home. It's even a compliment in a way.

Ok. Fair cop. I shall wind my neck in

YANBU

As my Mother and me would always be the only ones cooking a massive roast dinner and then take it through to the dinner table, every other fucker would tuck in before all the food is even out and leave none for the cooks.

It is fucking rude.

Best thing to do is serve all the boring veggies and keep the roast tatties and meat until last.

Anyone saying YABU are the rude fuckers eating everything.

@00100001

Ok. Fair cop. I shall wind my neck in

Unless of course it was a pig in blanket….

What's difference in eating it a few seconds earlier? Couldn't care less, but probably because me, my husband and kids all do it!

This reminds me of my mother, who insists on leaving a single potato in the pan ‘in case anyone wants more’.

Isn't it just checking they aren't poisonous?

YABU.

I always cook a bit more for this reason.

Doesn't bother me in the slightest

Anyone saying YABU are the rude fuckers eating everything.

Do you cook so little that there's less than a bit of chicken or ONE roast potato per person and nothing left if someone grabs a bit in the kitchen?

In the world of MN where a chicken feeds a family of 8 for a month, what do you make a roast with? A quail?

@GeorgiaGirl52

Only if there are six people and six roast potatoes - then it is unreasonable. If it is a slice of meat of a piece of fruit off the salad, then it is ok.

6 people and 6 potatoes? That is a travesty