My sil don't buy xmas presents for my stepdaughter? but i do her children is this right?

[354kidz]

I just wondered on other people's opinion that for many yrs now (about 7 now)i have brought my sil children (has 3)xmas's presents (kids from first marriage)but she has never brought a present for my stepdaughter (we have 5 kids altogether) although she don't live with us but we have her every other xmas so this xmas i said i am not buying for her kids as they now live with thier dad and she has said to me i am bang out of order!!!??? as i knew her kids before she married me bro... but my bro knew my stepdaughter since she was born!!!m i being mean here as i dont think i am but would like to hear back from other people please?

OK then here's an opinion for you

In my opinion your making an issue out of this unnecessarily when it would be easy to protect your stepdaughter from being hurt. It's an easy situation to avoid but are you sure your not using this as ammunition to pick a fight with said sil.

easier said than done but thnx for the comments!!!

Could you explain to your dc that stepdaughter would be very hurt at being left out so you think it would be nice if they opened sil presents on boxing day. Or even on xmas eve as a special treat to them to thank them for being sensitive to stepdaughters feelings.

They could still open their other 15-20 presents - are you really saying your kids wouldn't be happy to do this?

In your situation I would call her & say "Look, let's stop buying for the kids individually, there's too many of them anyway, we'll buy a family game or something they will all enjoy"

Problem sorted & step daughter won't have to feel like a second class citizen.

She should buy for all I have never met my uncles stepson (we only see him about twice a year and the stepson is at his dads) But I always buy him a gift .

i agree with u firefly yes think that a good idea thanyou for all the comments its helped

well yes i agree pyjamagirl. oh well..

Cheer up you sound really down

hope I haven't upset you 354 - is there more too this than you've said.

upset? no im fine.. just wondered what other people thought thats all ive got over it all now many thnx

No YANBU that is not on at all