To expect cake on my birthday?

[HelloCanYouHearMe]

Not a even a whole cake, just a slice will do!

Today is my birthday and i've had a lovely day with DP and have received some lovely gifts - but no cake.

I will be heading off to the supermarket later to get some for myself. Which i'll enjoy tonight with a gin and a film. But AIBcompletelyU and ungrateful here to be a little sad that I have to buy my own?

(Very aware this is a first world problem)

Why are you home alone tonight op?

Why are you going to be alone on your birthday night
@HelloCanYouHearMe

That would piss me off more tbh

But yes a cake is nice fir birthday

Tell him. I used to just book us a holiday, I don’t really want anything else. But I make it quite clear that cake, wine, chocolate, or perfume would be most welcome too.

YABU
cake - yes, definitely - and buying it yourself means you get exactly the cake you want.
cake with gin - yuk, waste of both

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

I'd rather a pork pie personally (I didn't get one )

Hell yeah!

I totally recognise some people don't want a cake - my mum is one of them. But I do want cake and so do most of my friends. So if a person likes to have cake for their birthday really I'd expect someone to step up and provide one!

I would never have trusted XH to get my birthday cake. Even if I specified the exact type, size, cost etc and drew him a map of the exact shelf he could find it on he would somehow have contrived to buy the wrong thing (I've never been sure whether this was on purpose, but strongly suspect it was). Anyway, I'd rather look at what they've got and pick out what I fancied than send someone else to choose for me.

That said, a friend who works in a cake shop is allowed to snaffle the leftovers, and for my last birthday was able to come up with a good quality item that absolutely hit the spot at the amazingly reasonable price of... nothing at all

Never occurred to me to expect cake on the day since I was a kid. Nothing wrong with wanting cake when you're older, but I wouldn't expect people to know that you want it as an adult unless you say so?

Do they normally get you cake? Do they know you expect it?

I am explicit if I want something in particular. So DH would do his best to make a cake if that is what I wanted (or DS), or if I wanted a cake from a certain place, he would get it. He isn't a mind reader. A simple "I'd really like a homemade cake for my birthday, would you make me one?" or "I'm feeling like a piece of birthday cake... the lemon slice from Starbucks would be lovely. Would you get one for me please?"

YANBU! A birthday is not a birthday without cake!

YANBU to want cake on your birthday. But you need to say so if it’s not forthcoming, on advance.

YABU to have cake with gin. Gin doesn’t go with anything sweet.

I don't really understand the fuss about adult birthdays & I can't remember the last time anyone provided me with a cake for my birthday. But then I can buy one if I want it.

YANBU!

I've made it clear to my family that on my birthday I don't expect to cook, plan or even think, that I expect a cake with at least one candle, and something to open, even if it costs less than £5. And I mark the date on the calendar to avoid mistakes. No point in setting myself up for disappointment.

Happy birthday! We're birthday twins! I didn't get one today either 😕 but I'll treat myself tomorrow! 😁

It’s not a birthday without cake in this house. On mine DH will buy or make me one. I always make some cake for my parents birthdays too with candles, it’s like to make a little effort to make someone smile.

@HelloCanYouHearMe 😱😱😱😱😱 no cake?? 😱😱😱😱 NEVER!!!

(Did you tell him you are on a diet or something?) otherwise you are NOT being unreasonable!

(But I buy myself a cake every week! 🙈🤣🙈🤣🙈)

I am also in the give instructions/advance warning and then repeat camp! I am keen on celebrations for everyone of any age, but dp is from a much more only the children matter type of vibe. So if I want something to happen I set the thought going and keep it rolling!

Just tell him that you like cake. Next time you will get cake. My DH is not fussed about his birthday so he has different standards (basically prrtend it's not happening) and I just told him that cake is something I do really want, and have dinner and drinks on my birthday and that's it. I get a lovely small cake every year.

Happy birthday op

I've just realised I got a cake for my 40th but no other cakes! Together 6 years. I love cake aswell.

I don't know how I haven't noticed! Usually go for a meal with family and friends and get a dessert but not an actual cake.

For those asking why im on my own tonight - DP and I don't currently live together and we're taking the kids away on Monday, so i've come home tonight so we can both sort all our stuff and pack etc... & my DS is with the ex

Im not fussed about being in my own tonight as i've been with DP since thursday and I do quite like a bit of alone time (ideally with cake)

Apologies for the delay in responding - I was driving home....

The supermarket cake selection was poor, so i picked up a little bakewell tart and came home to a cake card that had been arranged by a friend who lives at the other end of the country, which was a lovely surprise - I got my cake in the end!!!

Happy birthday @HappyMeal564

So your dc is with ex. So you could have packed then Had a takeaway together if didn’t want to go out

Just find it strange alone on birthday

@HelloCanYouHearMe

Not a even a whole cake, just a slice will do!

Today is my birthday and i've had a lovely day with DP and have received some lovely gifts - but no cake.

I will be heading off to the supermarket later to get some for myself. Which i'll enjoy tonight with a gin and a film. But AIBcompletelyU and ungrateful here to be a little sad that I have to buy my own?

(Very aware this is a first world problem)

Happy Birthday, OP. I hope you manage to have a lovely piece of cake!!

It is my birthday tomorrow and I now want one for mine!!
Here's hoping.