19yr old on 'boys weekend' away

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Can I send DS a quick text to ask if he got there ok or not?
DS only passed his driving test 2 months ago, and is the driver for a boys weekend away. To be honest, they are pretty sensible boys, but they are still 19yr old boys!
But I don't want to be the parent that can't leave him alone.
Should I send a quick text, or not?
Do you ever stop worrying about your DC??

I'd send a quick text to check he arrived ok. Then leave it.

At that age having just passed my test I would've text my parents to let them know I got there ok if they'd asked, probably would've rolled my eyes but wouldn't have been annoyed by it. Maybe just a quick how was your journey? Have fun this weekend type message

I feel your pain op.. My ds20 flew for his first boys trip yesterday.. He has rang home about 10 times with video and snap chat also!!
If he hadn't made contact I would be climbing the walls!!
Give your ds a text!!

Yes, you can send a text, but just the one.

No, you never stop worrying about them, but it's more in the background once they're older (and have moved out.)

No news is good news. I am sure one text will be ok but don't make it an obligation. Try and distract yourself.

Send the text . My boys know I worry so they keep the eye rolling to a minimum but they know I need a quick “ I’m fine “ message . ( mine are 23 20 and 17 )

You would have heard if something disastrous had happened. It’s hard not to worry though, I do and mine are in their 30s. Sometimes I type a message and then wait a few hours. By then I might have heard or have convinced myself there was no need to worry.

Send a cheery text. He won’t mind

Thanks all.
So I sent a "everything ok? Was the journey ok" text, which hasn't been read yet!
He is not the most communicative person at the best of times. He's pretty independent to be fair.

One text, but don’t worry if you don’t get a reply .

It's fine. I have always done it when my DDs travelled. I still do. In fact my DM messages me when we travel to check we have got there safely and I am 58!

They are 19 year old men..

I always asked my son to let me know when he arrived on a trip away. I often just got “here” - it was enough!! When he first went on a boys hol abroad I asked the same, one text to say arrived & maybe one mid week to say all ok. Bless him he always did! To the point that when a young man died at his resort from jumping from a balcony (my last words used to be bye & please don’t jump from a balcony) he messaged me to say “don’t worry not me or friends”.
Don’t think he realised how much one word put my mind at ease.

No, don't! Because now you'll be worrying that you haven't got a reply and then start texting to ask if he got your text - that way madness lies!

He's 19, he's with his mates, he'll be fine, he'll let you know if he isn't....

You would have heard if there had been an accident. Distract yourself. When I was 18,19,20, we went abroad and never gave ringing home a thought! Late 80's, no mobiles, when you were away you were away.

I would of just sent something breezy "hope you got there okay, have a great time" and then would of left it at that.

I'm nearly 40 and still have to text my parents if travelling a long way! They do the same to us though.

It's totally fine to drop a text of course!
If he's just arrived he'll be sorted etc

I'm 24 and when I travel my parents still ask for me to say I've arrived! I would text but expect a delayed reply

He's replied!!!
I feel ridiculously happier now!!
Happy days!

Just relax and watch a bit of entertaining TV to take your mind off all the things which could go wrong, OP.

How about a few episodes of The Inbetweeners?

Of course you can.

Would you check that your partner, mother or daughter got somewhere safely? If yes then yes text your son.

My mum sent me a text asking if we'd arrived safely in Whitby for our day out. I'm 52 & DH is a driving instructor.

OMG - The Inbetweeners!! LOL!!

Mine shares his location on WhatsApp then he doesn't have to remember. He doesn't mind & it's not intrusive.