19yr old on 'boys weekend' away

[cosmobrown]

Can I send DS a quick text to ask if he got there ok or not?
DS only passed his driving test 2 months ago, and is the driver for a boys weekend away. To be honest, they are pretty sensible boys, but they are still 19yr old boys!
But I don't want to be the parent that can't leave him alone.
Should I send a quick text, or not?
Do you ever stop worrying about your DC??

@cosmobrown

He's replied!!!
I feel ridiculously happier now!!
Happy days!

Hahahaha. You sound like me. You can relax now x

@FreeSpirits I've never heard it called a men’s weekend. Stop being so pedantic!

I went away a couple of weekends ago and we all called it our girl’s weekend away.

@iklboo

My mum sent me a text asking if we'd arrived safely in Whitby for our day out. I'm 52 & DH is a driving instructor.

🤣🤣🤣 love it !

I'm 41, haven't lived with my dps for decades but we all still check in with each other when we've arrived somewhere after a long journey/holidays etc

I'm like that with my parents if they go away anywhere.Theyre fully functioning adults with 38 and 40 yr old kids and have been driving donkeys years.I just like to know they've arrived safely and would do the same when ds is an adult.

I'm in my 50s- my mother still gets me to text her when I drive home from a visit

I have had a few instances over the years, where I have received a text from my son, when he had just landed at Heathrow after being in Sanfrancisco for a week, and I didn't even know he was away.. The same thing , a text from a little market in the Bahamas, asking me if I would like a carved wooden parrot off a stall he was looking at, ( I like bird carvings) and he said it was roasting hot weather there, and see you when I get back. same again, I didn't know he was away !

I used to worry about his going to places, as he is paralysed from the chest down, and obviously in a wheelchair at all times, and all the hassle with going on flights etc, but he never bothers about such things.

My 20yo DS is away this weekend having driven 350 miles. I asked him before he went to keep me updated on his progress and let me know he'd arrived safely. I got a text when they stopped for petrol and again when they arrived. He knows I'd have phoned if he didn't

Of course one text to check he's arrived safely is fine. I do that for my mum now and I'm 51!

I won't contact him again, I certainly won't be a nuisance, but that's just common courtesy.

Yup, my parents are late 80's I'm mid 50's, always let each other know we've arrived somewhere safely. Hate all this - they're grown men - so what? We care and love them more than anything on earth, how can it possibly hurt to write a quick text? We have this incredible technology available to us now why wouldn't you use it to put someone's mind at rest.

@cosmobrown

He's replied!!! I feel ridiculously happier now!! Happy days!

So do i. Hope he has a lovely time.

I'm not far off 40 and my Mum insists on a text whenever I've flown to let her know I've arrived wherever safely

Yes! I like a ‘I’m here’ text. I’ve been more anxious about people driving home since DH had a car accident in the snow a few years ago - thankfully he was absolutely fine but it was terrifying waking at 4am, and realising he wasn’t home, and I didn’t have a message to say why he wasn’t there.

@Candydreamer

I would of just sent something breezy "hope you got there okay, have a great time" and then would of left it at that.

Would have...

My ds is 19, I'd have texted him. I just ask him if he'd rather I didn't care, he says yes and we laugh 😃 (well I do and he rolls his eyes)

Mine always messaged up until they got partners, it's nice when someone else gets to worry. One ds had to travel by helicopter a lot he always messaged.

I would text