To want family to stop commenting on what I eat?

[ThatsNotMyPinkUnicorn]

I don’t think I’m being unreasonable but I’d welcome any nice ways of approaching this as I don’t think it’s meant meanly or anything but it is upsetting me a bit.

So for context I’ve lost a lot of weight. I was seventeen and a half stone at my biggest, although that was when I was at 40 weeks pregnant so obviously some of that was the actual baby! I lost a stone and a half pretty much without trying in the 6 weeks post partum and then decided to go on an actual diet - meal replacement - beginning of February. I weighed exactly 16 stone then. So whether you take it as 17 and a half or 16 I’ve still lost a fair bit. Am 12 stone now.

I want to get down to 10, but I’m human and I do sometimes fail, especially now it’s summer so am meeting friends, going out more, and so sometimes life gets in the way.

What is driving me a bit mad though is DH commenting on it. Like he moved my car yesterday to allow another car on our drive and then came in carrying a crisp packet and a big grin and ‘ooh I found evidence.’ That’s an example but this sort of stuff happens all the time. Went for a meal with his parents and I ate then and they all went on about it.

I’m not looking for smart comebacks but I do want to tell him actually it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t comment on his pizzas and beers!

Just wanted to say well done OP, really impressive! at the posters giving you advice, you're mostly there!

You probably need to do something memorable. For example the meal with PIL maybe just get up and walk out and refuse to return u till the table is cleared. Then explain to them what the impact of what they said was. They won't forget it that way.

DH maybe you need to talk to - tell her stop taking the piss. But ensure that he supporting you. As other say it may be out of concern. But if it isn't I would he very blunt with him too.

Try looking puzzled and saying "evidence of what?"

Or "what's your point?"

And "I don't follow. What are you saying?"

Also, respond to comments about you eating with a baffled look and "I do eat, you know"

Or "I'm a bit worried how much you're obsessing about what I eat. Are you ok?"

Be straight, clear and direct.

“These comments on what I eat or don’t eat are not helpful and are pudding me off. It is very rude to comment on what people eat, and you have no right to police me”.

Then completely ignore any further comments. Up and leave the room, calmly and firmly, taking your plate with you if necessary. Or ignore and change the subject.

Tell the in-laws “I’m not engaging in comments about what I eat, so please drop it. It isn’t really anyone’s business but mine “.

And don’t discuss your diet with them, don’t talk about how much you have lost, etc. Just get on with it.