To think this is abit rude?

[Ilikechips]

So, shared drive way kinda situation behind our two cars is a blackberry bush. A woman from a house that isn’t the neighbour we share the driveway with comes over with a huge stick and a big bucket and picks all the blackberries off the bush behind the cars. She was shoved up against my car and in between the two cars.

Down the side of our house we have blackberry bushes also, I was cleaning our bathroom and looked out the window and she’s on our land standing all over and picking all of the fruit off the bushes. She had a huge bucket not just a basket.

AIBU to think coming on to our side garden so to speak is abit cheeky?

Yanbu
Did you tell her to clear off?

Totally cheeky!!

In the famous CF threads of old, there was a brilliant one where the new owner of a house picked some lovely gooseberries from the bush in the garden. Then the old owner turned up, marched into the garden and was really irate that they had all gone as she was having people over for dinner and had promised gooseberry pie!! I think the phrase “well, this is the giddy limit” was deployed!!

Did you confront the thief? It is your land and she was bloody trespassing. Blackberry bushes along public paths are fair game imo, but not in someone’s garden!

I’m just thinking our blackberries aren’t anywhere near ready yet.

So did you tell her to get off and leave the blackberries or just look at her put the window?

*out

Would you let her come and steal apples? Strawberries? Dig up carrots? Cut your flowers to put in a casein her house?

Then you have your answer

@LemonRoses

I’m just thinking our blackberries aren’t anywhere near ready yet.

The ones here are just ripening this week. We picked a few the other day. But on a public footpath, not someone's garden!

We've picked some owner-less plums in the last two weeks as well. Plums are utterly lush right now.

Well that would piss me right off. Unanimous CF.

Why didn't you say something?

I would have gone out taken the bucket off her and said thanks for picking my fruit, now get off my land CF.

And you allowed this because ...?

Do you pick them or let them rot? If you aren't going to use them then I wouldn't have an issue. If you are then you should have told her to keep off your property and it's theft.

Yanbu. I have a cherry tree in my front garden and every year people reach over the gate to grab them but noones had the nerve to open the gate, that I know off.

Why did you not say something?

What did you say to CF?
Hopefully you took fruit off them and told them to get off your property?
And maybe get CCTV.

The lady doesn’t speak English. I’m 8 months pregnant and was struggling to look out the window properly with my stomach in the way 😂 but I did say excuse me and she either didn’t hear/ignored me or couldn’t understand. And we do have CCTV, we have to.

@Ilikechips Maybe take the basket from her and shake your head? Shoo her away? Say "No!" and spray her with some water?
Sounds rude to do but she is very rude and should know better than to trespass on people's property and steal from them. As you're pregnant though, I would make sure you keep yourself safe above all else.

I wonder if it would be something to log with the police?

Thing is I really don’t care about the berries I wouldn’t eat them our dog wees on that bush sometimes 😂🙈 but I just think it’s rude to come onto someone’s property and a little intrusive. My MIL came the other day while the lady was picking berries and my toddler and dog always go to the door to see MIL in and the dog barked at her I presume just for being in his space (he’s good to be fair he never barks at our neighbours who we share the space with it’s as though he knows them) and he’s not really a barky dog and she looked at me like a piece of shit 😂

If i wasn't using them then i would have been fine with her using them although she should have asked if it was ok. She must be able to communcate in some way or have someone communicate for her if she doesn't speak english.

Of course it's never acceptable to trespass into somebody's garden to pick up their fruit, swim in their pool or use their bbq!

It doesn't matter if it's front or back garden, it's still a private property.

When you say blackberry bush, do you mean a maintained bush. Or is it just s patch of brambles? If it is the latter may be she doesn't realise it's in your land and thinks it's a patch of waste land.
Why didn't you say anything when your mil was there?

No it clearly belongs to our house we are on the corner it’s in line with my back garden and the house has a different coloured brick/slab on the boundary floor. I understand near the cars but not the house that very clearly belongs to us it’s quite a distance to another house or public area and it’s not even on a road or somewhere you would walk down unless you owned the house and was going into the back garden. I didn’t say anything when my mil was there because I wasn’t sure if I was being batshit or not!

You wouldn't eat them

Wtf

What's the point in caring then? It's fantastic that they're not WASTED - it's a bloody crime to waste food IMO

cleaning the bathroom? - shame you didn't have a bucket of water that needed emptying.

I did a guided foraging walk the other week, and the guide said that you should request permission to forage, even in a public park.

I've noticed that Eastern European people think nothing of wandering into gardens just for a look or to pick flowers etc. This happens a lot where I am. It is just a cultural thing.