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AIBU?

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Sick kids at park.

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 18:44

I'll probably told I'm being unreasonable but my anxiety is in over drive.

Today I took my dc to the park. Park wasn't overly busy. We live in a village so it never really gets busy there.

Ds bumps into a school friend and they start playing. Pretty close contact albeit outside. Didn't think much of it.

I then overheard the child tell dc that they had been feeling poorly today and had calpol. I mean it could have been anything - most likely not covid I guess... the kid then is lying on the bench towards the end looking exhausted (was only there half hour or so) The mum (who I know, but not well) asked her if she was feeling better or worse and said they should go home and rest. I felt like I was going to have an instant panic attack. I have major anxiety. I just think that sick kids should not be at the park covid or not. But what if it was covid and they didn't know! I know the mother has sent in the kid before when quite ill and she got sent home shortly after. She doesn't seem to care that others might catch things.

Putting covid aside. Aibu to think kids that are sick (whatever it is) shouldn't be at the park? I know germs are everywhere but I wouldn't dream of taking mine to the park if sick.

Not I've gone into overdrive thinking about what if it she had covid without knowing. It's pretty high where I live. Dh has got a week off work starting from tomorrow and the last thing I want is illness! He's worked all the way through this with little time off. I feel so shitty about it!

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Wolframhart · 12/08/2021 18:48

Sick enough for calpol is sick enough to stay home.

It’s not your anxiety, that parent was way out of line.

Tuliprain · 12/08/2021 18:51

Sounds like she was ill I’d she was flat out on the bench so shouldn’t have been out. However I disagree that I’ll enough for calpol means you shouldn’t be out. If you have a headache or toothache or something it’s fine to be out.

randomsabreuse · 12/08/2021 18:52

Depends. It could be they've got something non-contagious going on (tooth issue, other infection) which can make you feel pretty rubbish and require Calpol.

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 18:55

I am sure I heard the kid say she had a cold. Which would be just a cold of course but still with delta it worries me. I highly doubt they've got a test. The mother is very anti covid I've found on her social media (we are friends on fb, even though I don't really know her). Unfortunately it was all at the end else we would have left much sooner! 😩

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FlorenceNightshade · 12/08/2021 18:55

It could have been a pain issue that they got calpol for. As long as you as a family practice good hygiene then that’s all you can realistically do to protect yourself. Other people will always have different ideas about risks and what is and isn’t acceptable when feeling ill/displaying symptoms.

Wakeupin2022 · 12/08/2021 18:57

My child has had 2 different things in the last 72 hours that have required him to have painkillers.

Neither of those things would have put your child at risk if he had been at the park! And yes he has been at the park & other places

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 12/08/2021 19:01

YABU, I have given calpol to my kids for things that wouldn't stop them from leaving the house. Fresh air and germs are good for children!

I think the issue here is that you need to get help for your anxiety rather than expecting the world to bend to meet your fears.

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 19:03

I know a child could have calpol for many different reasons. But I am certain the kid said she had a cold and was feeling poorly. definitely heard the feeling poorly bit. Plus she looked wrecked after half hour or so at the park and the the way the mum was talking made it sound like she was ill with some kind of illness! Saying her daughter should go home and rest! As per usual I am jumping to the worse case scenario! But this is what I heard. Plus the mhm was coughing her guts up (I know people can cough without having covid of course). Anxiety sucks and petrified of covid! 😒

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TheBlueSheep · 12/08/2021 19:06

My DD takes calpol regularly for a pain condition. She's absolutely not contagious to other children but does get exhausted from it and can sit or lie down on benches at the park after short bursts of playing. You may also hear me asking her if she feels better or worse.

So YABU unless you know for certain it's not a pre-existing condition.

Mojoj · 12/08/2021 19:08

Why are you so terrified of catching Covid? I'm presuming by the hysterical note to your post that you've been doubly vaccinated? So, even if you do catch it from this child (who probably just had a bad cold), you'll be a bit sick and then, recover. Calm down ffs!!

LemonPeonies · 12/08/2021 19:08

vodkaredbullgirl · 12/08/2021 19:09

Chill out

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 19:09

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

YABU, I have given calpol to my kids for things that wouldn't stop them from leaving the house. Fresh air and germs are good for children!

I think the issue here is that you need to get help for your anxiety rather than expecting the world to bend to meet your fears.

I have two kids so I fully know there are lots or reasons calpol might be needed. I was explaining what I heard. Never did I say that a child that's taken calpol shouldn't be out! But if calpol is needed with any kind of virus they should be at home. Thankfully my two are super healthy and hardly ever get ill so I'm hoping that they won't catch whatever the child has, if anything!

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SnowyPetals · 12/08/2021 19:10

The thing is OP, in going out, you could encounter anyone who you don't happen to know any history for in the same or worse level of "illness" . It's partly a risk of stepping outside your door.

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 19:11

Why are people getting Agro about the calpol? I never said that if a child has calpol they shouldn't be out. I've been a parent for 11 years and know there's loads of reasons it could be needed. But the way the child was acting at the end looked like they were poorly and from what the mother was saying too! Gawd!

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SW1amp · 12/08/2021 19:12

To put it in perspective, the government (ie not travel companies, offices etc) is doing between 600-700k PCR tests per day, and the vast majority of those will be people who think they have symptoms - the tier 2 testing data

They are reporting around 30k cases per day for all testing types

So even if you assume most of those positive cases are coming from people with symptoms, that’s 30/600 - 0.05%
That’s a LOT of people with covid-symptoms who don’t have covid

We can’t assume that ever snuffle means covid - there is a 99.95% chance it isn’t

TheBlueSheep · 12/08/2021 19:12

@kcha302927

My DD goes pale with exhaustion due to her condition, she's still not contagious, and I still wouldn't keep her inside.

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 19:14

@Mojoj

You have no idea why I would be be petrified of it! People are being vaccinated and still getting seriously ill!

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Tablow · 12/08/2021 19:14

Some people resort to Calpol with a snuffly nose. Doesn't mean there was any fever necessarily. I'd probably avoid earwigging as it'll just make you paranoid.

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 19:16

@Tablow

Some people resort to Calpol with a snuffly nose. Doesn't mean there was any fever necessarily. I'd probably avoid earwigging as it'll just make you paranoid.

I don't earwig. The kids were stood right next to me. And the mother was nearby talking loudly in a very quiet park in the middle of nowhere. Hard not to hear!

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chaosrabbitland · 12/08/2021 19:17

dearie me , are you as petrified of catching or developing many of the other illnesses and diseases there are about or is it just covid ?

believe it or not there are many other things that can kill us you know.
im mystified why you would really become anxious over just one

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kcha302927 · 12/08/2021 19:29

@chaosrabbitland

dearie me , are you as petrified of catching or developing many of the other illnesses and diseases there are about or is it just covid ? believe it or not there are many other things that can kill us you know. im mystified why you would really become anxious over just one

Everything. Major health anxiety triggered by past experiences and seeing a lot of bad stuff in my 30 years of life.

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NautaOcts · 12/08/2021 19:31

How are you going to cope after 16th august when under 18s don’t have to isolate after being in close contact with someone with covid?
Genuine question, not being snippy

DuchessSilver · 12/08/2021 19:34

Don't kids still go to nursery/school with (non-covid) colds/coughs/dosed up on Calpol? Surely if mixing indoors like that is ok, going out to the park is fine?

Kanaloa · 12/08/2021 19:37

It does sound like you need some help with your anxiety. Her illness could have appeared less bad at home, and with a cold it’s sometimes better to get wrapped up and get some fresh air instead of lying in bed the whole time.

You could come into contact with Covid at any time from someone who doesn’t appear ill at all. If you were very worried you could have left the park at that time, but as I said if I was you I’d seek some help if you’re really petrified.

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