To think this is selfish ?

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Kids emigrated from Australia to live here. Moved to an area and put both kids into the local school. Moved the eldest one to a better school in the same area after 3 months. Both kids happy at their schools but now the parents want to move again to another nicer area in the same country meaning the kids will yet again have to change schools and lose their childminder who they really like.

They moved here in December 2020 I meant to add

Kids are very resilliant

(From an army kid who moved 6x before I left home at 22)

It's a lot of disruption, but as long as that was the last planned move (and the kids weren't going into gcse or a level years) I wouldn't see much of an issue.

They've been here 8/9 months, a good chunk of which was through lockdowns so they won't have many ties to their schools/friends.

Sounds like they are just finding their feet. I would not call this selfish, really.

I think that's an "it depends" situation. How old are the children? Are they used to moving around? Do the kids want to move or do they love their new place/school?

Kids are settled, made friends etc. The eldest getting into the new school was a real success as it's a very good one.

They seem anxious about yet another move.

As an ex army brat I don't really see your point.

You clearly think they are and have worded the post in such a way that people are likely to agree with you.

They will have their reasons and another move is a lot of upheaval and won't be done as flippantly as you are making out.

Where is the selfish? It seems to me parents are being selfless by making their children’s education a priority.

@MargotHeggerty

Kids are very resilliant

(From an army kid who moved 6x before I left home at 22)

Some kids are very resilient, many are not.

On the face of it it would seem unwise to move them again so soon. However it would depend on the personalities of the children really.

Ages are probably relevant here

I went to 5 different schools before going to sixth form college, I wouldn't recommend it, however my parents did what they felt was best for us as a family so maybe they are doing the same.

What’s your role in this?

Presumably the parents are moving because they think it will improve family life

I agree with @Touloser. If it were the final move, then that wouldn’t be so bad.

Could they compromise and move to a nicer house in the area they live in?

The word ‘selfish’ is so overused.
Most people are selfish to some extent, however much they deny it. It’s human nature.
Sounds like they’re finding their feet over here. It’s hard to know where is the best place to settle when moving from abroad (we’ve done it ourselves and moved a couple of times from coming from abroad to actually settling somewhere, although luckily for us it was before the DC were at school).
I’m sure they’re best placed to know whether their children will cope with the move or not.

Depends on a few things.

But my dp parents made big moves, got them settled then moved again. Him and his 2 sisters all really struggled with it.
Miss all about how it's handled

Are you one of the kids? No mother explanation for such a weird post.

I don't think it's uncommon after emigrating. We did similar, not having the 'insider' knowledge that comes with being a native.

How are you connected to these kids? Is it any of your business?

Sounds like the long term benefit could outweigh the short term disruption, so I wouldn’t say it’s selfish.

It's my grandkids friends.
Just feel for the children as they are only 8 (twins) and do seem anxious about it.

Grandkids friends? You’re not really close enough to have any idea of their motivations for the move.

8 year old twins, but they moved the eldest one

You said they moved the eldest one.....5hen said they're twins. Twins are born on the same day are they not?

Worried about being outed so not twins but more or less around that age