I don’t drink at all, I don’t think it’s that uncommon but some people seem to find it surprising or odd, but doesn’t matter what they think.
Apparently a colleague of my partner’s, she was saying to him, “Really? She doesn’t drink?! So you’re the only one who gets drunk?”
Then once I ordered a non alcoholic drink from the bar they worked at, and she said “here’s a cocktail’ and laughed.
I went to the bar with my partner tonight where he works, he got quite drunk. I was drinking coke, at one point he came over with something alcoholic in a small glass and said ‘here you go, try this’ and I could see the colleagues looking at me and laughing. I asked what was funny and didn’t really get why they were laughing and looking at me but my partner said they weren’t.
I am quieter than him and he’s very outgoing, especially when he’s drunk he can get quite ‘lairy’
There’s someone who’s a writer there who’s quite successful and I write as a hobby. My partner has said in the past I should talk to him and he’s right. He says I should talk to people more in general which I agree with.
This writer was there and my partner and his two colleagues were at the bar. My partner was gently nudging my back and saying ‘talk,talk!’
I felt embarrassed, he was then trying to push me in the direction of the writer and saying ‘go on, talk to him’
He was saying the ‘talk’ in front of other people and I felt a bit embarrassed and like some sort of puppet.
Outside I told him that I understood but that I’d appreciate him not doing that. He said he knew it was forceful but he was trying to help.
It’s a separate issue from the drinking thing but maybe I’m embarrassed about that too.
Once at a waffle bar I said to my boyfriend I wonder how they make the bubble ones. He said, you should ask the waitress. Again it became the same thing, go on, ask, ask, go on. Not stopping until I did.
I find when people do that it just puts me on the spot. I think with regard to the talking thing, I was stood at the bar too, trying to join in and I was maybe quiet, but there’s nothing stopping his colleagues from talking to me either.