I can’t look at this tombstone without seeing a fanjo

[UnitedWire]

Aibu? I mean … I guess it must be a stylised letter M, but …

@greenalltheway

Why is ET on a Hereford church?

Because if he flashed his fanjo on a spaceship he might’ve offended someone.

@EverybodyIsInteresting

Where in Edinburgh is it? I know someone that might be interested...

In doing what?

Why are posters saying other posters are offended? No one has said that
They have just stated that they think it's in bad taste
Perfectly valid

In doing what?

Ummm... what makes you think he'd be 'doing' something? Don't worry, I don't think they'll be robbing it or dancing on it. And they may well know of it already.

Well it wouldn't be the first. Once researching content for s previous job I came across a lady who had her lady parts immortalised as part of her headstone. Apparently so that her husband wouldn't stray after death.

Yours totally looks like a bend over shot. I can't think what else it would be?

Here it is..

m.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/10/29/vagina-gravestone-milan-marinkovic-wifes-vulva-tomb_n_2039378.html

Wow, @Treacletoots!

I’m honestly torn between thinking (1) “surely they would never have done this deliberately — it must be accidental” and (2) “surely at least one person must have realised how it looks — it must be deliberate”.

And I can sort of imagine a scenario in which someone commissioned it deliberately, but relied on there being multiple ways of viewing it and on everyone else being either too innocent/oblivious to “see” the daring one, or too polite to say anything.

Anyway, all speculation of course.

@EverybodyIsInteresting, is the person you know doing something academic along these lines?

@MuddyStiletto

Why are posters saying other posters are offended? No one has said that They have just stated that they think it's in bad taste Perfectly valid

Ah, I see. Well, it was very generous of them to go to the trouble of letting me know.

They’re very welcome to go and hang out on threads they like better.

Erm, my point being that no one has said they are offended @UnitedWire
You have posted on AIBU
Take it on the chin

@MuddyStiletto

Erm, my point being that no one has said they are offended *@UnitedWire* You have posted on AIBU Take it on the chin

Yes, honestly, I understood your point Muddy. Fair enough, people have different opinions about what’s in bad taste.

My AIBU was more about whether the symbol is reminiscent of a fanjo, and I think there’s a range of opinions on that, all of which I am finding interesting.

Nobody has said they are offended, that's true.

One or two very much make it seem like they are. But they didn't state it explicitly, so you are absolutely correct. Nobody actually said it.

Then blur the names as previously suggested 🙄 it's not difficult @UnitedWire

That's purely pornographic! Hilarious.

I've seen stylised Ms which look very similar, and that fits with the first few surnames.

Ah now Sheila na gigs, they cannot be anything else. Kilpeck Church in Herefordshire (I think) has some amazing carvings.

I can't unsee it either! The little indents on either side suggest it MUST be intentional...?!

@MuddyStiletto

Then blur the names as previously suggested 🙄 it's not difficult *@UnitedWire*

Muddy fgs, I’m not going to get the photo of a historic tombstone in a busy public location taken down and repost it with blurred names, on the basis of a few people’s opinions about this light-hearted discussion of a carved symbol on it being in poor taste.

If I thought it looked like something else, a surprising cultural symbol maybe, would that be in poor taste? No, it’s only because fanjos have been mentioned and a glimmer of humour is involved that anyone’s getting aerated about taste. Which is really silly. And IMO slightly sad.

I’ve acknowledged your opinion politely but it’s not one I agree with. Nor was it the point of the thread so please knock it off with the “it’s not difficult” rubbish.

Sorry but that is soooooo boring, was expecting something more.

*MuddyStiletto

Then blur the names as previously suggested 🙄 it's not difficult @UnitedWire*

Why? Because you said so?

Marvellous OP! Without doubt, a fanjo

Bonus points for enraging all the joyless prudes trying to protect the identity of those on the gravestone. Imagine being outed so humiliatingly whilst trying to enjoy one's second or third century of eternal rest.

@UnitedWire it's about the symbol, so just blur the names..I have made my point
I'm on board for any piss take but not one about memorials
You don't know whether is cultural or personal, it doesn't matter
It's distasteful to take the mick

I wonder if it is just something as simple as the stonemason dying before he finished it?
Compared to the ornate swirly things on the side (you can tell I'm an expert with the terminology), the carving under discussion looks a bit crude/basic/unfinished.
Or maybe the family ran out of money and just paid for what was done up to that point?

@Postitmug

Marvellous OP! Without doubt, a fanjo

Bonus points for enraging all the joyless prudes trying to protect the identity of those on the gravestone. Imagine being outed so humiliatingly whilst trying to enjoy one's second or third century of eternal rest.

It goes to show there’s no rest for the wicked!

Muddy, in my earlier posts I’ve explained I’m not just “taking the mick”. This symbol is in a public place, it’s unusual and looks slightly racy, so it raised a smile. That’s not hurting or insulting anyone or invading anyone’s privacy. There’s literally no reason to blur out the names on the stone.

You are not the final arbiter of taste and nor am I obviously, it’s subjective and context-dependent. Not sure why you keep saying “just blur the names”.

You can feel differently of course but you are mischaracterising the post by insisting it’s a cynical piss-take.

It’s clearly a dentist’s tombstone and this is a stylised molar

(Or a tasteful feminist depiction of a 300yo fanjo.)

@BSintolerant It goes to show there’s no rest for the wicked!

Amazing!!