To be lonely and bored on a Sunday morning

[MiddleOfThePack]

Been up since 7am with the dogs. Can't do any housework yet as no-one else is up [I have 4 other adults/kidults in the house] - it's now 1030. I'm feeling lonely and bored. I've done some hoovering and got a load in the dishwasher. Done some online shopping and walked the puppy [older dog doesn't get a walk first thing as puppy is quite lively until later on].

Washed down the kitchen surfaces and done some family admin. Now I just want to go upstairs with a pan lid and WAKE EVERYONE UP

Would that be unreasonable?

What would your plans be if everyone was awake?

Noooooo. Enjoy the peace before the chaos 😜

What will you do once everyone is awake?

You need to learn to entertain yourself or learn how to relax.

Its Sunday morning, relax infront of the tv or read a book.

YABVU to wake up others.

Try living alone on a crappy weather Sunday and when its even too much effort to get out if bed! That's lonely!

Hoovering, dusting, cleaning loos, walk the dogs somewhere. Go back to bed for a bit? Go for a run. Anything really. Every weekend I kind of hope that at least one of them might get up and take the dogs out or do some housework instead of it being me all the time while they all snore?

I've done some BSL online learning too so am doing some constructive stuff. I just hate when DH says 'oh good - it's raining so I can laze about all day', knowing that means he will watch TV / do sudoku's all day; whilst I'm doing chores around him. The kids come and go as they please and just moan

oh I don't know - ...I'm just having a whinge really.

Enjoy the peace and quiet!

I would curl up on the sofa with a large cup of coffee and a book or one of my favourite TV shows and enjoy some doggy cuddles.

Fuck that. Don't do chores indulge yourself. Meet a friend for a walk and brunch. Go and buy a new book and read it. Watch a film. Start booking stuff to do (easier on a Saturday) like a massage or park run or go to a art gallery. Why are you doing all the chores? Is it the 1950s?

Stop doing the housework. Why aren’t the others doing it? Who is cooking lunch/dinner? How old are the DC?

If they are old enough to walk the dog, wake them up and get them doing something.

Do you have to get up at 7am for the dogs? Our dog is used to getting up slightly later at the weekend (think he likes the lie in too!)

@MiddleOfThePack

Hoovering, dusting, cleaning loos, walk the dogs somewhere. Go back to bed for a bit? Go for a run. Anything really. Every weekend I kind of hope that at least one of them might get up and take the dogs out or do some housework instead of it being me all the time while they all snore?

I've done some BSL online learning too so am doing some constructive stuff. I just hate when DH says 'oh good - it's raining so I can laze about all day', knowing that means he will watch TV / do sudoku's all day; whilst I'm doing chores around him. The kids come and go as they please and just moan

oh I don't know - ...I'm just having a whinge really.

You need to put your foot down and assign each of them chores, instead of doing it for them

You need to learn to entertain yourself or learn how to relax.

God yes!

Why would you not put the radio on, make a nice snack and settle in to read the papers?!

Don't do the chores around them!

What about doing some exercise? Or getting the papers and sitting down with a coffee?

Sometimes if I want to see my dc at weekend, I just cook them a lovely breakfast and call them down. (they clear up afterwards though...).

I would go out for the day, to a gallery, have a coffee, visit a local market (I'm in London so it's easy, appreciate you might not) or go to a local town and mooch.

Buy a nice book/mag and go home and read it on the sofa.

Spend the time doing stuff you want then when they wake up and dh announced lazing time say “I know, great! But first please do X”. Everyone gets an X. The jobs get done and everyone gets chill time a little after they already would. It’s annoying to gave to ask but if they have ALWAYS slept late and woken to a pristine house and you have never said anything they will need told explicitly

Learning how to be by yourself and have down time is really important. Your happiness is not other people's responsibility. Its not healthy to need to have every hour and every minute full of action.

Take uo yoga and mindfulness, it might just help.

I've done some BSL online learning too so am doing some constructive stuff. I just hate when DH says 'oh good - it's raining so I can laze about all day', knowing that means he will watch TV / do sudoku's all day; whilst I'm doing chores around him. The kids come and go as they please and just moan

Are these chores necessary or are you doing them because it gives you something to do? If they're necessary, get your DH to help. If they're not, just stop doing them.

It doesn't sound like your kids are that young, so can't you leave them at home with DH and the dogs and go out? Meet a friend for lunch at a pub, do some shopping, go to the cinema or something?

Perfect excuse to chill in front of the telly

I kind of get what you’re saying, I felt like this yesterday, did loads of washing and ironing and baked, but it feels lonely knowing there’s others in the house (teens/young adults) who just want to sleep or play on consoles.
I took myself off for a walk about 3pm and bumped into my neighbour and we had a lovely chat! It really lifted my mood!!

@MiddleOfThePack

Hoovering, dusting, cleaning loos, walk the dogs somewhere. Go back to bed for a bit? Go for a run. Anything really. Every weekend I kind of hope that at least one of them might get up and take the dogs out or do some housework instead of it being me all the time while they all snore?

I've done some BSL online learning too so am doing some constructive stuff. I just hate when DH says 'oh good - it's raining so I can laze about all day', knowing that means he will watch TV / do sudoku's all day; whilst I'm doing chores around him. The kids come and go as they please and just moan

oh I don't know - ...I'm just having a whinge really.

Well don't allow yourself to be the kind of doormat that does all the chores while everyone else is in the house lazing around. Suggest that you all chip in to do the chores, and then chill and watch TV later when it's all done. There's nothing better than that moment when you sit down knowing there's no more chores to be done! But you should all share them, don't just do them all yourself and then complain about it.

If your DH is glad when it rains because "he can do sudoku" then you really need to LTB. All the other behaviour is fine but sudoku is unforgivable.

Why not just get up, go out and treat yourself to brunch somewhere nice and leave the hordes at home to fend for themselves?

Also, send your DH and the kids a list of chores you want done before you're coming home. Ask them to message when they're all done and have a lovely time yourself until then.

why can't you go for a run now?

You are being ridiculous. Why do you need other people to tell you how to relax? I'd hate to live with someone who couldn't relax or criticised me for relaxing. My weekend is doing nice things or chilling (minimal housework which is shared), especially on a rainy day. DH can't sit on his backside but he never gets on at me for bring different. Honestly, you need to chill out.

@OldTinHat

Try living alone on a crappy weather Sunday and when its even too much effort to get out if bed! That's lonely!

Yep!!!

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