Sharing bed situation on holiday

[DollyParton2]

Hi all
We are going to France tomorrow and staying in a private house. I have a newborn and 2 kids 5 and 9. I’ve been cosleeping with baby at home (DH in guest room) but on holiday will put him in a cot next to bed- and share the bed again with DH. However if it doesn’t work out- either baby not happy in cot or both me and DH stressed would it be acceptable do you think for DH to share a double bed with DD (5)? Neither of them would mind at all.... Or is it just a no no for a girl to share with her dad? Thanks!

I put YABU for even thinking that a dad sharing a bed with his 5 year old is a no no!!! Of course he can!!

I think it's completely fine (but I'll be interested in the other answers!) - I have a baby and a 3 year old and would kick DH out on holiday if I needed to co-sleep and that was the only way. Holidays are hard work and you need to ensure that everyone has the most asleep possible under the circumstances. 5 can't be that different from 3!

If course it's fine?! Why wouldn't it be?! She's 5!!!! It may be a little awkward for a teen (but even then not an absolute no go in an 'emergency')

Its absolutly fine (I shared a bed with my ill 12 year old son last month when he had covid)

Gosh what a strange question
Why on earth would you think it’s not fine

Absolutely fine!

It's weird that you are questioning it.

Absolutely fine.

@NautaOcts

Gosh what a strange question Why on earth would you think it’s not fine

This.

OP if your newborn is a boy do you feel sharing a bed with him is innapropriate?

Thanks all. I know it’s awful but in this day and age when everything seems to be dissected and over analysed and criticised I just wasn’t sure. I’m also very sleep deprived so not thinking straight! Thanks for sorting me out x

My husband and I bedshare with our 5 year old DD!

I get it OP, you can't win on here. You'll outrage posters either way. Trust your instincts.

Of course it's absolutely fine!

@DollyParton2

Thanks all. I know it’s awful but in this day and age when everything seems to be dissected and over analysed and criticised I just wasn’t sure. I’m also very sleep deprived so not thinking straight! Thanks for sorting me out x

Who would be dissecting the sleeping arrangements of your holiday? This isn't something you need to share with people. Just do what works for your family.

My five year old would love a holiday of sleepovers. He loves sharing a bed.

I really don't know why it would be weird!

It’s weird that you even feel the need to ask. Of course it’s fine.

I think its really sad and odd you even have to ask no matter how sleep deprived you are.

A totally normal, non issue (unless there is some horrible backstory or he isn’t her dad!)

It’s such a nonissue! Of course a 5 year old can share a bed with their parent

If it's not something you've considered before, of course you'd want to ask. Perfectly reasonable.

Most people wouldn't think twice about it, bundle them in together and be happy.

My grandma wouldn't allow me to co-sleep with my grandfather, even if she was there too. She knew he was a child sex abuser. I didn't know, and never experienced that side of him. But that kind of possibility is what's giving you an instinctive 'Is this ok?' Even if you're sure that doesn't apply in this case. I think that's just you protecting your child.

If it seems right to you, do it.

Absolutely fine. DP, dd and I all bed shared loads of times on holiday when she was young enough for us all to fit in one bed.

Of course it's ok!!

What a sad world we live in where we have to ask if that’s ok. It’s a lovely idea and I bet they would love some dadda/daughter time.

Just do whatever makes your hol go smoothly and have a lovely time.

I used to share a bed with my 12 year old boy on holiday. As long as both parties are happy - go for it.

I think it's fine as long as they're under the age of 10, I wouldn't want to make a child past that age share with anyone incase it made them uncomfortable etc.