To have no sympathy anymore?

[reachedtheendofmytether]

OH is ill. OH is ALWAYS ill.

He has one chronic issue that leaves him laid up that can be managed with medication fairly well. But he doesn't manage it so that keeps him out of action for a few nights a week.

When his usual illness is ok, there's always something. A cold, a bad stomach, toothache. The list is endless. He doesn't look after himself at all and I refuse to do it for him. He's a grown man and I'm not his mother.

I've given up asking how he is now because I'm sick of hearing how ill he is. I can't hide my eye rolls well any more.

May be worth mentioning that I have 2 small children who make far less fuss when they're not well.

Adult activity is the last thing on my mind, it's making him quite unattractive to me. Of course at bedtime he is well up for it and I'm the bad guy

Takes to his bed because he's 'ill' but still wants to shag - I would move out of the bed because you feel he needs all the sleep he can get for his 'illness' to get better.
Does he go out to work?

He sounds awful. About four years ago I was really ill. Had to take massive amounts of medication. I felt truly awful but just carried on because I was so scared of missing out on life that I loved. Previously I would have taken to my bed with much mixer symptoms but this experience made me so frightened I would have nothing left that I loved doing I just kept going. I'm completely recovered now but it taught me a lot and I don't take health for granted.

People with chronic conditions really need to understand that sympathy is limited - do what you can to manage your condition and sympathy should absolutely be expected when it flairs up. Take no responsibility for managing your condition or alleviating it, you get no sympathy.