DH decided he hated his job and wanted to retrain. He planned to set up a little computer shop and work out of the shop doing repairs. For 9 months he’s been training at weekends. He took a week off work to do a short course. He bought equipment. Total spend £3k.
I’ve supported him by looking after DD more than my fair share and doing more chores. He said when he opened the shop I would be the assistant. So he would be out the back doing repairs and I would talk to customers, order the parts, do the accounts and the advertising, etc. I was excited. I even did a short course on accounting. I’m disabled and without going into too much detail my disability makes it difficult for me to get hired. Employers meet me and reject me at face value, this has happened over and over since I finished college ten years ago. So I thought this was an opportunity for me to succeed without being discriminated against. Also a chance to work flexibly around caring for DD. We got approved for a business loan and started looking for premises to open the shop in January.
Last week DH’s employer offered him a promotion and he accepted. He said he was only quitting because he felt undervalued but now he’s been promoted so he’s staying. I said wtf? You’ve wasted £3k and a whole load of my time and effort, and now you’re throwing it away? I was really angry. But more than anything I’m upset because my chance of being the assistant is gone. I won’t get another opportunity and I just feel incredibly depressed, like my chance has been snatched away. I’m not eating or sleeping because I’m so upset.
AIBU to be furious about this? DH says I’m being selfish and he isn’t speaking to me. Newspapers please don’t steal this story, I’m disabled and depressed and I just need some help, I don’t need my struggles publicised thanks.