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To think people on pulic transport should be aware of how inappropriate some conversations are in the presence of children???

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VictorianSqualor · 28/11/2007 16:36

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

I get the bus four times a day, once full of school/college age kids, and never have I had to ask them to think about what they are saying whilst my almost 3 and 7 year olds are on the bus.

Yet today, getting on the bus with two young parents (who I actually smiled at when getting on the bus, it was nice to see the daddy with baby in a sling) I had to ask them to watch what they were saying.

I was sat right in front of them with DS, and their conversation was very graphic about how someone was going to get 'their fucking head smashed in' at first I gnored them but as the convo got more and more in detail I felt I had to say something.

So, nicely, I asked 'Do you mind saving that conversation for when we get off the bus' and was told to 'fuck off', I ended up in an exchange with them that went along the lines of.

'Do you mind saving that conversation for when we get off the bus'
'Fuck off'
'look, I'd prefer my child not to be exposed to that kind of talk, he doesn't hear it elsewhere, it's your choice what you say in front of yours, but please not in front of mine'
'If you've got a fucking problem, then move'
'Well, no, I shan't move, I've paid for my seat, I'm just asking you to refrain from that kind of talk'
'We've paid for our fucking seats so we'll say what we fucking want'
'Yes, you have paid for your seat but you haven't pid for the privilege to fill my childs head with the disgusting and quite frankly disturbing conversation you are having in his presence'
'I shouldkick your fucking head in you stupid bitch'
'Ah, such an intelligent retort, I assume you believe everything can be sorted with violence.'

After this there was not another word said, but I actually felt slightly apprehensive when I got off at the next stop.

I'm 26 years old, and was walking with my 3yr old son to get DD from school, and am shocked that anyone, especially two 15ish year olds(they were talking about the soon-to-be victim being in their class)could make me feel worried about my own safety in this way, I almost wished I hadn't mentioned it.

It has made me a great deal more aware of what elderly people must think, all that was going through my head was that I was 5 months pregnant, what if they punched my stomach? what effect would it have on DS if they were to get off and get agressive?

Was I being unreasonable in expecting them to be polite back and watch what they were saying? Or should I have moved?

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beeper · 28/11/2007 16:40

In princliple you are not being unreasonalbe at all....but looking at the world as it is basically give up any hope of people who talk like that ever caring about who they say it in front of.

I am sorry that the guy was such a git to you and you were probably scared.

If I were you if future I would just move, I have done this in the past myself, I also turn over lads mags in tesco so my kid cant see them.

Its so sad the way the world is but thats just the way it is.

Thats why I dont use public transport and drive my car everywhere, I know people go on about climate change but does Gordan brown use public transport and have to put up with that rubbish...I dont think so... Gordon brown can put my carbon footprint where the sun dont shine.