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Lighting fires at 4?

42 replies

Paperdolly · 05/08/2021 18:19

My GD’s nursery has been teaching my 4 year old how to light fires with a metal implement to make sparks. AIBU to think this is not an appropriate age for fire starting 😱

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Findahouse21 · 05/08/2021 18:20

In a safe and supervised way I think it's great.

jendifer · 05/08/2021 18:21

Depends - lots of the outdoor nurseries here do it and my nephew was taught at a similar age on the fire in the lounge. How about talking to the nursery about it and your concerns

Ozanj · 05/08/2021 18:21

It would be impressive if any of the kids have the hand eye coordination and patience to actually do it

Noluthando · 05/08/2021 18:22

It's fine, this is done within forest school methods. Also young children using knives.

Sparklesocks · 05/08/2021 18:22

I remember learning this as a kid but it’s actually really difficult to pull off - takes a lot of time and effort to actually get a spark going in my experience, more than the attention span of most children!

LeroyJenkinssss · 05/08/2021 18:23

It’s fine. My DH taught our children at about this age to light campfires and use knives etc. So long as it’s done under supervision I can’t see the issue

Noluthando · 05/08/2021 18:23

Was the ethos of the nursery not outlined when you enrolled ?

ForeverSausages · 05/08/2021 18:23

Was going to say similar to the above. My son attended a forest nursery and there was loads of making fires & using knives. They're shown in a controlled environment and fully supervised and my son loved it Smile.

Coriandersucks · 05/08/2021 18:24

My ds does this at forest school and absolutely loves it. They don’t use metal though they use wood and firefighters but he can do it and they roast marshmallows over it. I think it’s lovely, a useful skill and helps them know how to be safe around fire rather than develop a fascination later on and do dangerous experiments.

54321nought · 05/08/2021 18:24

sounds great!

Potcallingkettle · 05/08/2021 18:24

It’s probably part of a forest school session which will be run by an accredited practitioner and the children will be fully supervised whilst doing it.

Sunshinedaisymeadowsxx · 05/08/2021 18:25

My DS nursery did this too… very outdoor based. He loved it at the time… like most things though he’s now 6 and has no memory of it.
Don’t think she will turn into a fire starter op!

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 05/08/2021 18:25

Confused I'm baffled. Sounds like you sent your DC to a forest school nursery or similar but you're upset about the things they're teaching them. Didn't you look around? Read the website/leaflets?

KindergartenKop · 05/08/2021 18:27

My 6 year old does it.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 05/08/2021 18:27

As long as they teach fire safety too.

HungryHippo11 · 05/08/2021 18:27

Do you think hes going to start lighting fires in the living room or burning down garden sheds? It is a good idea to teach children to respect and safely interact with dangerous objects such as fire and knives, in a safe and supervised environment. They're less likely to be injured by a fire if they know what it is and how to behave around it.

User5827372728 · 05/08/2021 18:28

My 4 year old does this at his forest school, they also use knives to sharpen wood and cook on fire

girlmom21 · 05/08/2021 18:28

My DD would love this. Presumably her parents chose to send her to a nursery school that encouraged these activities?

BingBongToTheMoon · 05/08/2021 18:34

Perfectly safe. Ours taught them how to use knives, saws, drills (hand cranked) & all sorts at 3.
It’s brilliant.

Majkali · 05/08/2021 18:35

Mine did this at forest school, they made a fire, made some food, cooked it on the fire then ate it. I think it's brilliant.

donquixotedelamancha · 05/08/2021 18:46

I think DD2 was two YO when I first took her to do this.

AIBU to think this is not an appropriate age for fire starting

Why? Does he/she have her own magnesium striker? Do you regularly leave her with fire starting materials but just relied on the fact she didn't know what fire is?

beigebrownblue · 05/08/2021 18:52

Lots of forest schools about these days. Surely it falls into the essential survival skills category?

Taliskerskye · 05/08/2021 18:54

My cousins 5 year old did it. And they then burnt down the school.

Taliskerskye · 05/08/2021 18:54

Not at 5 obvs. She was 10 at the time

Scotinoz · 05/08/2021 18:58

Yeah, my kids did that. No arson attempts yet!

They also used knives and saws…