She won’t stop blowing raspberries

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Dd, 3.

She’s always been fairly ‘Spirited’ but is wild at the moment. Won’t stop blowing raspberries, talking about bums and poo and laughing when I tell her off,
Is this normal? Feeling like I’m losing control, what can I do? Driving me insane

My DS, 5 in a week, is obsessed with wee and poo.

Ignore it, it'll stop when it doesn't get a reaction.

Tell her about the Phantom Raspberry Blower of Old London Town. She laugh so much she'll tire herself out.

[quote Somanymilesaway]@melj1213 ? Her behaviour is becoming out of control now[/quote]
She's 3. Not a teenager doing drugs and sleeping around, getting drunk on the park with her mates. You need to calm down, you're making this much bigger than it is and needs to be

The book “how to talk so little kids will listen” is full of ideas of how to communicate effectively with little children. You might have to turn everything into a game or roll play but anything is better than constantly saying “no don’t do that” in my opinion, it’s so tiring.

She will grow out of it, it's a phase.

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I feel your pain our 3yo’s behaviour has also become really challenging. Also does raspberries, lots of wee and poo talk. I’m not too fussed by toilet talk but am conscious that in covid times wet raspberries are really not desirable in public or at nursery. I feel like we spend the whole time negotiating with her threatening sanctions or promising rewards to get her to correct her behaviour. I know this is not the right way to truly develop positive behaviour that is intrinsically motivated but equally I need to survive the day and unfortunately I do not operate at optimum parenting level when in worn out survival mode- which at 5 months pregnant is basically all the time. Sending solidarity and remember whatever you prOmise (reward or sanction) you MUST follow through with no matter how annoying
Or hard it is to have to do. If they think threats are empty you really are done for

Honestly I don’t put up with that sort of behaviour. Too many parents ignore bad behaviour and that’s how schools end up teaching entitled little shits who have never been told no. If my 3yo blows raspberries I say that’s rude, don’t do that. And I won’t engage or play until it stops. If he throws clothes I tell him it’s naughty and make him pick them up. Removing a toy is sufficient punishment at that age and usually results in good behaviour to get the toy back.

She's 3.

One morning she'll wake up and move onto doing something else that's annoying. It's what 3 year olds do.

Bear with me. I am not on the wrong thread.

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My cherubic little nephew used to delight in saying this football players name...contantly....in (almost) convincing wide eyed innocence. Heavy emphasis on the "Wank" part. His mum was not amused.

His dad was a West Bromwich Albion fan so the little bugger had LOTS of opportunity.

The little "angels" will test you. It's normal.

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So your 3 year old is behaving like a 3 year old.

What's your question?

I get it, OP. It is hard.

When she blows the raspberry, have you tried just saying, ‘No, that’s just silly behaviour. Look, why don’t we do....’ so you are ‘deadpanning’ the undesirable behaviour but also re-directing to another activity, for example, ‘How quickly can you pick those clothes back up again?’ and then lots of enthusiastic praise when she does it quickly.

Please don’t be upset by the sneery remarks on this thread about naps and all that. Some people forget what it’s like. Good luck!

Mine went through a phase of raspberries. As soon as they started with it I started singing a nursery rhyme, they stopped blowing and joined in cause it was more fun and by the time the rhyme was over they'd forgotten about raspberries. They then just walked around the house singing, which can be equally annoying when it's repetitive but less so than raspberries.

Every child different so might not work with yours but (shrugs)

At that age, and still at 4, my Gds found everything to do with bums, farts, willies and poos, hilarious. IMO it’s pretty normal at that age, and the more you make a thing of it, the more she’ll probably do it. I don’t suppose anybody’s going to be shocked, if that’s what you’re worried about.

Well, not unless you’re planning to visit some very prudish elderly maiden lady - the type who can’t even think of hanging her knickers on the washing line, and refers to them (if she ever has to) as ‘unmentionables’.

@PigeonPink

Honestly I don’t put up with that sort of behaviour. Too many parents ignore bad behaviour and that’s how schools end up teaching entitled little shits who have never been told no. If my 3yo blows raspberries I say that’s rude, don’t do that. And I won’t engage or play until it stops. If he throws clothes I tell him it’s naughty and make him pick them up. Removing a toy is sufficient punishment at that age and usually results in good behaviour to get the toy back.

Thank goodness I’m not alone! I never tolerated irritating crap like that either. Clearly I’m some kind of evil control freak. Although my kids seemed to have turned out fine - despite not being able to blow raspberries at me all day and talk obsessively about bums.

Op if you have asked her to stop either walk away from her or put her away from you. Explain if she listens to you then you will want to play with her again.

I was literally googling how much should a toddler laugh today as my dd barely does! Isn't grumpy though but I expected there to be more hysterical laughter so I would love to have your problem right now!
Seriously though sounds normal 🙂

Does she feel well liked by you?

Do you get a proper break from childcare so you’re fresh and have you’re own needs met

Just walking off disinterested works for me

Re throwing clothes etc i’d usually say “ we dont throw clothes. Let’s find a ball instead” and the go get a ball. Repeat as necessary.
And yes poo and bum “jokes” are pretty standard.

@SaltySheepdog I really hope so? 😕what do you mean?

No, I don’t really get a break..a few hours every other night when dp takes her to bed