...to share this bitchy anonymous note?

[pollyglot]

As a teacher of 45 years' experience, I thought I was all over bullying, until I read this in the paper:

www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/age-is-no-barrier-elderly-resident-targeted-by-retirement-village-bullies/6R7KEMWWPRPPY2V4LP56JCVFXQ/

@Mandalay246

The anonymous note was the wrong way to go about it. But if the garden is messy it needs to be tidied up. One messy garden brings down the whole road.

Oh dear, we can't have that can we - especially in a naice area! In actual fact people are entitled to do whatever they want in their own garden - and to hell with the whole road. If I received such a note I would be inclined to go for a late night walk with a container of Roundup.

🤣 I am hoping for a good AIBU wheelchair parking story when I’m that age.

It's just a cranky letter written by some cranky (and almost certainly socially awkward) resident with nothing better to do. It's not nice, but if this is the most upsetting thing you've seen after years of teaching, you have lived an exceptionally sheltered life.

I think actually sending a note to someone to ask them to tidy up their bit of a communal area is not necessarily a bad thing. But it sounds like just different styles of gardening rather than an actual scruffy plot. I like wildlife-friendly gardening, natural looking growth, cottage garden borders, vegetable-growing and dislike neat lawns and regimented planting, but then wouldn't live somewhere that required a manicured garden.

Well, there was a photo of the typewritten letter with the article, which included exactly those phrases. Are you saying the tabloid forged it to make a story?

It just reads as fake to me.

And who uses a type writer?!

@Cadent

And who uses a type writer?!

An unpleasant old person who isn’t computer literate and doesn’t want to be identified by his/her handwriting? Not clear whether ‘Daisy Mae’ is a pseudonym…

Actually, it might have been word-processed, anyway — the link no longer works so can’t check.

The link won't open for me.

The link won't open for me either.

@VexedofVirginiaWater

The link won't open for me.

I can't access link either. Clearly been removed!

I'd print the letters off at A0 size or bigger, and fix to a post.

Then plant that

I prefer to think (hope) that 'Daisy May' is a loner and only one resident is a total cunt.

Link doesn't work!

@BlithePilgrim

An unpleasant old person who isn’t computer literate and doesn’t want to be identified by his/her handwriting? Not clear whether ‘Daisy Mae’ is a pseudonym…

Unpleasant old person? Your ageism is showing.

Actually, it might have been word-processed, anyway — the link no longer works so can’t check.

Because they probably realised it was a fake story.

I have found it elsewhere, for those who missed it.

^^ Sorry, not sure if you can actually read that!

[quote Cadent]@BlithePilgrim

An unpleasant old person who isn’t computer literate and doesn’t want to be identified by his/her handwriting? Not clear whether ‘Daisy Mae’ is a pseudonym…

Unpleasant old person? Your ageism is showing.

Actually, it might have been word-processed, anyway — the link no longer works so can’t check.

Because they probably realised it was a fake story.[/quote]
My ageism isn’t showing at all. Old people aren’t exempt from being unpleasant.

I will try again!

The letter seems snotty and point scoring rather than bullying.

Unpleasant old person? Your ageism is showing

Are you saying you think that letter was written by someone pleasant?

Mean Girls retirement village..

Oops!
Looks like a dead end.

Back up or head to our homepage….

Thanks snickettyLemon, I can read the letter you posted!

What a grotesque bunch of people that live there. (Or just one nut job, claiming community support for their views).

Can imagine it would get too many new residents keen to move in there now.

@Viviennemary

The anonymous note was the wrong way to go about it. But if the garden is messy it needs to be tidied up. One messy garden brings down the whole road.

Maybe people should just mind their own business and pay less attention to what other people are doing!

Why am I the only one who can't open the link? It just says I've come to a dead end!

[quote Cadent]@BlithePilgrim

An unpleasant old person who isn’t computer literate and doesn’t want to be identified by his/her handwriting? Not clear whether ‘Daisy Mae’ is a pseudonym…

Unpleasant old person? Your ageism is showing.

Actually, it might have been word-processed, anyway — the link no longer works so can’t check.

Because they probably realised it was a fake story.[/quote]
I think you misunderstand ‘ageism’. Unless you are labouring under the delusion that referring to one person, who is by definition old because he or she lives in a sheltered community for old people, and who is unpleasant by virtue of having sent a deeply nasty semi-anonymous letter, as ‘old’ and ‘unpleasant’, is ageist.