To drink every day

[LionSGuard]

Well not every day, but most.

AIBU to have one bottle of cider most days? Bulmers, Kopparberg type.

I rarely have more than one but will have one most days. I don't feel I need it and there are days where I don't, because I don't fancy it or just forgot we have them in, but I do like the taste and tend to have one as my drink with my meal at night.

@supersonicginandtonic ok, but not drinking alcohol daily won't hurt anybody, so anger at advice that recommends drinking less seems strange, even if the advice is incorrect!

Interesting that you as a professional disagree with DrinkAware about what is a safe/unsafe drinking level. Why is that?

It is a bit melodramatic to call one drink a day being a 'functioning alcoholic'.

It's not a great habit, but the OP is clearly aware of it. It's when people aren't aware and drink several a night following the 'live your life to the max' and 'you only live once' mantra.

@OrangeElk because the only reason the person got that response was that they put a family member had concerns. Most family members who have concerns are of people who have problematic drinking. OPs partner just made a passing comment.
If the OP came into service for an assessment she wouldn't score anywhere near worrrylng levels on the triage forms.

@rosie1959 cross post sorry. But alcoholics don't start at excessive consumption do they? It's a progressive thing I always thought. No bad thing to reconsider your alcohol use when it's at reasonable levels surely? You don't have to hit rock bottom.

I am an alcoholic, 7 months sober now, I started with one beer a night which crept up to four (or more) over a decade. I wish I had been more careful when it was just one but I didn't understand the nature of alcohol or addiction back then.

Ok, I always kind of thought that question was there as people can be less than honest (not intentionally) when reporting their drinking, so I guess it serves the purpose of seeing what those who actually witness the drinking feel about it.

OrangleElk no everyone has to start somewhere but as I said it was a comment that the OP is a functioning alcoholic now on one bottle a day
You know yourself now that everyone who drinks regularly is not necessarily an alcoholic the illness goes much deeper than that
Good luck in you recovery

I'd say it's a bit much but not awful. Maybe you could try a few days on alcohol free ones?

@rosie1959 Thank you :)

I think labels around who is or isn't an alcoholic can be unhelpful. They create this idea that there's a group of people who get addicted to alcohol, and if you're not in that group you're fine. It ignores the fact that alcohol itself just is addictive, the more you drink (both in quantity and regularity) the higher your chances of it becoming a problem so why not just... Not do that.

Seems an easy solution for OP if not 'needing' the alcohol content is just to use the alcohol free alternatives some nights, as PPs have suggested. Better for health, lowers risk of a future problem, and will stop her partner worryng. Seems like a no brainer!

It sounds fine!

I wouldn’t really find it enjoyable to have one every day as part of my routine - I prefer to have more than one drink less often. But your way is probably more healthy than mine!

If your DH is expressing concern with your drinking habits, I wouldn’t ignore it completely. You don’t have to stop drinking altogether, but maybe check that you’re not developing an addiction by giving it a break for a week or 2. If that’s easy and you don’t crave the cider, you’re all good. If it’s a struggle, you know you need to address it.
Might also then reassure your DH that you’re not on a path to the dark side, if you can prove that you have it under control. And might make him feel like you listen and care about him caring about you! Win win all round.

My DH went through a phase of drinking 2-3 bottles of beer every night for a few months, and it did worry me (I’m not a big drinker at all) - it became part of his routine, to crack open a cold bottle of beer when he got home from work each night.
I’m so glad that he actually decided himself that it was making him feel rubbish, and also he wanted to lose a bit of weight - so he switched to non alcoholic beer, which seems to work for him (and they actually taste quite nice, I drink them myself sometimes). He still gets to open a cold bottle each night, and I can stop worrying that he is drinking too much.

Honestly I’d thought I’d seen all the hysteria there can be over drinking on here, but nope, apparently I’m wrong. It can get even worse.😂

Op, crack on its fine.

I stopped drinking cider after someone i knew who worked in a pub would have half a cider at the end of her shift. So 4-5 times per week. it basically rotted her insides, she was in a coma for months and eventually passed away. Vile stuff

@jojogoesbust

I stopped drinking cider after someone i knew who worked in a pub would have half a cider at the end of her shift. So 4-5 times per week. it basically rotted her insides, she was in a coma for months and eventually passed away. Vile stuff

Oh cmon now, not from a half of cider daily!

@jojogoesbust 🤣🤣🤣🤣 now that's is bull 💩! Half a cider a day? I have never, ever heard this in all my life and training.

Recent advice published here in Australia says that women shouldn't drink more than one standard drink per day, a maximum of three days per week

Which is ridiculous and rightly ignored by almost all. You're "allowed" 2 glasses of wine a week, spread over 3 day. Joyless nanny state bollocks.

@jojogoesbust

I stopped drinking cider after someone i knew who worked in a pub would have half a cider at the end of her shift. So 4-5 times per week. it basically rotted her insides, she was in a coma for months and eventually passed away. Vile stuff

You must be drunk to be writing that.

OP why do you need strangers online to approve of your alcohol intake?

Drinking everyday sounds bad OP but I'm a binge drinker, won't drink for ages then will drink a whole bottle of wine and be sick and have a hangover and I think that's worse. So you crack on.

Even half a bottle makes me sick tbh 😷

It's not going to be great for you but it's unlikely to kill you.

It depends on your age, build, and what the rest of your diet and lifestyle is like too. There are about 250 calories in 500ml of cider so if you have that every day it's an extra 1,750 calories a week (almost a day's worth of food for an average woman)

Alcohol wise, the units probably aren't too bad. But if you're also having snacks, cakes, biscuits etc. and don't do much exercise, I'd be a little worried from a diet perspective, especially if you're in your 30's or beyond. You can get away with more in your 20's.

Yes YABU and I would think you an addict.

@onelittlefrog

It's not going to be great for you but it's unlikely to kill you.

It depends on your age, build, and what the rest of your diet and lifestyle is like too. There are about 250 calories in 500ml of cider so if you have that every day it's an extra 1,750 calories a week (almost a day's worth of food for an average woman)

Alcohol wise, the units probably aren't too bad. But if you're also having snacks, cakes, biscuits etc. and don't do much exercise, I'd be a little worried from a diet perspective, especially if you're in your 30's or beyond. You can get away with more in your 20's.

I am late 20s, don't eat particularly healthy or unhealthy I'd say in the middle but I do exercise quite a bit as I go running most days. Not dead small but certainly not overweight.

@pinkcircustop I think you need to go and work with some proper addicts if you think the OP is a proper addict!