To drink every day

[LionSGuard]

Well not every day, but most.

AIBU to have one bottle of cider most days? Bulmers, Kopparberg type.

I rarely have more than one but will have one most days. I don't feel I need it and there are days where I don't, because I don't fancy it or just forgot we have them in, but I do like the taste and tend to have one as my drink with my meal at night.

This doesn’t seem a lot to me but I don’t drink so might be wrong! Many of my friends have a glass of wine each night which must be similar in terms of units and I’ve never thought of that as being odd. If you feel it’s getting too much could you cut down to every other day instead possibly?

It's not even just the alcohol. Most ciders seem to have around 6-8g of sugar per 100ml. So a 500ml bottle could feasibly contain 40g of sugar, which is around 9 and a half teaspoons.

Cider is also quite acidic. Watch out for your tummy.

The guidelines say that you should have several alcohol free days a week and 14 units is the recommended limit so actually that is quite a lot to be drinking every single week. I would try to cut down on weekdays.

Can you swap to the alcohol free ones?

You need some booze free days to stop it being a habit.

@AddressLabel

I’ve started drinking about 4 bottles of beer a night for the last couple of weeks. On my last box now though and I won’t be buying any more or I fear I may turn into a raging alcoholic. I’ve got back into my running and the drink if deffo not helping my progress.

Alcohol free beer tastes great these days - try San Miguel, Heineken or Peroni.

It's not a lot, no, but you're asking for opinions which suggests that maybe you're not happy about it. Why did you start this thread? Was it really just to win an argument with your DH or is what he's saying hitting home? Because if it is, and the reason is because you've actually got niggles then it would do you no harm at all to have a couple of days off.

Also, when you drink every day it's easy for one to become two, and that's the start of trouble.

Agree with other posters - alcohol free days are necessary and best to move away from it being a daily habit. Also, do you drink other sugary drinks if not having alcohol? The sugar content of drinks generally would be the other consideration that would bother me - I tend to avoid them personally and stick to decaf/herbal tea and water with the occasional juice/smoothie.

Sparkling Appetiser tastes a bit like a sweet cider, why not try switching to that for a few days?

That said, my great grandma had a double whisky every single night of her life and she lived to 97 with no liver issues at all!

(Obviously one anecdote doesn't replace proper NHS advice of course!)

Switching to the alcohol free ones is probably a perfect solution here, if you aren't bothered about the alcohol then as others have said, they taste exactly the same. I've had them during pregnancy and couldn't tell the difference.

How long has your drinking been at this level?

The concern is whether it creeps up over time or you start to depend on it, that is you feel at a loss and uneasy on an evening where you haven't got any in and really miss it.

The amount you're drinking isn't especially problematic but the fact it's almost daily is concerning imo. I'm quite sensitive to this stuff though and don't think daily drinking is a good thing or a normal thing to do. My lovely sweet mum started off like you are now, only once a personal crisis hit it went from a glass of wine each night to two, to three, to a bottle and a half, to vodka, to a litre of vodka per day, and within two years she'd drank herself to death. The nicest, sweetest, kindest, fifty-odd year old lady who loved her children.

I'd be really concerned if DH was drinking every night and I think he'd be concerned if I were doing the same. I know you'll get lots of comments here ranging from 'omg that's nothing, EVERYONE drinks every night crack on' to 'if you drink every weekend then you're an alcoholic' but I'm just sharing my experience. It's a lot when you add it up over the course of a month or week. I would try and at least drink on alternate days only, and if that feels difficult then you'll know you have a problem.

@Kanaloa

This doesn’t seem a lot to me but I don’t drink so might be wrong! Many of my friends have a glass of wine each night which must be similar in terms of units and I’ve never thought of that as being odd. If you feel it’s getting too much could you cut down to every other day instead possibly?

Drinking on a daily basis without fail does strike me as very odd... well, maybe odd isn't the word as it's not massively uncommon. But problematic.

I’d not be happy if DH drank every night and would comment.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

I’d not be happy if DH drank every night and would comment.

When I got with DH and things became serious this was one of the things we discussed. I said I wouldn't be willing to have my children grow up in a home where they saw their parents drink regularly. He isn't really a drinker (might drink maybe... 5-6 drinks per year) but if he had been someone who wanted/expected to drink every night/every week then we wouldn't have been compatible.

if he had been someone who wanted/expected to drink every night/every week then we wouldn't have been compatible

Same here. He knew from the start drinking was unacceptable to me, the odd one for a special occasion or social event but not daily. I also didn’t want my children thinking drinking was the norm.

Recent advice published here in Australia says that women shouldn't drink more than one standard drink per day, a maximum of three days per week (so four alcohol-free days per week). While you may not be an alcoholic, you're probably increasing your chances of developing cancer down the track. Here's the article - www.google.com/amp/s/amp.abc.net.au/article/100150220

I think it's excessive to drink every day, my general rule is not on a work night. I've always thought it was meant to be good for your body to have a few days rest from alcohol. Plus the cost. That said YANBU, it's your body! I'd be worried if DH drank every night though.

I drink a lot of fizzy and energy drinks though which probably do more harm so I really am not in a position to judge, just so I don't sound like one of those people!

Sorry to say that I think every day is not a good habit.

I don't think drinking alcohol every day is good for your liver, and I'd be worried and commenting too if I was your partner.

If you feel like you can't physically stop, that's a bigger deal.

One bottle a day is nothing. I'd be more concerned by the amount of sugar in the Kopparberg than the alcohol content. You're drinking what, 2.5 units per day? That's nothing. IF you were regularly drinking over 10 units per day that might be the point to start worrying.

In the scheme of things it isn't the worst thing you could be doing.
I don't really drink much anymore, maybe a few glasses of wine once a week. Can go a few weeks/months in lockdown without drinking as it's a social thing for me.
But pre middle age/Covid 6 of those on a night out wouldn't have been unusual.
The sugar comedown could be worse than the hangover though!
I think it's hard when you've a mismatch in couples weather it's alcohol consumption, healthy/unhealthy food, exercise, sleep etc.
We all think deep down our way is the right way

In terms of alcohol, I don't think one bottle a day is excessive. However, I live in cider country and its well known to give you what's lovingly known around here as 'gut rot'. Awful for the liver and digestive system. Also very high in sugar as a pp has said.

Why not try giving it up for say two weeks and see how you feel?
If you find that hard to do it suggests you may have a problem. You might also find you feel healthier and sleep better.
If you find it easy to do and no change to your health that suggests it’s ok.