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To take their shit (in some cases, literally) and dump it in their garden? (Skip related)

101 replies

MotherOfDemons · 01/08/2021 11:23

We are doing some work on our garden and hired a skip so we could get rid of an old shed and some garden debris. All week it's been fine, no one had put anything in and I was very much of the "not in my area" mindset.

Until yesterday. We had found a bag of open dog shit in our skip and had suspicions on who it was. We set up a camera and waited and caught the guy in the act. Went and put it on his doorstep as I know where he lives (he walks his dogs regularly past our house) thinking he might take the hint.

Saw him go past this morning so watched for him coming back at our hidden side window only for him to do it again! So I confronted him about it and he denied it outright until I got the video up on my phone. Said I would keep putting the shit right back on his doorstep if I saw him on camera again.

Woke up this morning to see someone had dumped a huge plastic pot of tile grout in there. Checked the camera and it's the neighbour a few doors down. Took it down and stuck it right in the middle of their driveway. He suddenly appears yelling "You can't dump your shit in my garden". Tell him we have him on CCTV dumping it in our skip and I will happily take it back for 10 quid. He is livid and offended that I would even suggest that he would dump it in my skip right up until I show him the video Hmm

I now have sign up telling people not to dump stuff and that they are being recorded, but AIBU to dump peoples shit right back if I catch them on camera doing this? I paid 200 quid so I could clear my own garden, not so I could fund a giant community bin! Sorely tempted to spam them on social media too (I won't of course).

OP posts:
WetBench · 01/08/2021 12:26

Huge well done for standing up to these people still denying it and giving them their stuff back, you’re a star!

SmugglersHaunt · 01/08/2021 12:37

Amazing bravery! And I can’t believe their cheek

Againstmachine · 01/08/2021 13:20

I don't understand having a row with neighbours over the space occupied by a tub of grout and a dog poo bag. I tell my neighbours when we are getting a skip so they can use it.

Its the scummy neighbour causing the row. Imagine if your skip was full because of others so then you had to get another. Respect others property it is that simple.

donquixotedelamancha · 01/08/2021 13:44

Its the scummy neighbour causing the row. Imagine if your skip was full because of others so then you had to get another.

It takes two people to have an argument. If the neighbour was actually inconveniencing OP (i.e. dumping large items) I'd completely understand.

Similarly calling the neighbours shitty, scummy, knob bastards over such a small issue feels a little odd to me. If I used up all my expletives on minor annoyances like this I'd have nothing left to call my kids.

Probably just a cultural difference, MN land seems different from where I live in many, many respects.

WowIlikereallyhateyou · 01/08/2021 13:48

Skips are bloody expensive these days, if they want to dump stuff tell them to hire their own skip. Good for you OP!

Cherrysoup · 01/08/2021 13:49

Good for you! We had two skips last year to clear the garden, there was a knocked down extension, so broken breeze blocks, windows, a door, loads of garden rubbish that had been dumped behind the trees we removed, bits of cars, loads of lumps of concrete. We filled the skip as fast as we could then had it removed/another one brought. I was paranoid that others would fill it.

PlayerOne · 01/08/2021 13:56

We are getting a skip next week to clear some garden rubble and am now paranoid about this happening... can I please ask what security camera you used?

username112 · 01/08/2021 13:56

Good for you OP! I wish more people were like you in confronting selfish people who do things like this.

We have a serious problem with flytipping where I live and I spend so
much time reporting it and making signs etc. I confront people every time I manage to catch it happening and its always met with an aggressive mouthful of abuse back at me. I just wish other people would chip in and do their bit to tackle it too as it is exhausting and mentally draining and makes me miserable tbh. But I know if no one does anything nothing will change, so I will continue.

Againstmachine · 01/08/2021 14:01

Similarly calling the neighbours shitty, scummy, knob bastards over such a small issue feels a little odd to me.

Behave like scum get called out being scum, using something that isn't yours is totally scummy.

Calling cultural is rubbish, it's not about the skip, it's about using something that isn't yours, the OP might have let them if they actually asked.

ememem84 · 01/08/2021 14:02

Our neighbours had a skip a couple of weeks ago. I had some stuff for the dump. I wondered if I could Chuck it in their skip.

Difference here is I asked them if I could. They were fine with it but asked me to wait until they’d skipped all they had.

Similarly a few years ago when we had to get a skip to clear stuff we let neighbours Chuck stuff in - once we’d got rid of ours. We’d paid for it to be filled and emptied so asked neighbours if they had anything.

Never would I throw something in without asking though. Or for that matter take something out.

aiwblam · 01/08/2021 14:06

2 problems:

  1. People are selfish bastards and don't care about freeloading off others

  2. Councils make it very hard to dispose of waste - don't pick up bins often, tips are ridiculously busy and often unpleasant with charges in some cases.

Neither of these problems will ever be addressed. The UK is a shithole these days.

Original poster
MotherOfDemons · 01/08/2021 14:08

Thanks all! I am please AINBU to dump their shit right back with them!

I hate that a lot of you are speaking from experience too. What is it about a skip that makes people feel so bloody entitled? I have my bins out there and I have never had anyone put their shit in my bins or dump it on my property!

Definitely recommend sticking a camera up when you have a skip. There is nothing like the accomplishment of catching someone then going out to confront them and watch them squirm when you play the video back to them!

Still recording and on Skip guard today. Funnily enough the guy with the dogs hasn't walked them back past here (and we always see him walk past at the same times, twice a day. I hope he is thoroughly ashamed!!)

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Bostonbullsmumma · 01/08/2021 14:08

@donquixotedelamancha

I'm waiting for one of the posters on her to say, you should let people use your skip

Behold, I have arrived :-)

I don't understand having a row with neighbours over the space occupied by a tub of grout and a dog poo bag. I tell my neighbours when we are getting a skip so they can use it.

I also don't mind the neighbour's kids playing on our big drive or parking on it if they need extra space. I answer my door when people knock, even at night.

I know now what I must do [heads off to netmums].

You might change your opinion if the skip company refused to take it if animal waste is not allowed (like the company we use!). What's wrong with him taking it back and putting it in his bin? We have let neighbours use our skips but it's after offering!
Soontobe60 · 01/08/2021 14:10

I couldn’t work up a sweat over a bag of dog poo, unless said bag was big enough to hold several weeks worth of poo!

ShitInAPyrexDish · 01/08/2021 14:14

Good on you OP. 👏🏻

I work for a skip company, the amount of people you have on the phone about this exact thing is shocking. Why would anyone think they are entitled to put their rubbish in a skip that has cost the person who hired it a fair bit of money is beyond me.

Dog shit is the worst, if the skip company is anything like the one I work for then people have to manually go through it, or worse still it goes along a conveyor belt to be sorted. So gross. 🤢

Original poster
MotherOfDemons · 01/08/2021 14:14

@donquixotedelamancha

I'm waiting for one of the posters on her to say, you should let people use your skip

Behold, I have arrived :-)

I don't understand having a row with neighbours over the space occupied by a tub of grout and a dog poo bag. I tell my neighbours when we are getting a skip so they can use it.

I also don't mind the neighbour's kids playing on our big drive or parking on it if they need extra space. I answer my door when people knock, even at night.

I know now what I must do [heads off to netmums].

Begone, Nethun Grin

I absolutely get where you are coming from about allowing other people using your skip from a neighbourly point of view. I love the little neghbourhood, kids sitting on the wall (we are a corner house so we attract them) the occasional ball being popped over the fence and popped back etc. Honestly wouldn't even have minded grout guy if they knocked and ASKED if they could put it in there as it was a small bucket!

The point is that if I let everyone fly tip their stuff into my skip I would have to order another at my expense because it would be half full of other peoples stuff. Not to mention literal dog shit is a health hazard!

Thank you to all those calling me a hero Grin I would never be brave enough to confront usually but I have pregnancy rage at the moment and am sick of people taking advantage.

OP posts:
user1471457751 · 01/08/2021 14:14

@Soontobe60 you would get worked up about it when the skip company refused to collect it because it contained animal waste

LaurieFairyCake · 01/08/2021 14:16

Did tile grout guy back down and apologise when you showed him the video ?

Original poster
MotherOfDemons · 01/08/2021 14:17

@Bostonbullsmumma this exactly! They won't take it if it has biohazardous waste in there and I said to the guy i'd be coming to him to pay the fine if they did find any hidden and come back to me!

Also, he is literally 6 doors up from us. All he had to do was take it a few meters to his own black bin!

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quicklybeingdrivenmad · 01/08/2021 14:21

We are having major work done, currently on skip number 6, going on 7, would have been about 5, if my neighbour's, did not think it was communal skip for them to use, not one has offered to contribute towards the £250 per skip cost.
One neighbour expressed his displeasure that I had let it be lifted without telling him first!! When the new one came, he informed DH he was glad he had another skip as he still has some rubbish left.

SmallPrawnEnergy · 01/08/2021 14:22

Massive difference between inviting people to use your skip and cheeky duckers flinging dog shit in it! It’s classed as fly tipping so if they start making their mouth go I would tell them you’ll be reporting them too since you have evidence of them doing so.

gurglebelly · 01/08/2021 14:29

@quicklybeingdrivenmad

We are having major work done, currently on skip number 6, going on 7, would have been about 5, if my neighbour's, did not think it was communal skip for them to use, not one has offered to contribute towards the £250 per skip cost. One neighbour expressed his displeasure that I had let it be lifted without telling him first!! When the new one came, he informed DH he was glad he had another skip as he still has some rubbish left.
What did your DH say?
DeflatedGinDrinker · 01/08/2021 14:42

Round of applause for you I love your style

godmum56 · 01/08/2021 14:43

YANBU deffo. many years ago we had a magic skip. The builders put our stuff in it the day it arrived, it was all ripped out ready and the plan was to top it up with our junk. Every day we would put stuff in and the next morning different stuff would be there, it was real fun.
More recently I had a skip here and once all the ripped out bathrooms were in there we told our near neighbouras that they were welcome to put in what they liked. One neighbour put in an old dinner service and another neighbour said could she have it....another neighbour put in bonsai pots which i rescued and someone else put in a bucket of golfballs which the builders rescued...a lovely community thing :) BUT BUT BUT it was all by consent with no CF-ery

WeAllHaveToGetAlong · 01/08/2021 14:46

While IT is wrong that others use your skip is it really worth falling out with all the neighbours about it? I wouldn't have the energy to keep an eye on a skip and deliver dog poo back to my neighbours.

It just seems childish and petty. I'd invest in a tarpaulin and close the skip at night and make sure that it was there only for a few days anyway. There's a way of organising building work so the skip is there for as few days as possible.

Isn't it sometimes easier to be the nice person in all of this? Even though other people do bad things?