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Original poster

To think it’s best they don’t come

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Moneytootight78 · 30/07/2021 20:50

We’ve all had Covid dd’s isolation ends the 2nd of august. My mum and her partner were due to come down and see us on the 4th august. Aibu to tell them no due to the Covid situation? Is it highly likely my dd could still pass it to them? Both are double vaccinated for reference.

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QueenBee52 · 30/07/2021 20:52

Isn't she clear from August 2nd though ?

Give them the option to make an informed decision. 🌸

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Moneytootight78 · 30/07/2021 20:54

Thank you for replying Well she is yes but I’m thinking it used to be 14 days and what really was the science in them making it ten days.

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Aquamarine1029 · 30/07/2021 20:55

Personally, I would have them wait.

youdoyoutoday · 30/07/2021 20:56

Surely just do the home test kit on day 10 of isolation then make a decision

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Moneytootight78 · 30/07/2021 20:57

Can’t they show as positive for a while though?

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PurpleDaisies · 30/07/2021 20:58

What makes you think they’re not competent adults capable of assessing their own risk? Tell them what the situation is. Let them decide.

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Moneytootight78 · 30/07/2021 20:58

Obviously I wouldn’t want them to get Covid but they would also no doubt forever blame us as well.

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Tickly · 30/07/2021 20:59

@Moneytootight78

Can’t they show as positive for a while though?
Yes it is likely to show positive potentially for some weeks.
WhenISnappedAndFarted · 30/07/2021 21:00

I'd just tell them that DD finishes isolating 2 days before, leave it upto them.

My DM is in the EV category and we've recently been through the same thing. She was pleased we told her and she made her decision - she decided to come

youdoyoutoday · 30/07/2021 21:02

You're really over thinking this but if it bothers you this much, then just cancel.

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Moneytootight78 · 30/07/2021 21:02

WhenISnappedAndFarted Thank you that’s really helpful. I take it she was okay and didn’t catch the virus?

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Angelofchaos · 30/07/2021 21:03

As long as they know, if they still want to come I would let them come.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 30/07/2021 21:05

@Moneytootight78 she was absolutely fine and much happier from seeing her family! I really would tell them and let them decide for themselves

Quartz2208 · 30/07/2021 21:06

Delta actually is assumed to have a shorter incubation period (around 4 days) so actually if something were to happen it is more likely to be within the 10 days

I would just tell them the situation and say you are happy to have them but also understand if they dont want to and leave it with them

Abraxan · 30/07/2021 21:11

@Moneytootight78

Can’t they show as positive for a while though?
It's possible but in most cases they don't.

Recently DD's friend tested positive for Covid. Another PCR on day 11 was negative - she has to have them for travelling home by place.

Most people I know who had Covid didn't test positive in LFTs after day 10. Many were doing twice weekly tests and restarted them after returning to work/school even though they could have left it longer.

Abraxan · 30/07/2021 21:12

Also if testing positive at that point then likelihood is that you are no longer shedding the disease, so very unlikely to be transmitting it, apparently.

You could test her abd if it's positive then cancel.

Or just give them the option.

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Moneytootight78 · 30/07/2021 21:14

Yes I’m thinking I’ve not seen her in nearly a year so would be a shame

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DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo · 30/07/2021 21:16

Do you want them to come, OP?

If they are hard work, I can imagine that having houseguests isn't a joyous thought when you've already been cooped up.

Is there anything to stop you 'extending' your isolation date if you want a bit me relaxation time before visitors?

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Moneytootight78 · 30/07/2021 21:19

They are at times hard work and if they caught Covid we would never hear the end of it. Anyone I wouldn’t worry as much once the isolation was over with.

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HighDudgeonAtBerks · 30/07/2021 21:19

PCR tests can come up positive for 90 after infection. There is no point in doing another test because it won’t tell you anything and you’ll be contacted by TTP again if it’s positive asking why the hell you did it.

Give them all the info and let them decide.

It was reduced from 14 days to 10 based on more data as the pandemic progressed meaning scientists could be more accurate about infectious periods.

I would go ahead as long as none of you have a temperature or still feel unwell (apart from the cough) as these are best indicators that you could still be infectious.

HighDudgeonAtBerks · 30/07/2021 21:19

Should say 90 days

CommanderBurnham · 30/07/2021 21:21

Definitely leave it up them but make it clear that if they do come, it's their decision and at their own risk. Can you offer an alternative date?

clickychicky · 30/07/2021 21:24

@HighDudgeonAtBerks does that mean for 90 days you can't catch covid again?

QueenBee52 · 30/07/2021 21:27

@Moneytootight78

Obviously I wouldn’t want them to get Covid but they would also no doubt forever blame us as well.

Aahh so they would place the blame firmly on you guys...

Im not sure I'd be comfortable with this either.. 🌸

HighDudgeonAtBerks · 30/07/2021 21:29

It means that if you test again then it will come up positive even if you haven’t been reinfected. It’s not a guarantee that you couldn’t catch it again - I’m aware of someone immunosuppressed who caught it a second time and had symptoms both times - but I think it would be pretty unlikely if you’re a healthy person.

As with all things your own level of immunity after catching it will vary and depend on your own circumstances.

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