To ask if you fantasise about anyone that isn't your partner?

[kravestix]

I do. All the time. There's a particular famous person I've liked for years now and I'm constantly fantasising about what our life together would look like. Different scenarios in which we bump into each other. Playing it out in my head like a story over and over. When it runs its course, I think up a new scenario. Totally sad, right?!

DH doesn't quite know the extent but I have told him jokingly I'd leave him in a heart beat for this person. He thinks I'm joking but I'm not so sure! 😅

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a rich interior life!

Yes! Quite a lot, especially at certain times of the month. But then I look at DH and holy shit he is sexy, so

I'm with you. I also have a celebrity crush and often fantasise about him. I thought it was just me who dreamt up different scenarios where we met and of course he fell instantly for my charms and off we sail into the sunset.

It's good to have an active imagination though right...

Surely the fantasising is normal, especially in long term relationships? Obviously not every day.

You are not alone OP! I love creating scenarios in my head before I fall asleep Sometimes they're about men I know IRL or just famous celebs that I have a crush on.

I think it's healthy to have an active imagination, as long as you don't act on the fantasies.

All the damn time. Literally constantly, whenever I can get time alone. It’s my escape and how I can fall asleep most nights.

@kravestix

I do. All the time. There's a particular famous person I've liked for years now and I'm constantly fantasising about what our life together would look like. Different scenarios in which we bump into each other. Playing it out in my head like a story over and over. When it runs its course, I think up a new scenario. Totally sad, right?!

DH doesn't quite know the extent but I have told him jokingly I'd leave him in a heart beat for this person. He thinks I'm joking but I'm not so sure! 😅

Haha! Same here. Intense sapphic crush on a famous person (though to be fair I don’t imagine what our life would be like together, only a torrid night of passion 😂 I am bi and have had relationships with women before so it’s not a change of sexuality thing!)

DP better look out as he’d be over the side of the boat if I ever got the opportunity for said torrid night of passion in real life. However lucky for him, I suspect said celebrity (who is known for the occasional sapphic fling), probably doesn’t go for chubby gone-to-seed middle-aged mummies who haven’t had their roots done for months 😂😂)

Yep! I even have a long running regency one with a Colonel Brandon-esque chap as played by Alan Rickman

My ex.. he was amazing in bed. We never worked as a couple and ended on good terms, so I never want to be with him but I’d love to have that amazing sex again. He was a lot older than me and I’ve never ever had sex like it before or after him.

I do this, OP. I have 2 celebrities that I alternate in various scenarios. I thought I was the only grown-up who did this - I’m so relieved I’m not alone!!

Yes. Who doesn’t!

Yep. Day Lewis in last of the mohicans 🤣

Yup, Seth Macfarlane - he is my go to "cant sleep" fantasy :D

When I was married to Mr. Percheron, almost all of the time .....................

Yes, have done all my life. It's harmless fun and I think good to keep the creativity alive!

Yes!

Oh yes , depending on my mood it's generally one of 3 famous people or a x work mate ( or a combo ! )

0h god yesI’m totally smitten with Mathew Modine and Eric Roberts I spend loads of time dreaming over them, in fact the rain was torrential yesterday I got home bashed a huge fanfic about me and Dr Brenner (character Mathew plays) so yes I’m dreadful

Yes Mathew Modine as Dr Brenner I’d 🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Like a shot, Eric Roberts as Dr Beck the same. In alternative life I’m married to them, not together but separate.

Look up maladaptive daydreaming x

Yes all the time, not just about being with other men but lots of different things! It’s total escapism for me

My DH knows I’d leave him in a heartbeat for my long term crush.
I suspect he’d get on my nerves in real life. He talks non stop and likes a drink or three.

Yes all the time, not just about being with other men but lots of different things! It’s total escapism for me

I used to when I was much younger, before I got married. I'd assume people do fantasize during masturbation, for me it's not a real person, just something generic.

However, in recent years I've had sex dreams with people I'd never mention to DH including my first serious BF, a colleague and his wife, my BIL, so who knows what is going on when we're sleeping.