I've never written on here, or anywhere else...but I'm in such a state over something...
A unique problem I've not encountered before..
I don't know what to do...
Here goes....
Btw..I'm in bits over this...it's a big deal to me..and it's embarrassing..
I have two friends, a cpl who are waiting to emigrate...
Due to cov 19 thier visa applications are taking a lot longer than they anticipated...
So they're twiddling thier thumbs just waiting..it's been over a month now..they expected to fly 5 weeks ago, packed in work ( hav jobs waiting) & r living with one of thier mother's...
Which is very stressfull. Constant arguments, upsets etc...
I offered them to stay at my house, which is currently unoccupied , on the coast...
I'm staying with my partner in the Midlands during lockdown 3...
It's a 3.5-4 hour drive away...
I moved there almost 3 years ago..it's an old house. 180 y.o. A renovation project.
Mostly cosmetic. But needs windows replacing and a modern shower putting in...
It's fully functioning..has hot water and heating..cooker, freezer, fridge, wm & dryer etc...a bath but no shower. There's no dampness...
Knowing all this, & that I haven't been back since Feb 21 & it's no doubt very dusty and needs airing... There are stocked freezers, dry food cupboards etc for them to help themselves too..plus wood & coal for the log burner...
All they needed was some fresh food..
They were releived to have somewhere to go to get away from the mother/ atmosphere etc...
I said I'd rather go and give it a good clean first b4 anyone went to stay but they said it would be fine as it was...as they needed to get away immediately
They went to university near there & were looking fwrd to seeing some old friends..
So all seemed good..off they went....
Things were very quiet whilst they were away...
I just put it down to them being busy, ..
A few weeks have passed...I've not seen them that much ( despite loaning them my car) once I think...& Inviting them out for dinner as my bf birthday....they were going to Manchester for the night...I said we cud go when they got back and they're off to see the other mother in Hull for a while...
So I won't ask again...
I get the feeling something is up....
Texts on WhatsApp r being read but not being replied to...
And now the crunch bit that is giving me total anxiety....
Yesterday, I put on a hoody that I usually leave in the car...
When they came back from mine, I cooked, we had a catch up...they left earlier than ever before & gave me my hoody and shopping bags out of the car...
I must add that I cleaned the car b4 I loaned it to them..took all of my stuff out, but did leave in some essentials....that every car should have..eg; warm jumper/ hoody, bags, waterproof anorak, etc...
I thought it a bit odd that they should remove those items now...as they've driven around for 3 weeks with them in the car...
But didn't think too much of it...
Then yesterday, I pop my hoody on and in the pocket there's a neatly folded receipt...
It was from when they were staying at mine..
On it was a variety of items..food, drink etc plus tons of cleaning stuff..
And..towels, pillows, duvet, sheets, duvet cover ..
I'm mortified.
I feel very VERY insulted.
I told them there was a full stocked laundry/ airing cupboard on the top landing....
Full of clean towels, bed linen..washed pillows, duvets, including a brand new one in the packet, summer tog..pillow protecters etc..
They're all dorma, John Lewis, Laura Ashley, M& S..so good quality..not cheap itchy fabrics ...
So why on earth did they go out and buy new stuff from Asda? Which would of been the cheaper quality fabrics, and scratchy etc...
I feel my stuff wasn't good enough..
They didn't tell me they'd done it....I found the receipt.
Was I meant to find the receipt?...I think I was...and I think they're dropping hints they want paying..
I feel so insulted.
Why is my linen not good/ clean enough for them?
I always use mattress and pillow protectors...
I feel so upset about this...
I'm not a dirty, lazy slob...so why am I being made to feel like I am?
And how do I deal with it?
Right now I'm feeling like I want them to be out of my life on a permanent basis.
I'm very insulted, hurt and embarrassed.
I feel like removing thier numbers from my phone & asking my other half to call them and ask them to bring the car back when they're back from Hull. Put the keys through the door.
And leave an envelope pinned on it for them with the money in and a copy of the receipt.
There is a sister with a car who can pick them up and take them home.
I was going to take them back but don't feel inclined to any more.
( I loaned them the car BC thier annual insurance was up and they were expecting to move any day. It was overly costly to just pop on another months insurance for them so I did it on mine as cheaper)
Am I being unreasonable.with how I'm feeling and how I'm planning on dealing with it?
I need to run this by ppl before I do anything.
bc quite honestly my emotions are running high and I'm too upset with a lot of things right now , not just this...and I want to deal with it appropriateyl....
Your thoughts please?
Thank you for your time