Would you leave your DC overnight?

[Cocopogo]

My parents never went out in the evening and certainly not overnight so I always feel bad if I go out and leave DD12 after dark though I’m more nervous of the dark than she is. I also have DS16 at home too. Though sometimes that’s worse as they can argue and I get a he said/she said conversation, though it’s never gone beyond arguing. DB and I used to scrap all over the living room floor when my mum popped to the shops!
I have DP now and it would be nice to spend the night with him but maybe I should wait another couple of years.
How old did you leave yours?

I wouldn’t leave a 12 year old overnight, or even late at night, without a sitter, and I wouldn’t rely on the 16yo to be a sitter either.

I don’t think I would comfortably leave a child overnight until they were well into their teens. I’d leave them for the evening at 14ish if sensible.

@Aquamarine1029

I would not be staying out overnight if I were you. Not a chance.

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My parents would leave one of us alone at night (but not over night) from the age of 14, but if we were both home then they would have a friend come sit with us as it's not fair for the elder sibling to have to take on the responsibility for the younger simply because of birth order. We were only allowed to stay home alone together once my youngest sister was 16, and then we were all told in no uncertain terms that we were each responsible for ourselves and our own actions.

I wouldn't leave in under 16yo with anyone under 18yo.

No, but a 30 year old is a mature grown adult and a 16 year old isn't. Exactly, it's about maturity, not whether they are the parent or not.

I'd have felt a bit dumped tbh. Its not just about safety, but about positive relationships too.

I leave my 16 year old in charge of his sister (9) for the occasional night out, and they will be in bed when we get home, but I wouldn't leave her overnight unless she was with an adult. By the time my DD is 12 her brother will be 19, not sure how I will feel about leaving them together overnight then! I would leave my 16 year old overnight, but the opportunity hasn't come up yet.

Out for dinner? Of course. Are you saying you'd never left them alone in the evening full stop - not even with a babysitter?

Overnight, would depend on the kids, whether there was an easy to reach adult nearby, how far away I was going etc.

I wouldn't leave my teenagers overnight, but I would leave them for an evening while I went out.