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Original poster

Leave 7 month old for two nights

48 replies

runoverhere · 28/07/2021 16:46

To go to a wedding? My son has been ebf and has just started solids (currently 6 months). I would have one month to test him with a bottle of formula - I won’t consider it if he won’t take a bottle and has previously refused so it is a long shot anyway.

DP say iabu as they would be miserable.
I think dp will find it tough as he hasn’t done any nights up until now, but that they will be fine together as long as the baby takes the bottle.

Am I being naive and unreasonable?

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runoverhere · 28/07/2021 16:51

I’ll add that I know I’ll be pumping every two hours while away, and probably calling/texting to check that they are ok.

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NotYourNachos · 28/07/2021 16:56

Love how supportive your Dh is Hmm

Anyhow you have a month plenty of nights for your dh to practise to prevent a ‘miserable’ baby

feelingmehtoday · 28/07/2021 16:57

Get dh to do some of the nights over the next month or so, so both he and baby get used to it.

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 28/07/2021 16:58

It will be fine. Def go.

Your husband sounds a real peach...

breakfasty · 28/07/2021 16:59

DP needs to start taking some of the responsibility now instead of dumping it all on you.

Cherryana · 28/07/2021 16:59

Until I saw your husband would be home with them I thought you were being unreasonable as I think that is young to leave a little baby for two nights.

However, in my opinion, its not to young to stay with one parent. So you are not being unreasonable. Go to the wedding and leave your husband to it - it is good for husbands and dads to find their way!

breakfasty · 28/07/2021 17:00

DP probably would think twice if it were the other way around

feelingmehtoday · 28/07/2021 17:00

DP say iabu as they would be miserable.

Him or the baby?

breakfasty · 28/07/2021 17:00

*wouldn't

HungryHippo11 · 28/07/2021 17:01

If you want to, then it's manageable. Personally it wouldn't have worked for me as mine wouldn't have taken a bottle at that age and my boobs would have exploded.
You might want to speak to the bride or venue and check there is somewhere you can go to pump because you don't want to sit in the loo for 20 minutes every 2 hours.

If baby is not keen on the bottle, could your partner book a room in a nearby hotel/airbnb so you could stay together overnight or go back and feed.

Original poster
runoverhere · 28/07/2021 17:01

DP might not realise it, but I think he should start doing a few nights if we can get the baby to take a bottle even if I don’t go to the wedding.

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Scrapper142 · 28/07/2021 17:03

@feelingmehtoday

DP say iabu as they would be miserable.

Him or the baby?

Beat me too it, was going to say the same!

Lets guess, implies the baby but really means himself.

Eatenpig · 28/07/2021 17:04

Start now and DP can practice. My DS wouldn't bottle feed if I was anywhere near by. But would happy take a bottle if he couldn't smell me near.

Original poster
runoverhere · 28/07/2021 17:05

I should say, it is late notice for an overseas wedding and the baby won’t have a passport in time to come with me.

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feelingmehtoday · 28/07/2021 17:06

@Scrapper142

I had the same thoughts!

Drivingmeupthewall · 28/07/2021 17:16

Your P is a dickhead.

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runoverhere · 28/07/2021 17:19

DP thinks he is too young to be away from me for that length of time. But, that it wouldn’t be a problem when older.

I think he is lacking in confidence as I haven’t been anywhere for more than one hour due to covid restrictions. He also hasn’t had a chance to work out what works for him and the baby without me. DP does a lot with the baby and takes him for a walk every day to give me a break but that’s within the one hour timeframe.

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SleepingStandingUp · 28/07/2021 17:22

Why can't he take him for more than an hour because of covid? Whats the longest time between feeds during the day? Thats how long he can have him foe surely?

Also can you try pumping now and trying him with one bottle a day. And by trying him i mean Daddy, with you in w different room

Original poster
runoverhere · 28/07/2021 17:46

Thanks all. It’s good to know I’m not unreasonable.

DP now thinks one night is doable for a first time away.

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SleepingStandingUp · 28/07/2021 17:59

Looks like you need to get a night away in BEFORE the wedding and then you can do two nights for the wedding

Maggiesfarm · 28/07/2021 19:49

@feelingmehtoday

DP say iabu as they would be miserable.

Him or the baby?

I presumed he meant both of them.
Merryoldgoat · 28/07/2021 20:09

Why hasn’t he done any nights?

BendingSpoons · 28/07/2021 20:14

I personally wouldn't go abroad for 2 nights leaving a 7m old. There are risks you could get delayed returning home and you can't get back quickly if needed. I couldn't have got mine taking enough from a bottle to leave them for 2 nights. One night
and they could have caught up the next day. But I guess you plan to check beforehand.

Nowisthemonthofmaying · 28/07/2021 20:16

If you've only done one hour away from the baby so far you're going to have to start leaving them with your dp a lot more to build up to it otherwise that's quite a big jump! I couldn't have done it with mine at that age (never would have coped with the pumping etc plus I didn't want to leave them that long) but you know your baby best. It's a good idea to get your dp doing a bit more whatever you decide about the wedding.

girlmom21 · 28/07/2021 20:21

DP basically doesn't want to do 48 hours of childcare, then?

I'm sure if a friend was having a stag weekend he wouldn't worry about whether the baby was missing him.

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