My mother was a terrible parent.
She was very neglectful and emotionally abusive.
She put me in harms way repeatedly, for example - buying me class A drugs at age 13 'because i wanted them', standing by and doing nothing whilst i was being exploited by grown men and moving me in with her convicted sex offender boyfriend to give a few examples.
To top it off as soon as she stopped getting benefits for me she ran off 250 miles, disappeared and left me to fend for myself when I was still just 16.
Stupidly i chose to relocate to where she'd moved when I was 23 and tried to rebuild the relationship and support her through her next fuck up, alcoholism.
After almost 5 years of heartache and stress I finally found the strength to go NC. I'm breaking the cycle for my own DC.
Today I had my aunt on the phone chewing my ear off about mums drinking "oh what can we doooo about it. I think you could be more kinder and tolerant, we neeeed to help her"
She caught me unawares as I didn't recognise the number.
I had very little to do with aunt as it were because in her eyes mum can do no wrong and she's a huge enabler.
I reiterated that I want nothing to do with her and it's not my problem anymore.
My aunt continued to whine about how she needs help and what do I suggest.
Once again I said it's not my problem and reminded her of the crap she'd put me through. I said "you do realise she single handedly destroyed my childhood don't you? Why should i do anything for her at all?"
Aunt then went on to justify everything that woman had done to me. The abuse, the abandonment.
"My friend Joice, well her mum threw her out at 13-14 and they have a nice relationship now"
Then..
"She's alot nicer than you make her out to be, your mother"
I told her not to contact me again and I've blocked the number.
Am I "intolerant" or a bad person for finally pulling the plug? She thinks so
Can I also ask though, because I really want to understand, what the hell goes on in the heads of people like this? (My aunt)
How can you justify the abuse of a child then have the audacity to expect that now adult child to continue to walk over broken glass for a POS like that?
Sorry for the rant. I needed to get it out and talk to somebody. I'm due to start therapy in Sept and it can't come soon enough 