To tell them their weddings won't happen?

[nctoavoiddramaaa]

Friend A - big wedding in Greece at the end of the summer. No one is Greek. Expects everyone (and is emailing to chase) to book flights, pay for testing etc and risk it changing to Red?

Friend B - also planning a big wedding for December! Says they don't mind if it's small but can't see it happening at all tbh.

I'm bridesmaid for both. I just think they shouldn't waste their money.

I agree with most of the PPs here. It would be VU of you to tell the Greek wedding couple that their Wedding won't happen.
But VR for you to apologise profusely (without over doing it!), and tell them that you just can't afford the risk of either it not happening at all, or a change in the rules and you having to self isolate for 2 weeks on your return.
I think that she will probably lose most of her Wedding party because of this, and if she is able to, either postpone the whole thing to next Spring/Summer, or decide to have it in England after all, then that would probably be for the best. However, if they have already committed too much time and money to make that feasable, then hopefully she can enjoy her much smaller Wedding.

Sorry OP I hadn't seen your last post because I got interrupted while typing it. If you stick to that decision, I hope that you, and the rest of the Bridal Party have a lovely day, and mini holiday.

VR for you to apologise profusely (without over doing it!), and tell them that you just can't afford the risk of either it not happening at all, or a change in the rules and you having to self isolate for 2 weeks on your return.

This. Unless this is a vvv close friend or family member I wouldn't be hauling ass to Greece right now when no one in the wedding party is Greek. It's a ludicrous choice of wedding destination in the current climate.

If I were you I’d tell Bride A that you can’t be bridesmaid anymore. There’s no way I’d be buying plane tickets etc to travel abroad when the very morning your travelling, the govts may say Greece is now in the Amber plus (or whatever it is). I personally feel anyone planning a wedding abroad for this summer is rather naive.

Do you even like your friends? You seem like a bundle of laughs. Go or don’t go, just be honest with them and let them as soon as you can.

How long has Greece wedding been booked. Have they moved it once

Personally I wouldn’t do a wedding abroad at the moment unless they will be paying for all tests and if I have to isolate

Dec wedding. Sure will go ahead. It may be 6 15 or 30. Possibly masks

We get married next weekend. Been cancelled twice May 2020 and may 2021

It’s gone , as above from 15 to 30 to 55 (when Boris said no limits bit need to sd so depends on space ) to tech any number

All in a matter of 4w

We re arranged guest list 2w ago

I think she will get married , country can’t do and other lockdown , tho her numbers May be limited

Why is bride no 2 paying for hotel of local

I think you've got valid concerns about the Greek one but you're not handling it well and I think you're being overly negative and a bit ridiculous about the December one

I think you shouldn't be a bridesmaid on either of the weddings given they give you these anxieties.

Just because you dont think a December wedding won’t take place, doesn’t make it so.
91% currently have antibodies. Will be higher by December. Many vulnerable will have had a booster vaccination. Chances of full lockdown are slim.

@nctoavoiddramaaa

I think we'll be in a full lockdown by December.

I think both sets of Greek wedding's parents are fully on board!

No way will we go back into full lockdown again. By Xmas the majority will have had both vaccinations, and the ones refusing will be very much in the minority, so I can’t see hospitals being anywhere close to being swamped. The only way we will be in full lockdown is if a rogue variant makes an appearance, resistant to the vaccine. We will have to hope and pray that won’t happen, or we’re all screwed if we’re going to be held to ransom by mutated resistant variants every year.

A is dodgy
B should be fine

Both weddings are more likely than not to happen.
There could be adjustments necessary.

I have travel arrangements in a week, they only flipped back to being viable on Monday. I'm still not rushing to pack bags and make plans around it!

I don't see a need for a repeat of last winter as all adults will have been offered the opportunity to be vaccinated and boosters where required by then. I wouldn't rule out stealthy controls regarding vaccine passports/ testing with the way the wind is blowing, but it is very unlikely to be a repeat where a wedding can not happen at at and pretty unlikely that a local wedding with guests isn't viable.

It is hard in the face of so many cancelations and continued uncertainty to make commitments and feel the excitement of anticipation when so many hopes have been crushed, but it's better to quietly watch this space and deal with what comes up rather than being unduely pessimistic months in advance.