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To have ‘embarrassed’ DS

46 replies

gedie · 23/07/2021 16:24

DS is 15, he usually has friends over and I speak them, which is usually fine. Today, he brought a friend round for lunch, i’d never met her before but I was speaking to her as I do his other friends. He was very quiet and then he asked me to leave them both alone so I did. They went out afterwards and DS has just got back and told me I embarrassed him by talking to his friend. I asked him why it embarrassed him, and he said it just did.

So AIBU to have embarrassed him? Grin

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Aquamarine1029 · 23/07/2021 16:26

Tell him you were being polite by acknowledging and speaking to a guest in your home, and if she visits again, you will do the same. Don't let a stroppy teenager dictate how you behave. He's being ridiculous.

Howshouldibehave · 23/07/2021 16:27

What did you say in particular?!

Shirleyphallus · 23/07/2021 16:28

Everything parents do at that age is embarrassing isn’t it? You should feel relieved that you were just admonished for speaking to his friend, let alone breathing, being in the same room as him, or just existing

I do hope you’ve learnt your lesson

Bangbangbang21 · 23/07/2021 16:28

It's either his girlfriend or potential girlfriend! Awwww ❤️

Youdiditanyway · 23/07/2021 16:30

Haha, I bet it’s his girlfriend or at least someone he fancies. Everything is embarrassing at that age!

Saidtoomuch · 23/07/2021 16:30

Its your job to make him embarrassed! He's in loooove Grin

MrsMillhouse · 23/07/2021 16:31

Your very existence is embarrassing to him at 15 lol

topcat2014 · 23/07/2021 16:31

I tell dd is parents jobs to embarrass their children.

I never say anything crass. Just being on the same floor of the house as her seems to do it.

tiredanddangerous · 23/07/2021 16:34

GrinGrinGrin

MiddleParking · 23/07/2021 16:36

He sounds bloody rude to me, I’d never have spoken to my parents like that at 15!

Nocutenamesleft · 23/07/2021 16:38

@Aquamarine1029

Tell him you were being polite by acknowledging and speaking to a guest in your home, and if she visits again, you will do the same. Don't let a stroppy teenager dictate how you behave. He's being ridiculous.
Ha it’s around this time I’d start dancing around and singing loudly. Trying to get my kids to dance

Ha. Not really.

It’s your job to be embarrassing as a parent. My family always were weird and unique!

Nocutenamesleft · 23/07/2021 16:39

@Aquamarine1029

Tell him you were being polite by acknowledging and speaking to a guest in your home, and if she visits again, you will do the same. Don't let a stroppy teenager dictate how you behave. He's being ridiculous.
I meant to say

This is spot on

Jailbreak42 · 23/07/2021 16:39

@MrsMillhouse

Your very existence is embarrassing to him at 15 lol
Yup.

I'm already taking great joy in embarrassing my kids and they're only 6 and 8. I'm practicing for the teenage years when I'm ramp it up a notch.

(I'm still trying to decide if I should be an evil MIL or not yet)

shouldistop · 23/07/2021 16:40

Aww I think he fancies her.
Parents are embarrassing at that age. He'll grow out of it.

shouldistop · 23/07/2021 16:40

My almost 5yo has started saying things are embarrassing but he's no idea what it actually means so he's using it in really funny contexts Grin

Original poster
gedie · 23/07/2021 16:50

I didn't say anything in particular that mightve been embarrassing. I do think he fancies this girl as he's usually fine with me talking to his friends! Grin

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Toottootdrivers · 23/07/2021 16:50

Haha you've just reminded me of when I was a teenager and if a boy came round my dad used to shout "no tongues!". Now THAT was embarrassing. Your DS should count himself lucky!

NoSquirrels · 23/07/2021 16:51

Were you not ‘reading the room’ - hanging around excessively having a proper full conversation rather than a quick chat and leave them to it?

It’s probably a potential girlfriend. He was rude to you (twice!) so I’d discuss that but be prepared to acknowledge that yes, you might have been a bit embarrassing.

shouldistop · 23/07/2021 16:56

It's quite sweet really although he shouldn't have been rude to you obviously.

fabulousathome · 23/07/2021 16:58

No need to worry. I remember going to a parents evening at school with my teenage son. One the way he told me not to say this to that teacher and not to speak about anything much.

I asked if it would be better if I was totally silent and he said it would be great.

To them your very presence is embarassing. See Kevin and Perry sketches on YouTube

nocturnalcatfreetogoodhome · 23/07/2021 16:58

@Bangbangbang21

It's either his girlfriend or potential girlfriend! Awwww ❤️
This! Your little boy has brought his first girl home 😍

Bless him, there’s nothing worse at that age than your parents embarrassing you in front of someone you fancy!

What was so offensive?

2bazookas · 23/07/2021 17:02

I remember some family outing on foot where the new teen croaked at us "Don't all walk so CLOSE to me, I don't want anyone I know to think I'm with you ".

Ilikeknitting · 23/07/2021 17:08

Tell him you are sorry you embarrassed him by being polite and that next time he brings a friend you will wear nothing but stockings, suspenders and stained dressing gown. You’ll walk through whatever room he and his friend are in without talking but you’ll do your best hacking, snotty count, spit in the sink, fart loudly several times and leave. Show him some footage of Julie Walters in Dinner Ladies and tell him, “she was based on me”

If he thinks being polite is embarrassing, remind him you have 20+ years of experience on him and you will now make a point of embarrassing him forever.

NotReallyTheVicar · 23/07/2021 17:09

The best thing about having a teenager is that it's your to embarass them!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/07/2021 17:14

We are just embarrassment factories in their eyes!