To have ‘embarrassed’ DS

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DS is 15, he usually has friends over and I speak them, which is usually fine. Today, he brought a friend round for lunch, i’d never met her before but I was speaking to her as I do his other friends. He was very quiet and then he asked me to leave them both alone so I did. They went out afterwards and DS has just got back and told me I embarrassed him by talking to his friend. I asked him why it embarrassed him, and he said it just did.

So AIBU to have embarrassed him?

As long as you didn’t show her his birth video then YANBU and it just sounds like a typical teen - we can’t do anything without embarrassing them especially in front of someone they have a crush on

How kind did you stay chatting OP?

NotReallyTheVicar Fri 23-Jul-21 17:09:01
Sorry typo!

The best thing about having a teenager is that it's your turn to embarass them!

Hard to say without knowing every single word you said to them. Ask him which particular thing embarrassed him so you know for next time. Just breathing around her probably annoyed him though 🤣🤣

My kids are married with their own kids....and I still embarrass them.
If you ever see a woman walking down the street with an adult child growling ' mother!!' it's me 😁

Did you say something like.. I like your hair style. or your nails look lovely,? you can't ask those questions !!

Ah she's definitely he's girlfriend! Bless him - he's allowed to be a bit embarrassed. She probably thinks you're lovely as well, especially if you respected when he asked for you to give them privacy

Yeah - you were breathing in front of a girl he fancies!!

One of ours told his Dad he wasn’t going to walk with him as he was being embarrassing? DH’s crime? He walked to the post box with a letter in his hand apparently it was weird and normal people don’t do that 😂

He is 25 now and was actually embarrassed when we reminded him and apologised!

@OhGiveUp I didn't realise you were on mn mum!

Even the hair growing out of my head embarrassed DS yesterday. You understand this is a blonde pixie cut, have had it for about 6 years.

Him: your hair, GOD
Me:

I used to cheerfully inform mine that it was my job to be embarrassing....

I was embarrassing and annoying just by being! Apparently it was because I'm posh.

My DS is now an adult and without my changing at all I'm now not embarrassing or annoying although still posh ...

He sounds bloody rude to me, I’d never have spoken to my parents like that at 15!
I did and I'm 56 so it was a long time ago in the dim and distant past.
I probably got blasted back for it as well There aren't many perfect and compliant teenagers that behave appropriate all the time!

Pffft. When I was 18 I had my partner at the time over, we'd only been seeing each other a few weeks. My mum came in, said 'these were in my washing but I think they're yours' and threw a pair of knickers at me. Your son should be grateful you only spoke to this girl!

Him: your hair, GOD
Me:

😂😂😂
I literally just laughed out loud!! I don’t even know what either of you look like but I completely imagined it as I was reading it.

Well, if you had all sat at the table and said nothing at all to the girl this would have been ‘embarrassing’ and (from your son’s point of view’) ‘rude’.

He will get over it and in ten years time you can laugh together about this sort of thing!

Nah YANBU at all!

The best thing about having a teenager is that it’s your turn to embarrass them!

I agree. Silver Lining is my favourite chapter in the Teenager User Manual. Particularly the section on pushing buttons.

@Shouldistop I just thought I'd come along and embarrass you. I've got your baby pics here to show your friends 😁

@MiddleParking

He sounds bloody rude to me, I’d never have spoken to my parents like that at 15!

Because it’s a bad thing for teenagers to be open with their parents about their feelings, and we should expect them to communicate as a 30 year old would??

Well yeah, 15’s a pretty good time to learn to suppress your less palatable sentiments such as ‘leave us alone’ and ‘you embarrassed me’ without any apparent reasoning