DH says I’m ridiculous for wanting to spend this amount of money on a watch, who is BU?

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I’ve been lusting after a Rolex datejust for as long as I can remember, but have always stopped myself from buying because there has always been something more ‘sensible’ to do with the money, like keeping it in savings or spending money on an experience like a holiday. This year I’ve been feeling pretty low what with the current situation and there’s no way I’ll be able to go on holiday this year as I’m vulnerable health wise.

Announced to DH this morning that I’m thinking about treating myself to a nice pre owned Rolex (£6k) on the basis that it’s what I’d usually spend on holidays in a year anyway and they hold their value pretty well, in the event that I ever wanted/needed to sell.

DH thinks I’m being absolutely ridiculous spending such a large amount of money on a watch and now I’m wondering whether I’m having a moment of madness. I should point out that the funds would be coming from my own pot of money, rather than joint.

Obviously it's just a matter of opinion and if it doesn't affect DH's finances, then go for it.

But I would question whether you'd actually wear it much if you're concerned about it keeping it's value?

I bought some nice jewellery (nothing close to the Rolex price range, but very extravagant for me) at the beginning of lockdown to cheer myself up, and while it's lovely and I do wear it to feel good at home, I probably wouldn't wear it out and about too much as I'd worry about damaging or losing it as it cost so much more than I would usually spend on accessories!

@MrsFin

YABU. Watches are so yesterday!

Hardly anyone wears a watch now unless it's also a Fitbit, or shows they text messages, calendar etc (eg Apple Watch).

You don't work for Rolex, Cartier or Audemars I am taking

Humans need to stop adorning themselves with trinkets plundered from the planet.

Well here's me worrying about spending £45 on a realistic looking mallard duck ornament, to go next to my bird bath in the garden !

I say do it from the POV of buying an omega watch not only as a single parent but on finance 😁 it gives me much more pleasure than the money I've spent out on a new roof etc and I will wear it forever. Maybe my DC will wear it when I'm old. I used to sleep with it on for a while when I first got it because I was so enamoured with it. Only one person has ever noticed and appreciated it ha.

Yes, they're worth every penny. I got bought one, I didn't actually want one but now I have one I love it!

I love mine

So yeah. Go for it.

I think it depends on your overall financial situation. If you are struggling to pay bills then yeah, pretty unreasonable. If you can comfortably afford then why not?

If the latter, could you agree with DH that he gets to buy himself something expensive as a treat for himself too?

Why do people have to be so rude, it might not be to your taste but there's no need for the shitty comments.

My goodness mumsnet is another planet I had literally no idea a watch could cost so much.

There is absolutely no point asking a bunch of strangers on the internet - if it's in line with your personal values and you can afford it, then get one!

Given what people ha e said about how Rolexes either retain or even steadily increase in value then I don’t really see this as you spending the money as such. It’s tying it up/investing it in something that gives you joy in the meantime. It’s no one else’s money, how is this a bad thing? I bet if you stuck it in a 0.01% ISA your husband would approve yet that’s very probably a much worse financial decision.

People are talking about this as if she is spending this money on something pretty and then that’s it, spent. High end watches are an investment and entirely different to splashing out on something like a car which immediately plummets in value. I’m struggling to understand the numerous negative posters saying how mad you are. It’s probably a very savvy decision. And how many savvy investments look nice on your wrist in the meantime? I know my pension doesn’t sparkle with a nice top!

Absolutely go for it - if you can afford it why not?
But if he wants to spend the same amount on something YOU think is ridiculous you won't be able to criticise him.
As long as you're ok with a potential £12,000 of your household income being spent on 2 individual treat items.

@MrsFin

YABU. Watches are so yesterday!

Hardly anyone wears a watch now unless it's also a Fitbit, or shows they text messages, calendar etc (eg Apple Watch).

@MrsFin - No watches are not 'so yesterday'. I would much rather have a beautiful timepiece on my wrist than a flimsy bit of plastic telling me off for not walking far enough or eating too much, and I certainly don't want messages or a calendar on my wrist either!

If you want it - go for it. I would!!

Those that have said about worrying they would damage it, don't worry! They are indestructible, it's the only watch I haven't managed to break.

Servicing is £500 but I don't do mine every year.

We add ours onto our home insurance and it's not a fortune to insure either.

Dh and I have separate savings, he wouldn't comment on what I buy and vice versa.

tucks 4K watch under my sleeve

It is all relative to how much you earn and how much disposable income you have, it sounds like you have the money. If I am honest it shocks me how much people spend on holidays at least the Rolex has a great resale value.

Do it.

I spent twice that on my dream horse who then went chronically lame and is now a lovely field ornament

There are days when I wish he was a watch

@SoddingWeddings

I'm with your husband that it's an insane amount of money for a watch, however..... I am wearing a £2000 diamond ring that doesn’t tell the time so 🤔🤷🏼‍♀️

Exactly! If you see it as a piece of Jewellery then plenty of women think that’s a perfectly reasonable amount to spend - just look at some of the engagement ring threads. Obviously there’s also plenty of women wearing a £200 engagement ring and loving it, but if you have the money and it would bring you as much joy as a holiday but more sustained then go for it! Your money your choice

@scully29

My goodness mumsnet is another planet I had literally no idea a watch could cost so much.

You’ve led a sheltered life!

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Not a waste of money if it’s what you want OP, I have nice watches as I’ve worn a watch everyday of my life since I was a small child.
It’s the one thing that never comes off, not even in the shower.
When I’ve worked out how much I’d spend on cheaper watches 400/500 a time over the years ( they break, batteries, straps and boredom) it works out that they are worth the money!

Impossible to tell without knowing what % of income that £6k is. In my opinion watch has 0 value so I wouldn’t even spend £100, but you are not me.

I've got one. Had it for 15 years now. I adore it. If you have the money,
It isn't going to inconvenience your husband financially, and want it then I don't see the issue.

I was about to say if you have the money sitting around and really can't think of anything better to do with it you might as well, but...this would be a life changing amount of money for some people. Do you really want to spaff it away on a way to tell the time? I'd be afraid to wear something like that out of the house anyway.