DH says I’m ridiculous for wanting to spend this amount of money on a watch, who is BU?

[Halowinslet]

I’ve been lusting after a Rolex datejust for as long as I can remember, but have always stopped myself from buying because there has always been something more ‘sensible’ to do with the money, like keeping it in savings or spending money on an experience like a holiday. This year I’ve been feeling pretty low what with the current situation and there’s no way I’ll be able to go on holiday this year as I’m vulnerable health wise.

Announced to DH this morning that I’m thinking about treating myself to a nice pre owned Rolex (£6k) on the basis that it’s what I’d usually spend on holidays in a year anyway and they hold their value pretty well, in the event that I ever wanted/needed to sell.

DH thinks I’m being absolutely ridiculous spending such a large amount of money on a watch and now I’m wondering whether I’m having a moment of madness. I should point out that the funds would be coming from my own pot of money, rather than joint.

@CliftonGreenYork

Quality watches generally hold value or increase. I would buy it if you want to as good investment.

Very true. My DH sold a Rolex recently for more than he paid.

I don’t care for designer anything and the astronomical amounts they can charged (and people pay)

I agree that you get what you pay for, however there’s a limit where it’s becomes irrelevant. If I pay £300 for a sofa, I wouldn’t expect it to last as long as I would had I paid (£3000)

I wouldn’t want anything designer as I just feel it’s used as a way of flaunting your wealth and can become tacky.

That said, not everyone is like me. Some love designer so that’s fine too. YANBU if it’s your money

Get it! It was fun money anyway. If you regret it later on, to can always sell it!

The Argos watch is a cheap copy of the Rolex.

Zirconia and Diamonds are the same thing right?

@Verv

The Argos watch is a cheap copy of the Rolex.

Zirconia and Diamonds are the same thing right?

I was being quite tongue in cheek about the whole thing. I know they are made of different materials and under different circumstances.

I specifically said though that designer items are lost on me, as they are, to me, the same. I dont rate diamonds (or CZ either in fairness) and labels. To me it is what it looks like. And they both look meh. And v v similar.

Yanbu. If you want the watch, get the watch.

*I (I’m sure a lot of women do) wear 4K worth of wedding and engagement rings every day and don’t think of the money spent on them as a waste because I love them and get a lot of wear out of them.8

Wedding/engagement rings have symbolic and sentimental value.

Watches can have symbolic and sentimental value!!!

Yes they can, but not so much if you buy them for yourself as investments. As opposed to inheriting/being given one for a special birthday. My day to day watch is a Radley which I bought on a flight back from a holiday. I love wearing it because it reminds me of that holiday.

Wedding/engagement rings have symbolic and sentimental value.

So can anything my Rolex was a wedding present from my husband!

I wouldn't, personally, because I don't give a flying flip about watches and could think of a million things I'd rather do with that kind of money, but if it's what you want to do with your own money, that's your business. I'd just be very sure that I could afford it without putting undue strain on finances in case of an emergency.

I've never really been into 'stuff' like expensive watches, although I do like looking at sparkling things like diamonds, I wouldn't want to spend my money on them.
I am more the type of person happier in the middle of a field or a forest, so I don't really understand why someone would want to own a watch worth that amount of money unless they trade them as investments.
Could I ask, OP, why you want it?

6k for a watch seems a lot of money however I’m wearing 3k worth of diamonds on my fingers so I can’t really comment! 😂😂

Your money, your choice!

Sentimental value’s a different ball game. My most cherished piece of jewellery which I never take off is my mum’s wedding ring. I doubt it’s worth anything much although it’s 22 carat gold.

The other thing about engagement and wedding rings is they’re like cars, they depreciate massively the moment they leave the shop. They’re definitely not an investment.

FFS

Still can't get over a pp having 3 watches that cost a fortune, not just 1, I'm rendered too speechless to comment on the holidays, I can't get past the watches.
Why is it making you feel like that? Surely you realise different strokes for different folks people have very different financial options.
I'm wc working living week to week and it wouldn't shock or trouble me how people spend their money or the amount they spend.

I was responding to the poster who asked "Why is no one batting an eyelid about a 6k holiday?"

I have a Cartier. Love it. Wear it all the time. It’ll never date and if I ever have a daughter she’ll have it after me. I’m thinking Rolex next. DH is eyeing up a Breitling.

Can’t stand cheap and ‘fake’ jewellery tbf though but lots of people happily wear it. Swiss watches are a bit of everyday luxury and they’re amazing craftsmanship is fascinating.

Each to their own. You do you. Buy the watch.

Try it on first though because I was surprised by which shapes/sizes I liked and which I didn’t once i had some on my wrist.

People will tell you they don’t ‘get’ watches or whatever but they do get liking things surely. I wouldn’t spend whatever amounts people spend on a season ticket for Man U, especially as you seem to be paying for a fair bit of misery but people don’t get half as het up about something like that.

@Halowinslet

Stealth boast alert!

Oh for goodness sake, really? I’m posting online anonymously to ask for opinions on buying a watch which costs far less than most MNers would spend on a car or family holiday, hardly a stealth boast 🙄

Who spends £6k on a holiday?!?!?

Well it's your money, you can do with it as you like, so YANBU in that regard

YABU though if you're upset that your husband doesn't agree with you. He shouldn't intervene...but he is allowed to have his own private thoughts about it and think its ridiculous. I think if my DP wanted to buy a £6k watch, obviously it's his choice, but it would affect how I see him a bit and make me realise we have very different approaches to 'value' (not that it's a deal breaker...but it helps to be aligned on what you view as important/treats- for example, I don't think I could ever fully understand the desire for your treat and would way rather spend it on a holiday or experience. Everyone is different)

Personally I wouldn't, but you can spend your money on whatever you want to.

It's 6k on HOLIDAYS . Different people's choices . I wouldn't spend that on a watch but love diamonds .

If it will make you happy and you can afford it, go for it. And it will keep some of its value, so is arguably a more sensible buy than a holiday.

I've been reminded three times in quick succession lately that life is very short, it can end at any time. As long as you're not hurting anyone you should indulge your passions. You've wanted this for as long as you can remember - so get it. I'd make a special day of it too. And don't let anyone be a fun-sponge. Get the arguments fully quashed before you go ahead.

And Swiss watches aren’t just any old designer thing either. It’s not like buying a designer T-shirt or whatever where the mark-up is so ridiculously massive and it was probably made by slaves.

Its more akin to buying a Birkin or Kelly.

It’s your money to do what you want with . If you are not in debt & can afford it then why not ?

Personally 6k on a watch is a nope for me . But I spent 8k on a two week holiday to Hawaii ( pre Covid ) that I’m sure others would say absolutely no to .